Ukuthandana linyathelo eliphantsi lothando kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu kubomi babantu. Ukuthandana kukuziva ulungelelene ngothando okanye uthando oluvalelwa emntwini okanye kwisilwanyana. Xa uziva ulungile komnye umntu kuyanqweneleka kwaye inkampani yabo iyonwatyiswa. Intsingiselo yayo kunye nemvakalelo eyivelisayo intle kangangokuba ikwasetyenziswa njengelizwi lokusondela phakathi kwabantu ababini abathandanayo.
Ukuthandana kubalulekile kubomi babantu kuba kusenza sizive silungile, kusenza sizive samkelekile kwabanye kwaye kuvusa iimvakalelo ezilungileyo kwabo basondele kuthi kwaye siyabaxabisa. Ukuthandana, njengothando, lelona yeza lilungileyo kubo bonke ububi, ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo.
Amandla esimo sengqondo
Isimo sengqondo sabantu sinokuchaphazela imeko yakho. Umzekelo, ukuba uya kwagqirha kwaye isimo sabo sengqondo singekho ngakuwe, uyakushiya ungaziva mnandi… Kwelinye icala, ukuba isimo sabo sengqondo siqinisekile kwaye sinothando, uyakuziva ungcono kakhulu nokuba awukho uphilisiwe kwisifo sakho.
Abantu banamandla okuba ngcono okanye amabi kwaye baphakamise iimvakalelo ezilungileyo okanye ezingalunganga zabanye ngesimo sethu sengqondo. Ubuntu kunye nothando esilunika abanye baya kuba nakho ukumakisha ubudlelwane obunabo ebomini. Ngabantu abangenabo ubudlelwane obuninzi, awubaphathi ngothando, kuba ufuna ulwalamano olungakumbi ngalo, kodwa uthando luyadlala apha. Nangona ikwinyathelo elingezantsi kothando, Sisimo sengqondo esiya kukunceda uzive ulungile malunga nabanye kwaye nabanye bazive bonwabile ngawe.
Ukuthandana lonyango olunamandla kakhulu lweemvakalelo
Ukuba uyagula kwaye akukho mntu ukujikelezayo okuphatha ngothando, kusenokwenzeka ukuba isigulo sakho siza kubandezeleka ngakumbi kwaye sibe mandundu ngakumbi okanye siba nzima. Oku kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokungabikho kothando ebomini bakho. Kubalulekile ukuba ibe yinyani kuba lelona yeza lilungileyo likhoyo, kunye nothando. Umzekelo, ukuba ungeniswe esibhedlele, izalamane zakho ziya kukunika uthando olungenamiqathango kutyelelo ngalunye, kodwa abantu obaziyo okanye oogqirha abangakwaziyo kodwa abakunyangayo, baya ... bayakukunika uthando.
Sonke sinakho ngaphakathi kuthi amandla okunika uthando kwabanye kwaye sikwazi ukunqanda iintlungu zomphefumlo wabo basingqongileyo. Isimo sengqondo sothando ngokungathandabuzekiyo sesona silungileyo esinokuyenza ukuze sikwazi ukunxibelelana ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuthandana kunceda ukukhula kweemvakalelo, kwaye ezi ziyimfuneko kwimpilo jikelele. Ukuba uziva ulungile, uya kuba nempilo engcono kwaye ukuba uphilile ... Ubomi buya kuba ngcono kuwe!
Kwelinye icala, kukho iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ezisilimaza emzimbeni nasemphefumlweni. Ukuze bangasenzakalisi, kufuneka singabavumeli ukuba basilawule kwaye bangabi namandla kakhulu. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ziyimfuneko kwaye kufuneka sizamkele, kuba zisinceda siqonde okwenzekayo kuthi kwaye kutheni kusenzeka kuthi. Ukongeza, banoxanduva lokuba uthathe amanyathelo okutshintsha izinto ezikucaphukisayo okanye ezikucaphukisayo kwaye ubuyele kwimpilo yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo. Ukuba uvumela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zilawule ubomi bakho, unokuba neentlungu zesisu, iintloko, unxunguphalo, iingxaki zokulala, uya kugula ... Ukuba xa uneemvakalelo ezingalunganga ezihamba emzimbeni wakho, unedosi elungileyo yothando, ke ezo mvakalelo ziya kuphulukana namandla azo kuwe.
Umsa unokufunyanwa kwaye unikezwe ngeendlela ezininzi: igama elihle, ukufuna ukunceda abanye, ukwanga okuthuthuzelayo, amagama anyanisekileyo ... zii-caresses emphefumlweni ezinceda umzimba wakho ube nempilo engcono. Ukuba uluntu kunye nabo bonke ubudlelwane ngokubanzi buhamba ngcono, kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba elikhulu, kwi isixa sothando esikwaziyo ukunika omnye nomnye.
Fumana uthando
Okwangoku, unokufumana kunzima ukufumana indlela yokukhathalela ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakho, akunjalo? Awuthengwa okanye uthengiswe, ufana nothando… ukhona nje kwaye kufuneka uzalwe ngaphakathi ukuze ube yinyani kwaye uyinyani. Awunakufuna ukuba abanye abantu bakunike uthando ukuba abaluvi ngenxa yakho… Kwaye awunako ukuzinyanzela ukuba unike abanye uthando ukuba awuva ukuba ulwenza ngokusuka entliziyweni. Ingangumntu wobuxoki kwaye akukho mntu ufuna abantu abanetyhefu ebajikelezile.
Kodwa, kufanelekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba sonke sinako ukunika uthando kwabanye okoko nje sinakho ukusebenza ngaphakathi kwethu: uvelwano, ukuzincama nokuzimisela. Sonke sinokufumana uthando nakubantu ebesingalindelanga okanye ebesingalindelanga. Ukuthandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo sisimo sengqondo esihle esigcwalisa imiphefumlo yethu ngee-caresses ezifunwayo.
Ukuba uqala ukuthathela ingqalelo izinto ezikungqongileyo, uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba uthando luza kuwe ngeendlela ezininzi. Ukuba iintsuku zihamba kwaye awukwazi ukufumanisa ukuba luvela phi uthando okanye ulwamkela njani, Kuya kufuneka ujonge ngaphezulu ... sikunceda.
Yiba nabantu abasondeleyo abakuthandayo. Yiba nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe abakuxabisayo nabakuthandayo, abakwaziyo ukumamela xa ufuna ukuthetha kwaye bakuqonde naxa kunzima ukwenza njalo. Ukuhleka kunye yindlela enamandla yokufumana amaxesha amabi.
Yenza ubuhlobo nabantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Abantwana banikela ngemfudumalo nothando ongasayi kulifumana ngenye indlela. Bacocekile, banyanisekile kwaye banothando lokuzinikela… Xa benika uthando bayenza ngokusuka emazantsi entliziyo. Abantu abadala, bona, ngabantu abazi kakhulu ngobomi kwaye bathetha nawe ngamava… baya kuhlala bethetha nawe ngothando, ukuba ubaphatha ngentlonipho kuqala.