Kuyini ukuncika ngokomzwelo

Umbhangqwana oncike ngokomzwelo

Ukuncika ngokomzwelo kuyinkinga evamile emphakathini wethu, yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi kuyini nokuthi ungayinqoba kanjani. Uma ungakwenzi, imiphumela empilweni ingaba mibi kakhulu edala izinkinga ezinkulu kumuntu ohluphekayo. Uma ungumuntu okuthola kunzima ukuzithathela izinqumo futhi odinga ukuvunyelwa njalo ngabanye, kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwe uhlotshaniswa nemigqa elandelayo.

Ukuncika ngokomzwelo akwenzeki kuphela ebudlelwaneni, kungenzeka nakubangane, umndeni, osebenza nabo, njll. Lapho udinga ukwesekwa njalo kwabanye abantu Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungubani kuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi sikhuluma ngokuncika kwemizwa ye-pathological.

Ithini incazelo yokuncika ngokomzwelo

Ukuncika ngokomzwelo wukuphazamiseka kobuntu okwaziwa ngokuthi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obukhathazekile. Umuntu ohlushwa yikho uzizwa ebuthakathaka futhi engenamandla lapho ebhekene nezimo zokuphila, bangabantu abazithobayo, futhi ezikhathini eziningi, abakwazi ukuzinakekela.

Banokwesaba okujulile kokulahlwa, ukwenqatshwa ... ngakho-ke bayohlala benamathele komunye umuntu ngokweqile, Ngeke wazi ukuthi ungasetha kanjani imingcele enempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho nabanye abantu.

Ezinye zezimpawu ezingakucacisa ukuthi ungumuntu oncike emoyeni yilezi ezilandelayo:

  • Udinga ukuzwa kwabanye, izeluleko zabo, futhi uze ubacele bakwenzele izinqumo.
  • Udinga usizo lwabanye ukuze ufeze izibopho zakho.
  • Uyasaba ukucasulwa ngabanye abantu uma bekwala.
  • Awukwazi ukwenza izinqumo zakho noma uqale amaphrojekthi ngaphandle kokuthi abanye bakugunyaze kuqala.
  • Udinga ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa abanye ngokweqile.
  • Uyakwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo sokuzithoba lapho ubhekene nezimo ezilulazayo noma zokuphathwa kabi kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukwaliwa noma ukulahlwa.
  • Uzizwa usengozini futhi ungenakuzisiza lapho uwedwa.
  • Uma uqeda ubuhlobo nomuntu oyedwa, ufuna ngokujulile isiqalo somunye, isibonelo, ebuhlotsheni.
  • Ukhathazeka ngokungenangqondo ngezimo ezihlukene (okungenzekanga) uma ushiywe wedwa.

Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu oncike emoyeni kungaba nzima kakhulu ukubona lapho ekwazi ukwenza izinqumo empilweni yakhe yansuku zonke futhi esebenza kahle njengochwepheshe, kodwa bazizwa benokukhathazeka okukhulu noma ukungazethembi lapho othile ebaphika noma ebalahla.

I-Candando efanekisela ukuncika ngokomzwelo

Abazi ukuthi bangakuthola kanjani ukulingana phakathi kokusondelana ngokomzwelo nokuzimela. Bathembele kwabanye abantu ukuze bahlangabezane nazo zonke izidingo zabo ezingokomzwelo. Bazizwa benokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana lapho bengekho eduze kwalabo abathembele kubo. Bangabantu abangavikelekile abanovalo olukhulu lokulahlekelwa abasondelene nabo.

Lokhu kuzothinta kakhulu injabulo yomuntu njengoba engeke akwazi ukuba nenhlalakahle uma kungenjalo ngabanye abantu. Lokhu kuzokubangela amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, kukwenze uzizwe usengozini futhi ungenakuzisiza.

Abantu abathembele ngokomzwelo bazama ukugcina ukulawula ingaphakathi labo ukujabulisa abanye, into elimaza kakhulu. Ngokungazi uzama ukulawula abanye ukuthi babe ama-lackeys akho. Baphoqa abanye ukuthi baziphathe ngendlela ethile ukuze balunge, abanankinga nokuya ezimeni ezimbi kakhulu ukuze bakufinyelele, njengokuhlukumeza noma ukuxhaphaza.

Ukuzimela

Abantu abathembele ngokomzwelo bavame ukuba nobudlelwano obuncikene. Imvamisa okukodwa kwalokhu okubili kuba yingxenye ebusayo nenolaka kanti enye ingxenye, ezithobayo nenokunethezeka. Kokubili kuhlotshaniswa nokuncika ngokomzwelo okunobuthi kakhulu futhi okuyingozi enhlalakahleni yomzwelo ehlangene.

Lokhu kuzophela empilweni engajabulisi neze, ngokuhlukunyezwa, ukuxhashazwa kanye nobudlelwano obunobuthi ekugcineni. Lokhu kungenzeka emibhangqwaneni, imindeni, abangani, ozakwabo ... Ngokuvamile i-codependency iyenzeka lapho izidingo zakho siqu zinganakiwe ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomunye.

Ekuncikeni ngokomzwelo, izidingo zomuntu ezingokomzwelo azinakwa ukuze abeke kuqala imizwelo yomunye umuntu. Ngisho noma lokhu kusho ukukhansela noma ukubekezelela izimo ezinobuthi.

Ungakunqoba kanjani ukuncika ngokomzwelo

Akuwona umsebenzi olula kodwa akunakwenzeka. Kuyinkinga engakubangela ukukhathazeka nemizwa yokungasebenzi kahle kwempilo. Kunezindlela zokubhekana nenkinga kanye nemiphumela ebangela lokho. Ezinye zezindlela okunganqotshwa ngazo ukuncika emoyeni yilezi ezilandelayo:

Funa usizo lochwepheshe

Isinyathelo sokuqala lapho uqaphela ukuthi unokuncika ngokomzwelo okungakuvumeli ukuba ujabule njengoba ukufanele ngempela, ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Bazokusiza uqonde ukuthi kungani kwenzeka kuwe, okuyinto Ziyizibangeli kanye nokulawula ukusabela kwakho lapho kwenzeka.

Uzokwazi ukubhekana nezimbangela eziyisisekelo futhi usebenze nokungazethembi kwakho, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, noma ukwesaba okungenangqondo. Sebenza ngamandla akho angaphakathi ukuze ubone ukuthi uyakwazi ukuphila ukuphila okujabulisayo nokwanelisayo.

Uhlushwa ukuncika ngokomzwelo

Funda ukugomela

Ukugomela kubalulekile ukuze ube nobudlelwano obunempilo phakathi kwabantu. Uzoba namathuluzi adingekayo okuxhumana nabanye abantu ngokuzethemba futhi ungabi kunomabuphi ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo. Uzokwazi ukubeka imingcele ecacile futhi uzokwazi ukwamukela leyo ebekwe kuwe.

Ukugomela kungaqondwa njengokuphambene ngqo nokuzithoba. Ngayo ungazihlonipha kakhulu futhi uzihloniphe nabanye.

Sebenza ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa

Uma ungumuntu one- ukuhlakanipha okuhle kwemizwa uzokwazi ukubona imizwa yakho kanye neyabanye. Lokhu kuyadingeka ukuze ukwazi ukuwaqonda futhi uwaphathe uma kunesidingo.. Uzokwazi ukulawula ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo ngokuba umuntu ozethembayo.

Intombazane ehlushwa ukuncika ngokomzwelo

Nakekela

Kubalulekile ukuthi uzinakekele wena kuqala ngaphambi kwabanye. Ngale ndlela, ukuncika ngokomzwelo ngeke kube yinkinga kuwe. Uma kunesidingo, sebenzela ekuzihawukeleni kanye nesizungu. Funda ukulunga ngokuba nawe nokuzinakekela ngaphandle kosizo lwanoma ubani.

Lapho uthuthukisa ikhono lokuba muhle kuphela nenkampani yakho uzothola ukuthi kuzoba lula ukuzenzela izinqumo nokuzinakekela ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.

Kancane kancane uzoqala ukuzizwa ungcono futhi uqaphele ukuthi uma uhamba kuqala ekuphileni kwakho, uzozizwa ujabule ngawe kanye nomhlaba wonke.


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