Ndezve narcissistic here kana kuzviremekedza kwepamusoro? Zvichida kana iwe uchiziva mumwe munhu ane hunhu hwekuzvibata iwe wakazvibvunza iwe uyu mubvunzo pane imwe nguva. Kunyangwe vanhu vane hunhu hwehunhu hunogona kuvhiringidzika ... Kunyangwe paine zvimwe zviratidzo zvinogona kuita kuti zvive nyore kwazvo kukuziva iwe. Hunhu hwevanhu hune udyire nguva nenguva, asi munhu anonyanyisa anogona kuzvitora zvakanyanya.
Ivo havakoshese manzwiro evamwe vanhu uye mazano uye vanofuratira izvo zvisiri zvavo. Kana iwe uine narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana, isu takatarisana nehurwere hwepfungwa, chimwe chinhu chakasiyana nekuve nehunhu hwehunhu, kupfuura izvi, zvinogona kuve zvakajairika munharaunda ... kunyangwe musiyano uripo pakati pehunhu hunhu uye kusagadzikana kwehunhu, iyo inofanirwa kuongororwa neyanyanzvi vehutano hwepfungwa.
Izwi rekuti "narcissist" rinobva mungano yechiGiriki mairi Narcissus, murume akanaka jaya, anoona kuratidzika kwake mutsime ndokudonha murudo naye. Akanyura mukutarisa mufananidzo wake uye akapedzisira azvikanda mumvura. Kwakawira mutumbi, ruva rakanaka rakakura iro rakapa zita kune ruva reNarcissus mukuremekedza ndangariro yejaya iri.
Chii
Vanhu vane hunhu hunhu vanogona kuve nenzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu hwavo dzakakanganiswa. Ivo vane huturu hunhu mhando uye vanokanganisa zvakashata pane yavo padhuze nharaunda. Ivo havakwanisi kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka nevamwe vanhu uye vanogona kutova nezvinetso kuenda kumberi nekuti ivo havagone kunzwira tsitsi vamwe kana kuziva kwavo kutadza nekukanganisa. Ichi chirwere chinogona kurapwa uye nekufamba kwenguva, zvinokuvadza zvinogona kurapwa.
Unhu hweNarcissistic kusagadzikana inzira inogara kwenguva refu yechiitiko chemukati uye hunhu hunoratidzwa nekuzvifunga, kushaya tsitsi, uye pfungwa yekuwedzeredza yekuzvikoshesa. Sezvo nekumwe kusagadzikana kwehunhu, kusagadzikana uku kune maitiro anogara kwenguva refu uye anoramba achingobata zvakashata munzvimbo zhinji dzehupenyu, kusanganisira zvemagariro, zvemhuri uye zvehukama hwehukama.
Hunhu hwayo hukuru ndewekuti vanhu ava vanonzwa vakakura pamberi pevamwe, havana tsitsi kune vanhu uye vane chishuwo chikuru chekuyemura nguva dzose. Vanhu vanogona kukuona iwe semunhu anozvitutumadza, anozvifunga, anozvitutumadza uye anozvimanikidza pachako asi pamusoro pezvose, nevamwe. Zvakare vanogona kunge vane fungidziro dzakakura uye vanotenda kuti vanokodzera kurapwa kwakasiyana kubva kune wese munhu.
Dambudziko iri rinowanzotanga mumakore ekupedzisira ekuyaruka kana kuyaruka kwevechidiki. Maitiro anoonekwa munzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu hwemunhu ane narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana. Vanhu ava vanofunga kuti vakakosha uye vari nani pane vamwe. Vanoedza kukwiza mapendekete nevanhu vavanofunga kuti vakasarudzika kana kukodzera kutarisirwa kwavo neimwe nzira ... vamwe vanhu, vanongozvidza.
Usavhiringidze kuve muNacisist nekuzvidzora kwakakwirira
Kunyangwe vanhu vazhinji pakutanga vachitenda kuti idzi mhando dzevanhu vane kuzvitutumadza kwakanyanya, zvakafanira kuti usazvivhiringidze izvi nekuti muchokwadi ... kuzviremekedza kwavo kwakasimba. Muchokwadi, ivo vanofanirwa kunzwa kunyangwe kuyemurwa kwehutachiona uye kutarisirwa kwevamwe, nekungonzwa (nenzira ine chepfu) kuti vanoongwa nevamwe.
Kana vaine matambudziko nekuzviremekedza kwavo, vanowanzove nematambudziko ekugamuchira kushoropodzwa, kukanganisa kana kurasikirwa. Ivo vanonzwa vachinyadziswa kana izvi zvikaitika uye pamoyo vasina chinhu. Ivo vanobva vanzwa kurambwa nevamwe, uye izvi zvinovanyudza pamoyo kunyangwe vakaedza kuratidza zvinopesana "pamberi pegalari." Asi zvakare pane zviitiko zvevanhu vane narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana uko vane kuzvitutumadza kwakakwirira mumativi ese, chinhu icho pasina mubvunzo chinogona kuwedzera kuwedzera zviratidzo zvechirwere.
Zvakare kusagadzikana uku hakufanirwe kuvhiringidzwa nekuzvidzora kwakakwirira. Vanhu vane kuzviremekedza kwepamusoro vanogona kuve netsitsi uye nekuzvininipisa, kune rimwe divi, munhu ane chirwere ichi achashaiwa aya mafungire akanaka.
Zviratidzo
Narcissism izwi rinoshandiswa kureva vanhu vanongozvifunga ivo uye kwete zvevamwe, vanozvida ivo kwavanouya pakutanga. Izvo zvinodikanwa kusiyanisa, sezvatakanongedza pamusoro pamusoro pehunhu hunhu uye kusagadzikana kwehunhu. Semuenzaniso, hunhu hwehunhu hunogona kuve hwakajairika panguva yekuyaruka, asi izvi hazvireve hazvo kuti iye achiri kuyaruka anozoita kusagadzikana kuzere mune ramangwana. Zvimwe zviratidzo zve narcissistic hunhu kusagadzikana zvinosanganisira:
- Kuwedzeredza pfungwa yemunhu kugona uye kubudirira
- Nguva dzose kuda kwekucherechedzwa, kusimbiswa, uye kurumbidzwa kubva kune vamwe
- Kutenda nezvake / iye kuti iye / iye akasiyana uye akakosha pasirese
- Funga kuti iwe unogona chete kuenderana nevanhu veiyo imwecheteyo "chinzvimbo"
- Kufungidzira kwakajairika nezve kugona, kubudirira, uye simba
- Kushandisa, kushandisa zvisirizvo uye kutora mukana wevamwe vanhu kungoitira wega
- Kunyanyisa kubatikana nekuve nesimba uye kubudirira
- Unoitira vamwe godo uye unotenda kuti vamwe vanegodo newe
- Kusava netsitsi kune vamwe
Kuongororwa uye kurapwa
Kuzivikanwa kwepamutemo kunogona kuitwa chete nehunyanzvi hwehutano hwepfungwa uye hunoda kuti munhu aratidze kukanganisika muhunhu hunoshanda munzvimbo dzakasiyana siyana, kusanganisira kuona pfungwa yakakura yekuzvikoshesa, pamwe nezvinetso zvevamwe mukutsvaga kwekutarisirwa, kunzwirwa tsitsi uye kudanana.
Kushaikwa kwehunhu mashandiro uye kuratidzwa kwehunhu hunhu zvakare kunofanirwa kugadzikana nekufamba kwenguva uye mumamiriro akasiyana, havafanirwe kuve akajairwa kutsika, nharaunda kana nhanho yekusimudzira yemunhu, uye Izvo hazvifanire kunge zvichikonzerwa nemhedzisiro yakanangana nekushandisa kwezvinhu kana huwandu hwehutano mamiriro.
Nezve kurapa, yega psychotherapy inogona kushandiswa kunyangwe maitiro acho achiwanzo kuoma uye akareba nekuda kwehunhu hwemunhu. Izvo zvakakosha kuti uzive kuti vanhu vane chirwere ichi havawanzo tsvaga kurapwa. Vanhu kazhinji vanotanga kurapwa pakurudziro yenhengo dzemhuri kana kurapa zviratidzo zvinokonzerwa nekusagadzikana, senge kushushikana.
Kufungisisa kwehunhu hwekurapa kunowanzo shanda mukubatsira vanhu vane chirwere ichi kuchinja maitiro anoparadza ekufunga uye maitiro Chinangwa chekurapa ndechekushandura pfungwa dzakatsauka uye nekugadzira iyo chaiyo inozvimiririra. Mishonga kazhinji haishande pakuchinja kwenguva refu, asi Ivo dzimwe nguva anoshandiswa kurapa zviratidzo zvekushushikana kana kushushikana.