Intsingiselo yokomelela kunye nendlela onokuyinyusa ngayo

Mhlawumbi wakhe wamangaliswa xa umntu ekwazile ukujongana nobunzima kwaye aphuma kubo, ukuba kubonakala ngathi uye wachacha kwisiganeko esibuhlungu ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kunesiqhelo (iliso, oku akuthethi ukuba loo mntu akakasokoli kwimpawu ezibuhlungu okanye ezibuhlungu). Kodwa kutheni abanye abantu bengakwazi ukuqhubela phambili ebomini babo kwaye babonakale bexakeke kumngxunya ongapheliyo bengenandlela yakuphuma?

Ukomelela kufana nokomelela kwengqondo okunceda umntu ukuba akwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo kunye neenzima ezibonakala ebomini ezinamandla amakhulu. Abantu banokutsala kobu bunzima bengqondo ukuze bangawi. Abahlali ngabantu abakwaziyo ukwakha ubomi babo emva kokudlula ebunzimeni okanye kumaxesha anzima kakhulu.

Bonke abantu banamava ebomini babo ngeziganeko ezibuhlungu njengokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo okanye utshintsho ngesiquphe kubomi bemihla ngemihla njengokuphulukana nomsebenzi okanye ukuya kubunzima bezezimali. Ezinye iingxaki zinokuba zincinci kodwa ezinye zinokuba nkulu njengokuhlasela kwabagrogrisi. Indlela ekujongwana ngayo nobunzima yinto ephambili ekwazini ukuba umntu uza kujongana njani nobomi kunye neziphumo zengqondo eziya kuba nazo kwixesha elide.

Ukomelela

Ke ngoko, ukomelela kunento yokwenza nokukwazi komntu ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Xa umntu ejongene nengxaki okanye intlekele, ukomelela kuko okuya kuqinisekisa ukuba loo mntu uyakwazi ukuziqhelanisa kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakho. Uyakwazi ukuphinda uphinde ufumane uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo.

Ngokwenyani, akukho bantu banelungelo lokuqina kwaye kukho abanye abangenalo. Inyani yile yokuba bonke abantu kule planethi banakho ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kuya kufuneka ufune okanye uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani. Ukomelela akuthethi ukuba umntu akaziva enzulu ngokwenzekayo kuye, ngaphandle nje kokuba afunde kumava okanye kwiimpazamo kwaye azame ukujongana nemeko ngendlela eyiyo ukuze imeko ingamxinzeleli ngokweemvakalelo.

Nawe unokwandisa ukomelela kwakho

Ukuba ucinga ukuba 'ukomelela' akukuhambelani, uyaphazama kuba unayo, kufuneka usebenze kwizakhono ezifanelekileyo zokuyiphuhlisa. Izakhono kufuneka zifundwe ngolwazi nangokuziqhelanisa Kwaye oku kunokwenziwa nangaliphi na ixesha, nokuba zithini na iimeko zakho zangoku.

Ukufunda malunga nokomelela kunokwenzeka, nangona ucinga ukuba kubiza imali eninzi kakhulu nokuba ucinga ngezi ngcebiso zilandelayo, emva koko ungaya kugqirha wezengqondo akuncede ukomeleza izakhono zakho zokomelela, kuba khumbula ukuba unazo.

Nayiphi na ingxaki yobomi bemihla ngemihla enjengeengxaki zemali, ukugula, iingxaki zomsebenzi, njl. Ngamathuba okusebenza ekomeleleni nasekujongeni ubomi ngqo. Cinga ukuba uyakuba nembandezelo, usizi, ixhala okanye uxinzelelo ... Kodwa oku akunakuphepheka, okubalulekileyo kukuba ujongana njani nezi mvakalelo kwiimeko eziziswe kuwe. Kukho iimeko zabantu abakwaziyo ukuvela ngamandla amakhulu emva kobunzima kwaye bomelele ngakumbi kunangaphambili, enkosi kumava nasekufundeni.

Abantu abangenazo iindlela zokuzomeleza banokuxinezeleka ngamava kwaye banamathele kwiimvakalelo ezimbi. into enokubangela ukuba babe nokuziphatha okungenampilo kunye nobungozi ngokungazi ukuba bajongane njani nemiceli mngeni yobomi.

Ukomelela akuphelisi uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo

Ukomelela akuphelisi uxinzelelo, okanye uxinzelelo, nokuba uchitha iveki ulila ebomini bakho, akususi oko kwenzekayo. Kodwa xa womelele awuyi kububona ubomi ngelensi emnyama, kodwa nangaphandle kwelensi enemibala ye-rose. Umhlali uyazi ukuba iinkxwaleko ziyenzeka kwaye ubomi bunokuba buhlungu ngamanye amaxesha. Enkosi ngombono wabo wengqondo, baya kuba nakho ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ngokukhawuleza.

Izinto ezonyusa ukomelela

Inkxaso yezentlalo ayinakuphepheka ukomeleza ukomelela. Umntu owomeleleyo ngokwengqondo uya kuba nenkxaso yosapho kunye nabahlobo ukumnceda ukuba omelele xa ejongene neengxaki. Kukwakho nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ezinceda abantu ukuba bakwazi ukomelela: bacinge into eyakhayo, babe sengqiqweni kodwa bangabi nabi, babe nolawulo lokunyanzelwa, bathethe ngeemfuno zabo kwaye babe nokuzithemba, baqonde iimvakalelo zabo nezabanye, ukubonwa okuhle kunye nokuba nengqondo elungileyo yokulawula iimvakalelo ngokufanelekileyo.

Indlela yokunyusa ukomelela kwakho

Ukuba ufikile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kungenxa yokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufuna ukuphucula ukomelela kwakho ukuze ube nakho ukubuyisela ngcono kwixesha elizayo. Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ulandele le ngcebiso sikunika yona apha ngezantsi. Unokufunda ukuhlala ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngaphandle kokungahambi kakuhle okukwenza uzive unetyala kwaye uxanduva lwakho.

Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukufunda ukuphindaphinda kwaye ube nenjongo ngakumbi ngezinto ezenzeka kuwe nakwinyani yakho. Yeka ukuphelelwa lithemba ekuthatheni indawo kwaye uqeqeshe ingqondo yakho yokucinga okuhle. Ukuhlala ulusizi akuyi kwenza utshintsho lwakho lokwenyani, kwelinye icala, ukuphindaphinda izinto kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo kuya kuyiphucula imeko.

Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukwakha utoliko lobomi bakho unentsingiselo ebalulekileyo kuwe, ukubeka phambili, ukukhetha kunye nokuqhubela phambili isibonelelo sakho seemvakalelo. Kuya kuthatha ixesha kwaye uziqhelanise kodwa ukuba uyafuna nyani, ungayifumana. Gcina oku kulandelayo engqondweni:

• Yiba nenethiwekhi yokuxhasa usapho kunye nabahlobo abaqinisekileyo ngobomi
• Gcina ulwalamano oluhle nolulungileyo olunokukunceda ngamaxesha anzima kwinqanaba leemvakalelo
• Yiba nembono efanelekileyo ngawe kwaye uthembe izakhono zakho namandla akho
• Uyakwazi ukuba nezicwangciso ezifanelekileyo
• Sebenza kubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo kunye nolawulo lwempembelelo kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo zakho
• Sebenza kwizakhono zakho zonxibelelwano
• Yiba nezakhono zokusombulula ingxaki
• Chonga iimeko ezinokuthi zivele emzimbeni wakho
• Cinga ngento onokuyithetha kumhlobo wakho ukuba bekwimeko efanayo
• Thatha inyathelo lokuphucula ubomi bakho kwixesha elifutshane nelide
• Bhala iindlela ezizezinye ezinokusetyenziswa kwimeko efanayo
• Ngobulumko khetha izigqibo oqhele ukuzenza xa unyanzelekile
• Vumela ukuba wenze iimpazamo emva koko uthathe loo mpazamo kwaye ufunde kuyo