Iindlela ezili-10 zokuphucula ubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo

Wonke umntu uhlala ethetha malunga Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo (IE), kodwa yintoni kanye kanye?

Into ebalulekileyo yobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kukukwazi ukubona, ukulawula nokuvavanya iimvakalelo- kuwe nakwabanye- kunye nokusebenzisa olo lwazi ngokufanelekileyo.

Umzekelo, ukwamkelwa kobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kukodwa kunokunceda ekulawuleni nasekulawuleni iimvakalelo zakho ukongeza ekuqondeni iimvakalelo kwabanye ithanda ukukhula kovelwano kunye nempumelelo kubudlelwane bakho, bobabini kunye nobungcali.

Ngenxa yokubaluleka kobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ndicinge ukuba kunokuba luncedo ukunika isishwankathelo esifutshane ngesihloko, kunye nokuseka Iindlela ezili-10 zokuphucula ubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo.

Ngo-1990, iingcali zengqondo ze-Yale ezi-2, uJohn D. Mayer noPeter Salovey, baqulunqa igama elithi ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, abathi abanye abaphandi baluphawu lwendalo, ngelixa abanye becebisa ukuba lungaphuculwa ngokwenziwa ngendlela eyiyo. Ndivumelana nezikolo zombini kwaye, ngokucacileyo, nesesibini.

Akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umntu abe nengcali yengqondo. Kodwa unokuba ngugqirha wakho. Konke kuqala ngokufunda ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho. Nangona akusoloko kulula, ukuphuhlisa amandla okungena kwiimvakalelo zakho linyathelo lokuqala kwaye mhlawumbi lelona nyathelo libalulekileyo.

Iindlela ezili-10 zokuphucula ubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo.

1) Musa ukubaleka kwiimvakalelo zakho.

Ukuba iimvakalelo azonwabanga, musa ukuzibalekela. Yeka ubuncinci kanye ngemini ukuze ubonakalise kwaye ubuze: "Ndiziva njani?"

2) Musa ukugweba okanye uhlele iimvakalelo zakho ngokukhawuleza.

Zama ukungazohlwayi iimvakalelo zakho phambi kokuba ube nethuba lokucinga ngazo. Kukhona ezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga oko kungasinceda ukuba sikhule ukuba siyayazi indlela yokujongana nazo. Kuya kufuneka sibahlalutye ngokungathi singumbonisi wangaphandle, sinomdla, sizibuza ukuba kutheni belapho, yeyiphi ingozi abasenza yona, nokuba yintoni elungileyo esinokuyifumana kubo.

3) Fumana unxibelelwano phakathi kweemvakalelo zakho.

Xa kuvela imvakalelo enzima, zibuze, "Ndizive nini ezi mvakalelo ngaphambili?" Zama ukukhumbula indlela ophumelele ngayo kuloo mvakalelo, zeziphi iindlela ozisebenzisileyo.

4) Funda ukulawula iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo.

Amaxesha amaninzi iimvakalelo zethu ziyaphikisana. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho kufana nokumamela onke amangqina kwityala lenkundla. Yamkela kuphela ubungqina obuza kukukhokelela kwisigwebo esingcono.

5) Mamela umzimba wakho.

Iqhina esiswini sakho xa uqhubela emsebenzini linokuba luphawu lokuba umsebenzi wakho ungunobangela woxinzelelo. I-flutter entliziyweni yakho xa ubona intombazana / okanye ingaba sisiqalo sento enkulu.

6) Lawula inqanaba lakho loxinzelelo.

Ukuba uxinzelelo lwakho luphezulu, kulula kuwe ukuba neemvakalelo ezingaphaya kwamandla akho. Isakhono esiphambili sobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kukukwazi ukuzola xa uziva ukhathazekile. Obu buchule bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo bunceda ekugcineni ukulingana kwengqondo.

7) Sebenzisa uburharha kwaye udlale ukujongana nemiceli mngeni.

Uburharha, ukuhleka kunye nokudlala zizinto zendalo zokuthintela iingxaki zobomi. Bayenza lula imithwalo yethu kwaye basinceda sigcine imicimbi ngendlela eyiyo. Ukuhleka okuhle kunciphisa uxinzelelo, kuphakamisa imood, kunye nokulinganisa inkqubo yethu yeemvakalelo.

8) Sombulula iingxabano zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Iimbambano nokungavisisani akunakuphepheka kubudlelwane. Abantu ababini abanakuba neemfuno ezifanayo, izimvo, kunye nolindelo olufanayo ngamaxesha onke.

Nangona kunjalo, ayifanelanga ukuba yinto embi. Ukusombulula ukungavisisani ngendlela esempilweni neyakhayo kunokuqinisa ukuthembana phakathi kwabantu. Xa ungquzulwano lungaqwalaselwa njengesoyikiso okanye isohlwayo, luthanda inkululeko, ubuchule kunye nokhuseleko kubudlelwane.

9) Bhala iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba ukubhala phantsi iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo kunokubanceda abantu.

10) Sukuzifaka kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga.

Izifundo zibonise ukuba ukukhuthaza abantu ukuba bangazenzi ngcono iimvakalelo ezinokuzonyusa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo abubandakanyi nje ukukwazi ukujonga ngaphakathi, kodwa nokuba ubekho kwihlabathi elikujikelezileyo.