Ukuba nomntu phambi kwakho kwaye ungabi nesihloko sencoko yenye yezona mvakalelo zinzima kwaye zinzima ukuthatha kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Nokuba ngumntu okutsalayo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngumntu nje ofuna ukuthetha naye. Kubalulekile ukuba nezixhobo ezithile ukuze ube nesihloko sencoko.
Kubantu abaninzi kungumqobo ekukwazini ukuseka ubudlelwane nabanye abantu. Ekubeni, ukuba nomntu phambi kwakho kwaye engazi indlela yokuzisa isihloko sengxoxo akukhululekile, akunakuphikiswa. Ngokukodwa ukuba unomntu phambi kwakho okutsalayo, ofumana umdla kwaye ufuna ukumkholisa.
Ukuthula okungonwabanga okuzalisa umoya, okwenza ukuba uphinde izijekulo ezingenantsingiselo kwaye usasazeke kumntu ophambi kwakho. Into enokuba yingxaki ukuhlalisana, kuba kwezo ncoko zisileleyo ukuzithemba kuya kuncipha kancinci kancinci.
Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kuwe kakhulu kwaye unengxaki yokungena kwiincoko, ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda. Izixhobo kunye nezixhobo onokufunda ngazo ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Amaqhinga okuzisa izihloko zencoko kwaye wonwabele iintetho umdla ngokwenene nalo naluphi na uhlobo lomntu ekufuneka ujongane nayo.
Musa ukukhangela nawuphi na umxholo wencoko
Unokucinga ukuba ezinye izihloko azinamdla kwaye udala uluhlu oluthintelweyo. Into ngokungathandabuzekiyo inciphisa amathuba akho, kuba kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka nangawuphi na umzuzu incoko enkulu inokuvela kwinto engabalulekanga ngokwenene. Ukuba nomdla ngakumbi ayikokukwazi ukuthetha ngemiba yenkcubeko, kuphela.
Ukukwazi ukuqhubeka nencoko ngawo nawuphi na umbandela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubonakala kungenangqiqo kangakanani na, kuko okunokwenza umahluko. Kuba awusoze wazi ukuba omnye umntu uthanda ntoni kwaye yiyo loo nto ungaze ujongele phantsi nasiphi na isihloko sencoko. Sukubala nasiphi na isihloko sencoko, ngaphandle kokuba inokuba yimpikiswano egqithisileyo. Kuphela ngolu luhlu lwakho lwezihloko luphindaphindeka ngokukhawuleza.
Fumana ingongoma efanayo
Incoko inokukruqula ngokupheleleyo xa kungekho mdla kwabelwana ngawo. Kuze kube eso sihloko sijika iitafile, inqaku eliqhelekileyo elikunceda ukuba ugcine incoko enokuba nomdla kuni nobabini ifike. Undoqo kukujongana nezihloko ezininzi, Thetha ngezinto onomdla kuzo, izinto ozithandayo, umculo owuthandayo. Mhlawumbi ngaxa lithile kufika umdla oqhelekileyo uze uguqule intetho ibe yincoko ebangel’ umdla.
Gcina ingqondo evulekileyo kwizinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa
Ngamanye amaxesha akulula ukufumana into efanayo, kuba wonke umntu uthanda izinto ezahlukeneyo. Kwimeko enjalo, ngaphambi kokuba unikezele, unokubonisa umdla koko bakuchazayo ngendlela elula. Ukuba omnye umntu unomdla kwiimoto, umzekelo, kunye uthetha nawe malunga namagama amaninzi ongawaziyo, Faka ibinzana ukuguqula incoko.
Endaweni yokumyeka athethe ngaphandle kokumamela into abayithethayo, ncama kwaye ucinge ngendlela yokuphuma kuloo ntlanganiso, makwazeke ukuba awunalwazi ngeemoto, kodwa ungathanda ukwazi okungakumbi malunga neentlobo zamafutha. , umzekelo. Ngale ndlela, iqabane lakho lifumanisa ukuba unomdla kuye, nokuba awukhathali nokuba uthetha ngantoni.
Yazisa imibuzo evulelekileyo kwaye ihlala ilungile
Mhlawumbi i-interlocutor yakho inengxaki enkulu yokubamba incoko kunawe, nto leyo ikwenza ucinge ngakumbi. Ukwenza incoko, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa imibuzo evulelekileyo neyakhayo, ekhokelela kwimpendulo ecacileyo. Endaweni yokubuza ukuba uyayithanda iSushi, impendulo yakhe inguewe okanye hayi, buza ukuba iyakuthanda na ukutya okuvela kwamanye amazwe.
Ngolo tshintsho lufihlakeleyo, uya kuba udala incoko malunga nokutya okunokukhokelela kwezinye izihloko ezininzi. Ukutya yinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi, ekubeni uninzi lwabo luyakuthanda ukutya yaye oko kuyimfuneko. Ngoko khangela ixesha kwaye ungaphoswa lithuba.
Imiba yeemvakalelo
Xa uzama ukwakha ubuhlobo obusenyongweni nomnye umntu, kubalulekile ukukhetha umxholo ofanelekileyo wencoko. Kwakunye nokwazi indlela yokufumanisa ixesha lokudlulela kwimiba yobuqu eyongezelelekileyo. Imiba yeemvakalelo eyenza uvakalelo olwakhayo Basenokukukhokelela ekubeni ube nolwalamano olusenyongweni.
Ngoko ukuba ixesha liyafika kwaye iimeko ziyavuma, yazisa imixholo engokweemvakalelo njengentsapho, ukuzonwabisa, uhambo, nobuntwana. Le yinto eyaziwa ngokuba yi-FAVI, izihloko zencoko ezikhokelela ukuba uvakalise iimvakalelo zakho, amaphupha akho kunye namava. Yintoni ekuvumela ukuba ube namaqhina nomntu oncokola naye, ngendlela eyenza unxibelelwano ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwabo babini.
Phendula, nokuba abakubuzi
Abantu abaninzi bathetha ngokunyanzelisayo, oku kudla ngokuba ngumbandela woloyiko. Oku kubangela ukuba isihloko esinokuthi sibe yincoko enkulu, sibe yintetho eyodwa apho kungenelele umntu omnye kuphela. Unokuyiphepha ngokulula, sukucinga ukuba uza kuba ngumntu ongowakho, imalunga nokungenelela kwincoko kuphela.
Thatha ithuba lokubalisa i-anecdote ngawe. Xa ilithuba lakho lokuthetha, ziphephe izivakalisi ezifutshane nezivaliweyo ezikhokelela ekupheleni kwencoko. Ukuba uthetha ngokutya, endaweni yokuthi uyayithanda iSushi, xelela i-anecdote. Thetha ngevenkile yokutyela yaseJapan oyithandayo, Unexesha elingakanani uhamba? Ukusuka apho, umhla olandelayo unokuphuma apho unokutyelela loo ndawo eninomdla kuyo nobabini.
Lumkela ulwimi lomzimba
Into oyithethayo ibalulekile, ngakumbi indlela oyithetha ngayo kunye nendlela umzimba wakho oyichaza ngayo xa uyithetha. Nokuba uthetha kangakanani, nokuba inomdla kangakanani incoko yakho, Ukuba imbonakalo yomzimba wakho ayihambi nayo, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuseka ubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Umzimba wakho uthetha ngawe, amehlo akho, izandla zakho, indawo yomzimba wakho.
Ukuziqhelanisa sisitshixo sempumelelo, yonwabele ukuba kunye nabanye abantu kwaye kancinci kancinci uya kulufumana uyolo lokuba neencoko kuwo nawuphi na umbandela.