Dwelisa awona mabinzana angcatshi

La ku tshutshiswa sisenzo ngawo umntu uyeka ukuthembeka kwinto ethile okanye komnye umntu, ukuze ibonakaliswe ngeendlela ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwinqanaba kunye nokuqhelaniswa nale felony. Emva koko siza kukubonisa enye Uluhlu olunamabinzana angcatshi, kodwa ngaphezulu kwako konke siya kuzama ukuqonda iifayile ze Ezona zinto zingathandwayo zihlala zenzeka kuluntu lwanamhlanje.

Iindidi zokungcatsha kuluntu lwanamhlanje

Ngokwenyani, kukho iintlobo ezininzi zokungcatsha ukuba kunganzima ukuzilungiselela zonke ukuze zikwazi ukugcina uluhlu, kodwa inyani kukuba kukho ezinye ezigqame ngaphezulu kwezinye ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, phakathi kwazo kunjalo Ubuninzi benziwa ngalo.

Eyona nto kugxilwe kuyo kukungcatsha ukungaziphathi kakuhle kwisizwe nokungaziphathi kakuhle kumntu ukuba ubeke ithemba lakho kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, ukusuka umbono wezomthethoKukuziphatha okungafanelekanga kuphela kwisizwe okuya kuba yinkcazo echanekileyo yokungcatsha umbuso.

Ngale ndlela, kuxhomekeke kwilizwe, siyakufumana iyantlukwano xa kufikwa kumba wokuwisa umthetho, kodwa ukuvukela okanye nokukhuthaza abantu besithathu ukuba Vuka ngokuchasene negunya likarhulumente, Kwaye ke iyelenqe nxamnye norhulumente kunye nokuzama ukubhukuqa.

Ukubulawa okanye ukuzama ukubulala abasemagunyeni bakarhulumente, ubunqolobi, ukucinga okanye ukuhambisa iingcinga kunye nemibono ngokuchasene nokulandelelana, intsebenziswano kunye nokudibana namazwe athathwa njengeentshaba zesizwe kunye nentsebenziswano okanye ukusebenzisana namanye amazwe ngexesha lemfazwe kuqhelekile iimeko ezininzi.

Zonke ezi ngcamango zinomlinganiso osemthethweni zijolise kubo bobabini abemi nakwezomkhosi nakwezopolitiko, ukuze, nanini na xa umthetho osekwe kunye nazo naziphi na iinjongo ezichazwe apha ngaphambili wophulwe, uyakuthathwa ngokusemthethweni njengongcatshi.

Ngaphezu koko, zikhona ezinye iintlobo zokungcatsha njengokubaleka ukuhlawula irhafu, kodwa ukungcatshwa jikelele kunokuhlala kujongwa ekuhlaleni ngokwembono apho sikhohlisa umntu othembele kuthi. Umzekelo olungileyo lilungu lesibini esikhohlisayo kwelinye ilungu elinomntu wesithathu, umntu okopela komnye ocela ulwazi ngenjongo kwaye aligqithe, kwaye ngokubanzi zonke iinkqubo apho umntu enza khona ngolunya, ukuzama ukuthatha ithuba lokukhohlisa komnye umntu.

Amabinzana aziwayo okungcatsha

Apha siza kukushiya ezinye amabinzana aziwayo okungcatsha ezinomlinganiso wentlalo kunye nokubaluleka okubalulekileyo ngenxa yeentlungu kunye nomonakalo onokubangelwa yile ndlela yokuziphatha.

• Ngamanye amaxesha umngcatshi uzenzakalisa ngaphezu kokungcatshwa.
• Ngamanye amaxesha ayisiyiyo into yokuba abantu bayatshintsha. Kungenxa yokuba imaski iyawa.
• Ngamanye amaxesha ukungcatsha ngexesha yeyona nto ilungileyo inokwenzeka kuwe ukuze uqonde ukuba uhamba ngendlela engalunganga.
• Into endiyifundileyo ebantwini: ukuba bayayenza kube kanye, baya kuyenza kwakhona.
• Abanye abantu bazimisele ukungcatsha iminyaka yobuhlobo ukuze bafumane nje imizuzu emihlanu yokuqwalaselwa.
• Abanye abantu abanyanisekanga kuwe, banyanisekile kwimfuno yabo kuwe. Nje ukuba iimfuno zakho zitshintshe, ngokunjalo nokunyaniseka kwakho.
• Ukungcatsha abanye akunakoyiswa.
• Ngamanye amaxesha wakha iindonga ukungagcini abantu ngaphandle, kodwa ukubona ukuba ngubani onesibindi sokuzidiliza.
• Ndiyakuthanda ukungcatshwa, kodwa ndiyakucaphukela ukungcatsha.
• Gungqisa umzimba kwaye uyakuphila, kodwa hlaba intliziyo kwaye inxeba liza kuhlala ixesha elide.
• Abo bangalaziyo ixabiso lokunyaniseka abanakuze bakwazi ukulixabisa ixabiso lokungcatshwa kwabo.
• Ngalo lonke ixesha umntu esenza into ukuze afumane okuninzi kuwe, kukungcatsha ukuthembela kwakho.
• Ukuthemba umntu sisigqibo sakho, ukubonisa ukuba ubunyanisile lukhetho lwabo.
• Okona uqhagamshelene nomntu, kokukhona iintlungu ziya kwenzeka xa ungcatshwa, kodwa kokukhona iintlungu zikhula, kokukhona kuya kufunda ngakumbi.
• Amadoda amabini angcatshwa ngumfazi omnye ahlobene noko.
• Ukugxeka kukungcatsha kwengqondo.
• Ezona ntlungu zigqithileyo emhlabeni ziya ngaphaya kokomzimba. Ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na enye intlungu enokuthi ivezwe. Kukungcatshwa komhlobo.
• Eyona mpazamo imbi inokwenziwa ngumntu kukungcatsha umfazi owayemlwele, owayekhona ngaye xa wayehamba nelona xesha libi ebomini bakhe.
• Olona hlobo lubi lweentlungu kukungcatshwa, kuba oko kuthetha ukuba umntu ebezimisele ukukwenzakalisa ukuze nje azive engcono.
• Inqaku yayikukufunda into esoyikeka kakhulu. Ukungaqondwa kakuhle okanye ukungcatshwa.
• Lowo wenza ukungcatshwa akasayi kuba nako ukumelana nokuyenza kwakhona.
• Lowo ufuna ukuba nguzwilakhe kwaye angambulali uBrutus kwaye ofuna ukuseka inkululeko kwaye angababulali abantwana bakaBrutus, uya kugcina umsebenzi wakhe ixesha elincinci.
• Umngcatshi uyaliwa kuqala ngabahlobo bakhe kunalowo ungcatshwayo.
• Kuhlalutyo lwengqondo lokungcatsha okukhulu uya kuhlala ufumanisa ukungabi nangqondo kukaYudas Skariyoti.
• Ndifundise umngcatshi kwaye ndiza kukubonisa ubomi obugcwele usizi kunye nokwaliwa.
• Kulula ukuphepha umkhonto, kodwa hayi ikrele elifihliweyo.
• Iyahlekisa into yokuba abona bantu bakukhathaze kakhulu ngabantu abafanayo abafunga ukuba soze.
• Iyahlekisa indlela aba bantu ubuzimisele ukuyithathela imbumbulu, abo bangasemva kwesitshixo.
• Kulula ukuxolela utshaba kunomhlobo.
• Kubangela iintloni ukungabathembi abahlobo bakho kunokuba ukhohliswe ngabo.
• Owona mzuzu udandathekisayo xa umntu engcatsha ukuthembela kwakho.
• Kukho amakhulu eendlela zokungcatsha, kodwa zonke zinesiphumo sokutshabalalisa ubuhlobo okanye ubudlelwane obabunzima ukwakha.
• Amabali ambalwa kakhulu ekufuneka exeliwe ekugqibeleni. Uthando kunye nokungcatshiswa yenye yezo zibali zilungileyo.
• Kukho iincukuthu kukuncuma kwabantu; ukusondela kwabo, igazi.
• Kuhlala kukho isifundo sobomi kuko konke ukungcatsha.
• Ukungcatshwa okuphezulu kunokuqondwa kuphela ngumntu lowo ungcatshiweyo, kuba nguye kuphela owazi ngokupheleleyo uhlobo lolwalamano olwaphulweyo.
• Ukungabi nambulelo kukungcatsha umntu.
• Inceba kukungcatsha.
• Ukungcatshwa kuchaphazela umngcatshi kangangokuba kumngcwaba ngesithsaba esimgubungeleyo yonke imihla yakhe.
• Ukungcatsha kuqala xa abantu bephula amalungelo abo.
• Ukungcatsha kukhokelela kwisilingo sobudenge, kuba umvuzo waso uphantsi ngokungapheliyo kunomvuzo wexesha elizayo owutshabalalisayo.
• Ukungcatsha kufana nedayimani; abarhwebi abancinci abananto yakwenza.
• Ukungcatsha kufana nekotyi yesoda; nje ukuba uyiphose kwindalo, kuthatha iminyaka ukuba yehle.
• Ukungcatsha ubukhulu becala ngumcimbi oqhelekileyo.
• Ukungcatsha kuchasene nokunyaniseka nokunyaniseka. Umngcatshi uhlala enendlela yokuziphatha eyahlukileyo, kodwa ukhetha eyona ilula; eyona ibenzakalisa abanye kakhulu.
• Ukungcatsha kunesidima kodwa umngcatshi unenzondo.
• Ukungcatsha yi-inki engacimekiyo yomngcatshi. Ngangoko ufuna ukuyifihla, zihlala zikhona.
• Ukungcatshwa kwindalo iphela kubantu abangenamigaqo.
• Ukungcatshwa kusetyenziswa kuphela ngabo bangakhange babuqonde ubuncwane obukhulu obunokuba ngumnini wesazela esinyanisekileyo nesinyulu.
• Ukungcatsha asilothuba lokungathembi abanye. Lithuba lokukhula njengomntu kwaye ukhethe ngcono abantu abakungqongileyo.
• Ukungcatsha akusoloko kulula ukuphatha, kwaye akukho ndlela eyiyo yokwamkela.
• Ubuqhophololo abusoze buphumelele, kuba ukuba ibenzile, akukho mntu uya kubabiza ngokuba kukungcatsha umbuso.
• Ukungcatsha kunokuhlala kuxolelwa, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuna ukuba uziqhelanise nomngcatshi.
• Ukungcatsha luphawu lokuqala olubi lomngcatshi; ilandelwa kukunganyaniseki, ukunganyaniseki kunye nokuchasana nokuhlala.
• Ubuqhophololo ligwala nobubi obenyanyekayo.
• Ubomi bunzima. Ukuphulukana nomntu kunzima. Kodwa ukuba intliziyo yakho ingcatshwe ngumntu obumthembile kuyakubulala ngaphakathi.
• Ubomi abukho ngokuba ngubani oyinyani ebusweni bakho, kodwa ngubani oyinyani ngasemva kwakho.

• Amagama awathethi nto xa uziphikisa ngezenzo zakho.
• Eyona nto ibuhlungu ngokungcatshwa kukuba ayiveli kwiintshaba zakho.
• Eyona nto yandicaphukisa kuyo yonke le meko yayikukuba ndandingaziva ndithotyiwe, okanye ndicaphukile, okanye ndikhohlisiwe. Ukungcatshwa yinto endandiyiva, intliziyo yam yaphukile kungekuphela ngumfana endandithandana naye, kodwa kwakanye ndakholelwa, umhlobo wokwenene.
• Abathandi banelungelo lokukungcatsha. Not abahlobo.
• Abo bavumela ukumkani ngokuzula ukuba abhadule bafanelekile ngabangcatshi.
• Ukungcatsha okungakumbi kwenziwa ngenxa yobuthathaka ngaphandle kwenjongo eqinileyo yokungcatsha.
• Undigwaze amawaka aliwaka emva koko wenza ngathi nguwe lo uphalayo. Okona kubi kakhulu kukuba, abantu bebekunceda ngelixesha ndopha ndaza ndafa.
• Uninzi lwazo, ukukholisa oozwilakhe, ngenxa yesuntswana leengqekembe, okanye ukunyoba okanye ukunyoba bayangcatsha baphalaze igazi labazalwana babo.
• Akukho nto ibuhlungu njengokungcatshwa ngulo mntu ucinga ukuba ngekhe akwenzakalise.
• Akukho sikhova sisoyikayo ebusuku, akukho nyoka yomgxobhozo, akukho nongcatshi.
• Akukho mntu usisilumko wakha wacinga ukuba umngcatshi unokuthenjwa.
• Asikokungcatsha umbuso ukuba uyaphumelela.
• Andikukhaleli, awuxabisekanga. Ndiyakhala kuba inkohliso yokuba ungubani wawa xa ndandizazi ukuba ungubani kanye kanye.
• Awudingi abantu abeza kuwe xa bafuna uncedo lwakho kwaye bakulahle ecaleni xa sele bekusebenzisile.
• Musa ukumthiya umngcatshi, mbone njengolahlekileyo kwelinye lamacandelo amahle kunabo bonke abantu: ukunyaniseka.
• Hayi ngenxa yokuba ungcatshiwe kufuneka unxibe isikrweqe ngokuchasene nabo bonke abantu. Izixhobo zokulwa nomngcatshi zanele kuwe.
• Bendingakuthandi, bendithanda umntu ozenza ngathi unguye.
• Andikuthiyanga, ndidanile nje. Uyinto yonke othe awusoze ube yiyo.
• Awunakungcatshwa ngumntu ongalindelanga nto kuye.
• Sihleka imbeko kwaye emva koko simangalisiwe kukufumana abangcatshi phakathi kwethu.
• Ungaze uwele kwinqanaba lomngcatshi. Ukuba bayakungcatsha, phendula lowo umngcatshayo kodwa ungaze uziphathe kakuhle kwabanye abantu njengoko esenza.
• Andinakuze ndimonzakalise ngokwaneleyo ukwenza ukuba ukungcatshwa kwakhe kuyeke ukuba buhlungu. Kwaye kubuhlungu, kuwo onke amalungu omzimba wam.
• Awunakungcatsha umntu omnye; Ungcatsha wena, usapho lomnye umntu, kunye nabantu abakuxabisayo.
• Ungaze, ungaze, uphoswe bubudlelwane apho konke ukuthembana kwakho kungcatshwayo. Yayifana nenqaba eyakhiwe ngamafu.
• Kwam eyona nto imbi kakhulu kunokufa kukungcatshwa. Uyabona, ndiyakuqonda ukufa; kodwa hayi ukungcatsha.
• Ukuze kubekho ukungcatsha, kufuneka kubekho ukuthembana kuqala.
• Cinga ngaphambi kokuba ungcatshe kuba izibonelelo zokwenza njalo zigqithile kwizigwebo oza kuzifumana ekuhambeni kwexesha.
• Ndingathanda ukufuna ixesha elide lokuthemba umntu, kunokuba ndithembe kungekudala kwaye ndingcatshwe kwangethuba.
• Ndingathanda ukuba ikrele lotshaba ligqobhoze intliziyo yam kunokuba ikrele lomhlobo wam lihlabe umqolo wam.
• Ndingathanda ukuhlala unyaka ndedwa kunokuhlala usuku olunye nomngcatshi.
• Umngcatshi usenokungasifumani isohlwayo sakhe, kodwa akasoze afumane mbuyekezo yomnye kulomntu umngcatshi.
• Nabani na othanda ukuba ngumngcatshi uza kubuyela kwisivumelwano sakhe kamva.
• Kuthatha iminyaka ukwakha ukuthembana, kwaye yimizuzwana nje embalwa ukuyaphula.
• Yiba nobubele kwabanyanisekileyo njengoko ungamthembi umngcatshi. Ukumomotheka ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokungakhathali nomngcatshi.
• Ukuba ngumngcatshi kukuzitshabalalisa, kuba xa uthe wazingcatsha, isenzo eso siyinxalenye yomngcatshi.
• Ukuba ufumana umhlobo othembekileyo, iqabane okanye usapho, ufumene obona butyebi bukhulu ebomini.
• Ukuba ukungcatshwa kungonakalisa umonakalo kwaye umngcatshi ufunda ngokusuka entliziyweni, ukuthembana kungabuya. Ukuba ukungcatsha kukhulu, nokuba angafunda kangakanani na, ukungathembeki akunakuze kubuye.
• Ukuba uchitha ubomi bakho ulinde umntu ukuba ahlawule umonakalo awenze entliziyweni yakho, ubanika ithuba elitsha lokukukhathaza kwakhona.
• Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha umhlaba, zitshintshe. Ihlabathi lifuna abangcatshi.
• Ukuba ukhalaza ukuba ndiyakungcatsha, ndifumanele iintshaba endinokuzizonda.
• Ukuba bangcatsha kanye lityala lomnye umntu, kodwa ukuba bakungcatsha kabini, lityala lakho.
• Ukuba bayakungcatsha kwaye ucinga ukuba wonke umntu uza kukungcatsha, kufana nokukholelwa ukuba, ngenxa yokuba uphumelele ilotto ngenye imini, iya kuphumelela ngalo lonke ixesha uyithenga.
• Ukuba bayakungcatsha kwaye uhambe, wenza umonakalo ophindwe kabini kunokubuyisela ukungcatsha, kodwa iya kuba ngumonakalo osempilweni kwaye ayikwenzi umntu ombi.
• Ukuba bayakungcatsha, yeka lonke usizi kwangoko; ngaloo ndlela ingqumbo ayiyi kuba nethuba lokumila iingcambu.
• Ngalo lonke ixesha umngcatshi ngoyena uphumeleleyo kwaye onyanisekileyo ngoyena uphumeleleyo.
• Kodwa wonke umntu ubulala into ayithandayo. Kwinto nganye eviweyo, abanye bayenza ngamehlo amuncu, abanye ngegama eligudileyo. Igwala liyenza ngokwanga. Indoda ekhaliphileyo inekrele.
• Ukucinga nje ngokungcatsha sele kukungcatsha okugqibeleleyo.
• Bonke abo boyikayo okanye bonke abo bacinga ukuba baya kungcatsha ngandlela thile balinganisile.
• Ndingumntu olungileyo ukuba ndikuxolele, kodwa andisosidenge ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndikuthembe kwakhona.
• Yonke intembeko iqulethe ubungozi kunye nomngcipheko. Akukho nto inokubalwa njengokuthenjwa ukuba bekungekho thuba lokungcatshwa.
• Bonke ububi obunokuthi butyhileke emhlabeni buzifihla kwindlwane yabangcatshi.
• Wonke umntu unobunzima ubuncinci bokungcatshwa ebomini bakhe. Yinto esihlanganisayo. Ubuqhetseba ayikukuvumela ukuba itshabalalise ukuthembela kwakho kwabanye xa kusenzeka oko. Musa ukubavumela ukuba bayithathe kuwe.
• Ungcatsha umhlobo kwaye kungekudala uzakuqonda ukuba ubonakalisile ubomi bakho.
• Ukungcatsha kufana nokutshisa igadi elinywe iminyaka. Unokhetho lokuqhubeka uyinkcenkceshela, kodwa ukhetha ukuyitshisa ukuya komnye ovelisa iziqhamo ezikhulu.
• Ukungcatsha kukwaphula isivumelwano esingabhalwanga phakathi kwemiphefumlo emibini okanye nangaphezulu.
• Ukungcatsha umntu ekuthembileyo kufana nokuwonga iphepha. Ungayandisa kwakhona, kodwa ayizukuphinda ifane kwakhona.
• Umhlobo osisiyatha unokukwenzakalisa ngaphezu kotshaba olukrelekrele.
• Indoda elungileyo kunye nomfazi olungileyo baya kuthetha inyani nokuba buhlungu kangakanani. Ixoki liyazifihla emva kokungcatsha nenkohliso.
• Indoda ekrelekrele ayingcatshi kuba iyayazi indlela yokufezekisa ngokulungileyo kwaye ithetha ukuba zeziphi izinto ezingcatshwa ngabo bangcatshi.
• Umngcatshi ngumntu oshiye iqela lakhe ukuya kubhalisa kwelinye. Umguquki ngumngcatshi oshiye iqela lakhe wajoyina eyethu.
• Ixabiso lokunyaniseka njengoko uxabisa ukungcatsha. Bonisa intlonipho kumntu oyinyani kwaye kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kuye ukuba ngumngcatshi.

Olu luluhlu lwethu lwamabinzana abalulekileyo okungcatsha esinokuthi siwasebenzise ukuqonda ngcono ukutolikwa ngabantu abaninzi abacingayo kunye nababhali abafuna ukushiya njengelifa, indlela elula yokuyiqonda. Kwaye wena, ungakuchaza njani ukungcatsha okanye leliphi ibinzana onokulisebenzisa ukuchonga umntu osandula ukukungcatsha? Siyakukhuthaza ukuba wabelane namabinzana akho nathi.