Ngokubanzi, ayisiyiyo le unayo okanye apho uvela khona ekwenza wonwabe, yindlela otolika ngayo iziganeko ezenzeka kuwe. Ngumba wesimo sengqondo kunye nokutshintsha iingcinga zakho. Oyena mntu unokulimaza ulonwabo lwakho nguwe.
Ngaphambi kokuba ubone ezi zicatshulwa zingama-50 malunga nolonwabo Makhe ndibeke le vidiyo izisa esi sigqibo simangalisayo: Kuza kukuthatha kuphela imizuzu eli-10 ngosuku ukuba wonwabe xa ushiye abanye.
Umlinganiswa ophambili wale ntetho imfutshane yanikezelwa kwi-TED ibizwa ngokuba ngu-Andi Puddicombe kwaye usimema ukuba sinikezele imizuzu eyi-10 yokwazi okwangoku:
Nantsi ke Iimpawu ezingama-50 okanye iikowuti malunga nolonwabo endiyenzileyo kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba iyakuchukumisa into engaphakathi kuwe eyenza ukuba ubone ubomi ngendlela eyahlukileyo:
1) Misela umzekelo. Baphathe ngobubele nentlonipho bonke abantu, nkqu nabo bakrwada kuwe.
2) Kuthatha kuphela umntu omnye ukuba onwabe kwaye utshintshe ubomi bakho: wena.
3) Ubomi bakho buya kuphucuka kuphela xa ugqiba kwelokuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuze wonwabe. Olu hambo luqala ngokunyaniseka kuwe.
4) Yeka ukugxila kuxinzelelo lwakho kwaye khumbula ukuba unethamsanqa. Inokuba mbi kakhulu.
5) Gxila kwinto onayo kwaye ungajongi kwiintsilelo zakho.
6) Khangela into efanelekileyo ngoku. Nokuba kuya kufuneka ucinge kancinci kunesiqhelo, uya kufumana into elungileyo.
7) Xa uncuma ngobomi ohlangabezana nabo, uyakugcina uphila ubomi obufanele ukuncuma.
8) Khumbula, ukuthelekiswa kwezentlalo lisela lolonwabo. Unokuchitha ixesha lokuphila uxhala malunga nezinto abanazo abanye, kodwa awuyi kufumana nto.
9) Ulonwabo luza ngokulula xa uziva wonwabile ngawe ngaphandle kokuziva ufuna ukwamkeleka kwabanye.
10) Yiba mnandi kubantu odibana nabo.
11) Ububele akufuneki buphanjaniswe nobuthathaka, okanye uxolelo nokwamkelwa. Imalunga nokufumanisa ukuba ingqumbo ayisiyondlela yokonwaba.
12) Nika konke onako, kodwa ungabavumeli bakusebenzise. Mamela kwabanye, kodwa ungalahli ilizwi lakho.
13) Xela into ekufuneka uyithethile. Thetha inyani yakho. Akukho lusizi lukhulu kunokuthula ngoba awuzange ube nesibindi sokuveza uluvo lwakho.
14) Awunakho ukutshintsha indlela abantu abakuphatha ngayo okanye into abayithethayo ngawe. Ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukutshintsha indlela osabela ngayo kugxeko lwabo kwaye umke kubo ukuba kukho imfuneko.
15) Inkampani engalunganga ayisoze ikunike ubomi obulungileyo.
16) Kusoloko kungcono ukuchitha ixesha elininzi wedwa kunokuba phakathi kwabantu ababi. Izimvo zabo zinokujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho.
17) Xa abanye abantu bekuphatha kakubi, phakamisa intloko, uncume kwaye uhlale ngokwakho. Ungaze uvumele ubukrakra bomnye umntu butshintshe ukuba ungubani.
18) Ukuzithemba kwakho akuxhomekekanga ekusweleni kwabanye abantu ukukuxabisa njengoko kufanelekile.
19) Enye yezona zinto zikhululayo sizifundayo ebomini kukuba akufuneki sithande wonke umntu kwaye akufuneki sithande wonke umntu.
20) Xa umntu esithi "Utshintshile," oko akuthethi ukuba wenze into embi. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthetha nje ukuba uyekile ukuba yile ndlela ebefuna ngayo.
21) Ungaze ube neentloni ngendlela oziva ngayo. Unelungelo lokuziva uziva.
22) Awunakho ukubeka umbono wakho wempumelelo kunye nolonwabo kwizimvo kunye nolindelo lwabanye.
23) Abantu abangonwabanga kweli hlabathi ngabantu abakukhathaleleyo oko abanye abantu bakucingayo.
24) Sukuthatha ingqalelo kakhulu xa umntu ekuxelela ukuba uyayenza gwenxa.
25) Kusoloko kungcono ukwenza into kunokuba ungenzi nto.
26) Zama ukuphila ubomi obufunayo ngaphandle kokujongwa ngabanye.
27) Akukho sixa semali sinokukonwabisa xa ungaziva mnandi ngesiqu sakho.
28) Ngamaxesha amaninzi, ulonwabo lungaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Uninzi lwabantu abaphumeleleyo baqala ukungena kwindawo abangaqhelananga nayo ngenxa yokungakhuseleki oku okuthetha ukuthi.
29) Awunakuhlala ulinda umzuzu ogqibeleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ubenobuganga nokuba imeko ayizizo ezilungileyo.
30) Eyona ndlela inokuthenjwa yokuqikelela ikamva kukusebenza okwangoku. Sabani ngokungasebenzi nokungonqeni.
31) Ukuchasana nemeko yangoku (ukuba lilizwi elingavisisaniyo lezimvu) kunokuba nomdla kakhulu.
32) Phantse yonke into inokwenzeka ukuba unexesha elaneleyo kwaye unomdla kwinto oyenzayo.
33) Imiceli mngeni emikhulu yenza ubomi bunike umdla; Ukoyisa kwenza ubomi bube nentsingiselo.
34) Guqula iimpazamo zakho zibe ngumthombo wenkuthazo.
35) Sukulahla ithemba. Yintoni ezayo ilunge ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Izinto ezintle zihlala zenzeka xa bengazilindelanga.
36) Yiya inyathelo ngenyathelo, awufuni ukugubungela ngaphezulu kunokuba unakho. Uyakumangaliswa yinto onokuyenza ngengqolowa encinci xa uhlala uhleli.
37) Akukho nto intle kwaye inamandla kunoncumo, nangaphezulu ukuba uncumo luthi luvele ngenxa yentlungu.
38) Nasiphi na isidenge sinokuvuya xa amaxesha elungile. Kuthatha umphefumlo owomeleleyo ukwenza uncumo kwiimeko ezisenza sikhale.
39) Musa ukungxama. Thatha ixesha olifunayo ukugqiba imisebenzi yakho. Khawuleza umcebisi ombi. Okwangoku ndiyakumema ukuba ubukele le vidiyo: Ukusebenza phantsi koxinzelelo akulunganga kuyilo
40) Njengoko sikhula kwaye silumka, siyayiqonda into esiyidingayo kunye nento ekufuneka siyishiye ngasemva. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba kude linyathelo eliya phambili.
41) Ekupheleni kosuku, ungagxila kwizinto ezimbi ezenzekileyo kuwe okanye kwezo zinto uzenze kakuhle. Ixhomekeke kuwe.
42) Elinye lawona maxesha anomvuzo ebomini kuxa ufunda ukuba kufuneka uphumle xa ujongene nezo ngxaki kungekho sezandleni zakho ukuzisombulula.
43) Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukubambelela kwinto enye echitha usuku lwakho. Funda ukutyhila iphepha. Ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungachitha ixesha kwiziganeko ezimbi.
44) Olunye lweempawu eziphindaphindwayo eziphindaphindiweyo phakathi kwabantu abonwabileyo kukuba banceda abanye. Umanyano lubandakanya ukonwaba.
45) Umonde unokuba krakra, kodwa imbewu yayo iya kuthwala isiqhamo esimnandi.
46) Phila ngokulula. Uthando ngesisa. Nyaniseka. Ukuphefumla ngokunzulu. Nika okona kulungileyo kuwe.
47) Sukunyanzelisa kakhulu ekwenzeni ubomi obugqibeleleyo kuba uyakulibala ukuhlala.
48) Icebo kukonwabela ubomi ngoku. Musa ukulinda ngaphezulu.
49) Nika ingqalelo kwizinto ezincinci. Bangabalibaliweyo abakhulu.
50) Thatha uhambo olude. Yonwabela incoko emnandi. Nika ingqalelo okwangoku.
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Izivakalisi ezingama-50 ziyamangalisa kodwa ezingama-33 nama-34 zazibaluleke kakhulu kum. Amaxesha amaninzi siziva singenanto kwaye kukujonga umceli mngeni ukuba siyigcwalise. Njengabantu senza iimpazamo ezininzi kwaye ukungabikho kwenkuthazo kusishukumisile. Sinezimpazamo ezininzi kwaye siswele izizathu. Sebenzisa eyokuqala kwiijenreyitha zesibini sisixhobo esibalulekileyo sokuzibekela thina le mingeni eyenza ubomi bethu banelise. Enkosi ngala mabinzana.
14) Awunakho ukutshintsha abantu bakuphathe njani okanye bathini ngawe. Ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukutshintsha indlela osabela ngayo kugxeko lwabo kwaye umke kubo ukuba kukho imfuneko.
Kuyinyani, nokuba ungazama kangakanani ukutshintsha abakutshoyo ngawe, baya kuhlala beqhubeka bethetha, kukho ukungabahoyi kwaye uphile ubomi ngaphandle kokuhoya abakutshoyo
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onke amabinzana makhulu. kodwa u-18 ndizibandakanya naye.