Andinabahlobo, ndingenza ntoni?

Abahlobo lusapho olukhethiweyo, sichitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo kwaye ubuhlobo babo busenza sizive sonwabile kwaye sinethemba. Ukuba nabahlobo kubaluleke kakhulu kubomi babantu kwaye xa bengenabo, mhlawumbi into engalunganga. Abantu zizidalwa zentlalo kwaye xa singenabahlobo imvakalelo yokuziva ulilolo iphakanyiswa ngokudala iintlungu ezithile entliziyweni.

Akuthathi zihlobo ezininzi ukuba zonwabe, enyanisweni, ngokunxulumene nobuhlobo, umgangatho uhlala ungcono kunobungakanani. Bambalwa kodwa abahlobo bokwenene abanokwenza umahluko kwimpilo-ntle yomntu nabani na. Umhlobo wenene uya kuba secaleni kwakho xa umfuna. Nangona kukho abahlobo abanokungena baphume ebomini bakho, bayakuhlala bekho abazokuma ecaleni kwakho, nokuba sekutheni.

Ukuba awunabahlobo, isenokuba yityala lakho

Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa ungenabahlobo? Kutheni kubonakala ngathi akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ube ngumhlobo wakho? Kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi okanye kungabikho sizathu, kodwa ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo inyani kukuba xa ungenabahlobo, kuxhomekeke kuwe. Le nyani inzima kodwa kufuneka uyazi ukuba uyilungise ngokukhawuleza.

Mhlawumbi uyazithuthuzela ngokucinga ukuba ngabanye abangafuni kuza kuwe, Kodwa enyanisweni, mhlawumbi unodonga lwekhonkrithi olungabonakaliyo olungavumelekanga ukufikelela kuwe nangasiphi na isizathu.

Mhlawumbi njengomntwana wawushukuma rhoqo kwaye wawungena thuba lokuba nabahlobo bokwenene kuba kwakufuneka ulunge ngokukhawuleza kwaye emva koko wemka ngaphandle kokubeka iingcambu naphina. Ebusheni, ukuthembela kunye nokunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kunzima ukuba nabahlobo xa ubona ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu ohlobene nawe. Kungcono ukuba nabahlobo abambalwa kunye nabahlobo bokwenyani kunokuba unamawaka abahlobo kuFacebook abangomntu ebomini bakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba wazi konke oku ukuze wazi esona sizathu sokuba ungenabahlobo nokuba nako ukuyilungisa; Awuthethi nabanye? Ngaba unobuntu obuneentloni? Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukuthetha nabanye yinkcitha xesha? Ngaba ufuna ngenene abahlobo okanye ungcono ekubeni wedwa?

Ubuhlobo buyatshintsha njengokuba ukhula. Ukuba awunabahlobo kwaye uneminyaka yobudala ephakathi, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ugxeka kakhulu okanye awubi. Vumela abantu bazive bediniwe okanye bengalunganga ngeziqu zabo, kodwa ungavumeli ukuba ikuchaphazele kakhulu. Ukuba ugxeka kakhulu okanye ukhalaza ngayo yonke into, abantu abayi kufuna ukuba secaleni kwakho kuba uya kube uhambisa amandla amabi kubo.

Abantu bayathanda ukuba nabanye ababenza bazive bonwabile, ababakhumbuza ukuba babalulekile kwaye babalulekile. Ukuba kubuhlobo iinjongo ezintle aziphindiseli, obu buhlobo buyanyamalala.

Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba ufuna ukuba nabahlobo abaninzi

Ukuba ufuna ukuba nabahlobo kwaye ugcine nabo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ungagxeki kakhulu. Ukugxekwa akunamsebenzi kuba kubeka omnye umntu ekuzikhuseleni kwaye abayi kufuna ukuphuma kwindlela yabo ukuzithethelela. Ukugxekwa kuyingozi xa kufikwa kubuhlobo kuba kuyabenzakalisa abantu, Ibuhlungu imvo yokubaluleka kwaye ivuse ingqumbo ... kwaye konke oku kukude kakhulu ukufezekisa ubuhlobo obuhle.

Kuya kufuneka unyanisekile ukuze ube nabahlobo, kodwa Ukunyaniseka kuya kufuneka uyenze nge-diplomacy, ukuzithemba kunye novelwano oluninzi. Ukuba omnye umntu uziva kamnandi xa uthetha nabo, nokuba into oyithethayo ayithandi kwaphela kubo, banokukuxabisa ukunyaniseka kwakho. Ngokwenyani, ukuba ungumntu okholelwa ukuba inyani kufuneka ihlale iza kuqala, ke ubale abahlobo onabo ... Ngamanye amaxesha, ukugcina ubuhlobo kufuneka uthembeke kwaye wenze inyani. Ukuba uhlasela abanye abantu uya kubonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo ubuhlobo.

Ubuhlobo buya kufuna ukuzingisa kunye nomsebenzi wokugcina. Sinjengesityalo osinyamekelayo ukuze sihle: ukuba awusinkcenkcesheli, akukho nto izokufa kwaye ukuba usinkcenkceshela kakhulu naso siza kufa. Kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuyinkcenkceshela ukuze ikhule isempilweni kwaye yomelele. Ubuhlobo bufana, kufuneka ufumane ibhalansi ukuze ubuhlobo buqhubeke nokukhula.

Kubalulekile ukubuza abahlobo ukuba banjani, bamamele kwaye bathethe, babe nomdla kwinto abayenzayo okanye abayicingayo, bakhumbule imihla ebalulekileyo enjengemihla yokuzalwa, babe secaleni labo kumaxesha anzima okanye iingxaki abanokuba nazo ... Kwaye, Olu nxibelelwano kufuneka lube ngeendlela ezimbini, ayinangqondo ukuba umkhathalele umntu ongabonakalisi mdla kuwe.

Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho abantu abangenabo abahlobo kuba bengafundi kakuhle imiqondiso engathethiyo, ulwimi lomzimba lubaluleke kakhulu kubuhlobo babantu. Mhlawumbi wakhe wacinga ukuba abanye abantu abakuthandi kuba bengancumisi kuwe kwaye ungaqondanga uyabacaphukela kwanangaphambi kokuba utshintshisane ngelizwi naloo mntu. Ukumomotheka komnye umntu linyathelo lokuqala lobuhlobo obuhle, kuba uncumo lusondeza abanye kwaye lubenza bazive beshushu ecaleni kwakho.

Indlela yokufumana abahlobo

Ukufumana abahlobo ungabakhangela kwiindawo oqhele ukuya kuzo kodwa ngaphandle kokunyanzela iimeko. Akukho mntu ufuna abahlobo ngokunyanzelwa, kufuneka ube yendalo ngalo lonke ixesha. Isenokuba semsebenzini wakho, epakini, kwindawo yakho yokufunda ... ukuya yenza ubuhlobo bokwenene kuya kufuneka ucinge ngezinto enifana ngazo ukubanakho ukuqala incoko kwaye ungangeni kwizihloko ze-banal zencoko. Unxibelelwano lubalulekile ekwakheni ubuhlobo.

Ukuze uthethe nabanye kuya kufuneka ukuba ube mnandi, ube novelwano, ube nokuzithemba kwaye ungabi ngumntu wobuxoki. Sukuzama ukukholisa abanye ngokuba yile nto uyiyo kuba awuzukuthanda mntu. Kufuneka unyaniseke.

Ubuhlobo bobabo bangoyikiyo ukuncuma kuqala, yokufikelela kwabo bayifunayo ngaphandle kokucela mbuyekezo, kwabo bantu bathi kusasa ekuseni ngehlombe kusasa nabakhathazeka ngawe emva kwemini. Ubuhlobo abuzalwa ngokukhawuleza, yinto yexesha, inhlonipho kunye nokuthembela, ngaphezu kokuba ne-chemistry kunye nomnye umntu ... Ngaphandle kwekhemistri, akukho nto.