Bonke abantu bafuna ukonwaba ukuze baphile ubomi obanelisayo, nangona kubonakala ngathi akusoloko kulula ukukufeza. Abantu abaninzi banengxaki yokudakumba okanye ukudakumba okungapheliyo kwaye bakholelwa ukuba ulonwabo yinto engenakwenzeka yokulufikelela. Kodwa kwezi meko, yimeko yengqondo yakho kuphela ekwenza ukuba uyikholelwe le nto, enyanisweni ulonwabo lufikeleleke kuye wonke umntu, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ungalinganisa njani isikali.
Luyintoni ulonwabo kuwe
Xa umntu ekubuza; Luyintoni ulonwabo kuwe? Kungenzeka ukuba nina bantu ningazi ukuba niphendule ndithini, kuba awunokwazi ncam ukuba luyintoni ulonwabo okanye indlela oziva ngayo xa uziva wonwabile. Unokucinga ukuba ulonwabo kukuzifumana yonke imihla, ukufezekisa amaphupha, ukonwabela ubomi nabantu obathandayo, ukuba nemeko yokulinganisela apho ubomi bakho buhamba ngokuvisisana ... okanye awunalo nofifi.
Ukonwaba kukuzithoba, kodwa yintoni le isenza sonwabe ngakumbi okanye kancinci? Isakhono kufuneka sonwabe, isiqingatha sokukwazi ukumiselwa semfuza. Oku iingcali zikubiza: 'Indawo yakho yolonwabo'. Abantu banokuphucula okanye benze mandundu utyekelo lwangaphakathi lokufumana ukonwaba ngakumbi okanye kancinci, kodwa Njengokuba unobunzima bomzimba, uya kuhlala uthambekele ekubuyeni kwindawo yakho ephakathi.
Nangona isiqingatha sokukwazi ukonwaba sixhomekeke kwimfuza, kukho i-10% exhomekeke kwiimeko ophila kuzo namhlanje. Kodwa uthini nge-40% eseleyo? Intoni Le 40% ixhomekeke kwindlela oziphethe ngayo mihla le, ugxile kwaye ubaluleke kangakanani, indlela ophila ngayo kwaye ubuva ubomi bakho kunye nendlela ozigweba ngayo nabanye. Ulonwabo oluninzi lusezandleni zakho!
Zeziphi izinto ezinika intsalela yolonwabo lwakho
Kukho izinto ezithile zekhonkrithi ezinokuthi zinciphise ulungelelwaniso lwakho lokonwaba ngenye indlela okanye enye. Makhe sijonge iinyani ezinomdla ekuphenduleni eminye imibuzo. Ngaphambi kokufunda impendulo yombuzo, sikucebisa ukuba uqale ucinge ngempendulo yakho kwaye ujonge ubunyani obuthethwa ziingcali.
- Ngubani owonwabe ngakumbi: Abafazi okanye amadoda? Abasetyhini bathanda ukonwaba kancinci kunamadoda kodwa bakwanalo noxinzelelo, ngokomndilili baba sesichengeni seemvakalelo ezilungileyo nezimbi. Umfazi om-1 kwaba-5 uya kuba noxinzelelo ebomini babo.
- Ngubani owonwabe ngakumbi: utshatile okanye akatshatanga? Ayingombuzo wenqanaba lomtshato, abantu abaphilileyo namaqabane abo baya konwaba. Nangona kukho izifundo ezibonisa ukuba kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuba unenkampani embi.
- Ngaba imali ibalulekile ukuze sonwabe? Imali inefuthe kulonwabo olungaphantsi kwenqanaba lokusinda, oko kukuthi, ukuba awunayo iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko. Kodwa ngaphezulu kwenqanaba lokusinda, nabani na angonwaba ngemali engaphezulu okanye encinci. Nangona umvuzo ukhula, oko akuthethi ukuba ulonwabo luyanda.
- Ngaba impilo iyimfuneko ukuze sonwabe? Impilo inobunzima kulungelelwaniso lolonwabo. Abantu balungile ekoyiseni imiqobo; kubantu abanqunyulwe ingalo baphinde bafumane ulonwabo kwisithuba seminyaka emithathu.
- Ngaba umsebenzi ubalulekile ukuze wonwabe? Umsebenzi yinto ebalulekileyo kulungelelwaniso lokonwaba, ukuba uyasebenza inqanaba lakho lokonwaba lenyuka kuba inqanaba lakho lokuzimela kunye nokuzithemba kuyanda. Ukusebenza kufutshane nekhaya kuya kukwenza wonwabe nangakumbi.
- Ngaba ungonwaba ngakumbi ukuba uphumelele ilotto? Xa uphumelele iLotto uziva ungxamile, kodwa emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa ubuyela kumanqanaba angaphambili olonwabo. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi 'hedonistic habituation', abantu bayaziqhelanisa notshintsho oluhle kunye nolubi.
Ungalwandisa njani ulonwabo
Njengoko usazi kakuhle, ukuze wonwabe unokuninzi ekufuneka ukwenzile, kuba i-40% yokuphumeza ulonwabo isezandleni zakho. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba ungalukhulisa njani ulonwabo lwakho? Ukwenza njalo, ungaphoswa yindawo elandelayo.
Ukwahlula phakathi kweenguqu ezinzileyo kunye neemeko
Utshintsho lwemozulu Ba, umzekelo, ukunyusa umvuzo, ukuthenga imoto okanye ukuthenga indlu. Olu lutshintsho lwezinto oziqhela ngokukhawuleza.
Utshintsho olwenziwe ngabom Chaza umzamo owenzayo wokuphumeza injongo okanye ukuqala umsebenzi omtsha. Oko kukuthi, inento yokwenza nokufuna iinjongo zexesha elide.
Abantu abathi ngabom benze utshintsho olunenjongo ebomini babo bagcina 'ukungxama' kolonwabo oluzisa lonke utshintsho ngokubanzi ixesha elide. Ke isindululo seengcali sokugcina ulonwabo kukuba udibanisa utshintsho olwenzeka kwimeko kunye notshintsho lwenjongo. Olu tshintsho kufuneka lube nefuthe kubomi bakho kwixesha eliphakathi nelide.
Fumana ulonwabo lwakho
Ukonwaba, ke ngoko, ngekhe kufane kubantu ababini kuba sonke sahlukile ngezethu i-idiosyncrasies kunye neemfuno ezahlukeneyo. Umntu ngamnye kufuneka alinganise ulonwabo lwakhe ngaphandle kokujonga ulonwabo lomntu osecaleni kwabo. Ukuze wonwabe kufuneka ujonge ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye uyazi ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zakho zokugcina ulungelelwaniso lolonwabo lulungelelene.
Ukongeza ekuthatheni ingqalelo iimfuno zakho, kufuneka ugcine izinto ozikhethayo engqondweni. Ngezikali zolonwabo lwakho phambi kwakho, kufuneka nje cinga malunga nokuba yintoni eya kukubonelela ngentlalo-ntle enkulu yeemvakalelo.
Ukufezekisa oku, kuya kufuneka uvavanye ukuba bunjani ubomi bakho ngoku kwaye kukho into efuna ukuba uyiqwalasele okanye wenze utshintsho oluthile ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi kunye nempilo yakho yeemvakalelo. Cinga ukuba sinobomi obunye kuphela bokuphila kwaye yonke imihla yobomi bethu kufanelekile ukonwaba nayo. Cinga ngeemfuno zakho kunye nokukhetha kwakho ... kwaye uza kukufezekisa!
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