Xa sibancinci, asixabisi kakhulu ube nomhlobo olungileyo kuba, sinoluvo lokuba sishiyekile. Nangona kunjalo, xa sikhula, ubuhlobo buyatshintsha. Yiba nomhlobo olungileyo okanye ube ngomnye waboAyisiyonto ilula njengokubiza umntu ngegama elithi "APS" (Abahlobo Ngonaphakade).
Ukuba nabahlobo abalungileyo kubaluleke kakhulu ukonwaba, yiyo loo nto sidibanise imiqondiso eli-10 echonga umhlobo olungileyo:
1. Nika inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuyo nayiphi na into
ubuhlobo babantu abadala. Abahlobo abasenyongweni bayakuphepha ukugxekwa ngokungeyomfuneko omnye komnye kwaye bathambekele ekugwebeni.
2. Umhlobo osenyongweni uya kumamela kwaye aphendule ngononophelo into oyithethileyo, nokuba into oyithethileyo iyamchaphazela ngqo. Ukukwazi ukumamela into ethethwa yenye yezona ndawo zibalulekileyo kobu buhlobo bunobuhlobo.
3. Ungabazi ukuba bangobani abahlobo bokwenene xa kufuneka ushukume okanye uye kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya ukuze ubambe inqwelomoya. Abahlobo abasenyongweni baya kuya kubantu ababakhathaleleyo, oku kwenza ukuba omabini amaqela azive kamnandi.
4. Ukuqwalaselwa luphawu olukhulu olunzulu kwaye luqinisa nabuphi na ubuhlobo bobuhlobo. Ukwazi ukubona iimfuno zomnye umntu kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuhlangabezana naloo mfuno ngamava okudibanisa.
5. Ukuthemba yenye into ebalulekileyo kwi ubuhlobo bomntu siqu. Xa usazi ukuba ungatsalela umnxeba umhlobo nangaluphi na usuku lweveki, nangaliphi na ixesha, kukwenza uzive ungcono kwaye kwandisa ukuthembana komnye nomnye.
6. Abahlobo abagqibelele Bayakwamkela njengokuba unjalo. Abalindelanga kugqibelela kuwe. Xa ungekho konke okusemandleni akho, baya kukuqonda kunokuba bakugxeke. Xa unosuku olubi, umntu okukhathaleleyo uya kubuza ukuba angakunceda nangayiphi na indlela okanye akushiye wedwa ukuba yile nto uyifunayo.
7. Abahlobo Banjengabanyangi, kodwa ungaya kusela kunye nabo. Umhlobo olungileyo ngumgqirha, kodwa umhlobo olungileyo oyinyani ayinguye umntu okuqhubela ukuba usele.
8. Umhlobo wakho osenyongweni Sisipili esibonisa kuwe ukuba ungubani kuye. Izinto zakho ezintle ziyaqaqamba, kwaye ezo ndawo zifuna ukuphuculwa azigwetywa kodwa ziyaqondwa.
9. Ingaba sakha safuna igxalaba lokukhala kuye, kwaye ukuba nomhlobo esinokukhupha kuye kwaye siziva sikhululekile xa sisenza oku sisipho. Kwabanye abantu, ukukhala wedwa kunzima. Ukuba nomntu onokuyiyeka intlungu yakho kuluncedo olukhulu xa ujongene nobunzima.
10. Abahlobo abasenyongweni bagubungela umva wakho. Ukwazi ukuba ungamthemba omnye umntu ngentlalo-ntle yakho, oko kuyakwenza ukuba nobabini nifumane kwaye nizonwabele ngamava amatsha.
11. Hlala ubakhona, nokuba kuthe cwaka.
12. Musa ukoyika ukuxelela umhlobo wakho inyaniso; nokuba kunzima kanjani.
13. Bakhokele ngexesha lokuswela kunye nezimvo ezinyanisekileyo.
14. Bhiyozela impumelelo kwaye sikuxhase kusilelo lwakho.
15. Musa ukuba nenqala ngenxa yokungavisisani.
Zazi iziphene zakho kwaye usakuthanda kwaye uyakuxhasa.
Ohloniphekileyo.
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