Unokufumanisa ukuba ukwenza ngokungxama nangokuzenzekelayo kukwenza ubonakale wonwabile. Ngelishwa, ukungxamiseka kunokukufaka engxakini. Kukangaphi uzisola ngokwenza isigqibo ngaphandle kokujonga kuqala iindlela ezahlukeneyo? Ukuba wenza ngokukhawuleza ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye unqwenela ukuba awuzange ube, unokuba ungomnye wabantu abafuna ukufumana. uzolile kwaye ucinge ngaphambi kokuba wenze.
Kukho abantu abaxhomekeke kwangaphambili Thatha inyathelo kwaye uthabathe icala lakhe lasendle. Kumnandi ukuba phakathi kwabo kuba ngekhe wazi ukuba bazakwenza ntoni emva koko. Nokuba bathetha into engenangqondo okanye engenangqondo, baqinisekile ukuba ekugqibeleni baya kuhleka, ixesha elininzi. Kodwa ukungxamiseka kuvela okungaphezulu kunokujonga nje ukuzonwabisa.
1. Yima uze ucinge ngaphambi kokuba wenze. Ayilombono mibi ukuma kwaye ubonakalise, nokuba kuyimizuzwana embalwa, kuninzi lwezenzo. Ngaphambi kokungxama ngokucinezela iqhosha u "phendula", umzekelo, qiniseka ukuba ayilo "phendula bonke". Oko kukuthi, ukuba unomsindo neqabane lakho, sukuphendula ungakhange ucinge. Nika uphononongo olufutshane lwazo zonke iindlela onokukhetha kuzo, kwaye ubone ukuba ikhona enye indlela yokusombulula ingxaki endaweni yokukhupha iimvakalelo zakho.
2. Zama ukukubona ukungxamiseka kwenye indlela. Abantu abavakalelwa kukuba banomdla wokuzama ukusombulula uxinzelelo ngokutya iziselo ezinxilisayo, kwaye oku akwenzi nto ngaphandle kokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezingaphezulu.
Nangona iijeni zethu zisenza sithambekele kolu hlobo lokuziphatha, sinengqondo ehambele phambili, esinokuthi ngayo sikwazi ukulawula ezona mvakalelo zethuku.
3. Fumana indlela yokonwaba kwaye ungenzi njengolutsha olungalawulekiyo. Unokuba nedumela lokulungela kwaye uzimisele ukwenza nantoni na eyimfuneko ukoyisa umceli mngeni okanye umceli mngeni, kodwa akukho mntu uya kucinga kakubi ngawe ukuba uqala ukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu abadala. Ungayifumana indlela yendalo ekuvumela ukuba uzonwabise abanye ngobukrelekrele bakho, kwaye ungasweli.
4. Yahlula iimvakalelo zakho kuphando oluqhubekayo lwamava amatsha. Ukuba namava amatsha kunye nolonwabo ngokuqinisekileyo yinto ephucula ubomi bakho, kodwa ukukhangela okuqhubekayo kwamava amatsha kungakhokelela kumanqanaba ohlukeneyo engozi. Funda ukonwabela ngokwamava aqhelekileyo, nangona kungenako ukuvelisa inkuthazo efanayo nokwenza amava amatsha ahlukileyo, yiyo eya kukwenza wonwabe.
5. Buza abantu obaziyo kwaye ubakhathaleleyo ukufumana umbono wokuba bakubona njani. Ukuba iqela labahlobo bakho linemibono kunye nezimo zengqondo ezikhokelela ekuthathweni kwezinto ozisolayo ngazo, zisenokungabi ngabo kuwe. Abantu abakukhathalele ngokwenene ngabo kuphela abaya kukuxelela inyani, kwaye bakukhathalele xa bebona ukuba indlela oziphethe ngayo ayifanelekanga.