Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo yingxaki eqhelekileyo kuluntu lwethu, yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kangaka ukwazi ukuba yintoni na kwaye ukoyisa njani. Kwimeko yokungayenzi, imiphumo ebomini inokuba mibi kakhulu ivelisa iingxaki ezinzulu kumntu obandezelekileyo. Ukuba ungumntu okufumana kunzima ukuzenzela izigqibo kwaye ofuna ukuvunywa rhoqo ngabanye, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive uchongiwe ngale migca ilandelayo.
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo akwenzeki kuphela kubudlelwane, kuyenzeka nakubahlobo, kusapho, kubantu osebenza nabo, njl. Xa ufuna inkxaso rhoqo evela kwabanye abantu Nokuba ungubani na kuqala, sisenokuthi sithetha ngokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kukuphazamiseka kobuntu okwaziwa njengengxaki yobuntu obuxhalabileyo. Umntu ohluphekayo uziva ebuthathaka kwaye engenamandla ebusweni beemeko zobomi, bangabantu abathobekileyo, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, abakwazi ukuzinyamekela.
Banoloyiko olunzulu lokulahlwa, ukwaliwa ... ke baya kuhlala bebambelele komnye umntu ngokugqithisileyo, Awuyi kuyazi indlela yokumisela imida enempilo kubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu.
Eminye imiqondiso enokwenza kucace ukuba ungumntu oxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo zezi zilandelayo:
- Kufuneka uve kwabanye, iingcebiso zabo, kwaye ude ubacele bakwenzele izigqibo.
- Ufuna uncedo lwabanye ukuze uphumeze uxanduva lwakho.
- Uyoyika ukuwela abanye abantu ukuba bayakwala.
- Awunakukwazi ukwenza izigqibo zakho okanye uqale iiprojekthi ngaphandle kokuba abanye bakuvume kuqala.
- Ufuna inyameko nenkxaso yabanye ngokugqithisileyo.
- Uyakwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo sokuzithoba phantsi kweemeko ezithobileyo okanye zokuphathwa kakubi kuphela ngenxa yokoyika ukwaliwa okanye ukulahlwa.
- Uziva ubuthathaka kwaye ungenakuzinceda xa uwedwa.
- Xa uphelisa ubuhlobo nomntu omnye, ufuna ngamandla isiqalo somnye, umzekelo, kubudlelwane.
- Unexhala ngokungekho ngqiqweni malunga neemeko ezahlukeneyo (ezingekenzeki) ukuba ushiywe wedwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu oxhomekeke ngokwasemoyeni kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukumbona xa ekwazi ukwenza izigqibo kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla kwaye asebenze kakuhle njengeengcali, kodwa baziva bexhalabile okanye bengakhuselekanga xa kukho umntu ongabafuniyo okanye ebagatya.
Abayazi indlela yokufumana ulungelelwano phakathi kokusondelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuzimela. Baxhomekeke kwabanye abantu ukuba bahlangabezane nazo zonke iimfuno zabo zeemvakalelo. Baziva benexhala lokwahlukana xa bengekho phakathi kwabo baxhomekeke kubo. Ngabantu abangakhuselekanga abanoloyiko olukhulu lokuphulukana nabo basondeleyo kubo.
Oku kuya kuchaphazela ngokunzulu ulonwabo lomntu kuba abayi kuba nako ukuba sempilweni ukuba akunjalo ngabanye abantu. Oku kuya kubangela ukuba ube namanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba, kukwenza uzive usengozini kwaye ungenakuzinceda.
Abantu abanokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo bazama ukugcina ulawulo lwangaphakathi lwabo ukukholisa abanye, into eyonakalisayo. Ngokungazi uzama ukulawula abanye ukuba babe ziilaki zakho. Banyanzela abanye ukuba baziphathe ngendlela ethile ukuze balunge, abakhathali ukuya kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu ukuze bafezekise oko, njengokuxhatshazwa okanye ukukhohlisa.
Ukuxhomekeka
Abantu abaxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo badla ngokuba nobudlelwane obuzimeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo enye yezi zimbini yinxalenye eyongameleyo kunye nendlongondlongo kwaye enye inxalenye, ezithobayo kunye nokukhathala. Zombini zinxulunyaniswa yityhefu kakhulu kwaye iyingozi ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwindibaniselwano ngokweemvakalelo.
Oku kuya kuphelela kubomi obungonwabanga ngokupheleleyo, kunye nokuxhatshazwa, ukulawulwa kunye nobudlelwane obuyityhefu ekugqibeleni. Oku kunokwenzeka kwizibini, iintsapho, abahlobo, oogxa ... Ngokuqhelekileyo i-codependency iyenzeka xa ezakho iimfuno zingahoywanga ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomnye.
Ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo, iimfuno zomntu ngokweemvakalelo azihoywa ukuze abeke kuqala iimvakalelo zomnye umntu. Nokuba oku kuthetha ukurhoxiswa okanye ukunyamezela iimeko eziyityhefu.
Indlela yokoyisa ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
Asingomsebenzi olula kodwa awunakwenzeka. Yingxaki enokubangela ixhala kunye neemvakalelo zokungasebenzi kakuhle kobomi. Kukho iindlela zokujongana nale ngxaki kwakunye neziphumo ezibangela oko. Ezinye zeendlela zokoyiswa ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo zezi zilandelayo:
Funa uncedo lweengcali
Inyathelo lokuqala xa uqaphela ukuba unokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo okungakuvumeli ukuba wonwabe njengoko ukufanele ngokwenene, kukufuna uncedo lwengcali. Baya kukunceda uqonde ukuba kutheni kwenzeka kuwe, oko Zezi zixhokonxa kunye nokulawula ukuphendula kwakho xa kusenzeka.
Uya kukwazi ukujongana nezizathu ezisisiseko kwaye usebenze nokungakhuseleki kwakho, ixhala, uxinzelelo, okanye uloyiko olungenangqondo. Sebenza ngamandla akho angaphakathi ukuze uqonde ukuba uyakwazi ukuphila ubomi obonwabisayo nobanelisayo.
Funda ukuba ngqongqo
Ukuzithemba kubalulekile ukuze ube nobudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwabantu. Uya kuba nezixhobo eziyimfuneko zokunxibelelana nabanye abantu ngokuzithemba kwaye ungabi nakubuphi na ubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo. Uya kukwazi ukumisela imida ecacileyo kwaye uya kuba nakho ukwamkela ezo zibekwe kuwe.
Ukuzithemba kunokuqondwa njengesichasi ngokuthe ngqo sokungeniswa. Ngayo unokuzihlonipha ngakumbi kunye nabanye.
Sebenza ingqondo yakho yeemvakalelo
Ukuba ungumntu one- ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo ezilungileyo uya kukwazi ukuqaphela iimvakalelo zakho kunye nezabanye. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze ukwazi ukuziqonda kwaye uzilawule xa kuyimfuneko.. Uya kukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ngokuba ngumntu ozithembayo ngakumbi.
Zikhathalele
Kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele kuqala phambi kwabanye. Ngale ndlela, ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo akuyi kuba yingxaki kuwe. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, sebenzela ekubeni novelwano kunye nobulolo. Funda ukulunga ngokuba nawe kwaye uzinakekele ngaphandle koncedo lwamntu.
Xa uphuhlisa isakhono sokulunga kuphela nenkampani yakho uya kufumanisa ukuba kuya kuba lula ukuzenzela izigqibo kunye nokuzinyamekela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Kancinci kancinci uya kuqalisa ukuziva ungcono kwaye uqonde ukuba ukuba uhamba kuqala ebomini bakho, uya kuziva ulungile ngawe kunye nehlabathi liphela.