Xa sithetha ngokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo sithetha oko ngenxa yolu hlobo lwezenzo, abantu banokubangela ukwenzakala emzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kwabanye. Iyakwazi ukusuka kumazwi ukuya ekuphathweni gadalala. Inokubandakanya ukonakalisa ipropathi yabanye. Ukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo kophula imida yentlalo phakathi kwabantu kwaye kunokukhokelela ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwane. Inokuba bubundlobongela obufihlakeleyo okanye obunganyanisekanga.
Ukuqubuka komsindo ngesiqhelo kuqhelekile kwaye kuqhelekile phantsi kweemeko ezifanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uthethe nogqirha wakho ukuba uziva uziphethe gadalala rhoqo okanye kwiipateni. Xa umntu onesimilo esiba ndlongondlongo usenokuziva ecaphukile okanye engenakuphumla, engxamile, angakufumana kunzima ukulawula izenzo zabo.
Umntu usenokungazi ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo ngokwasentlalweni. Ngamanye amaxesha unokwenza into enomsindo ngenjongo. Umzekelo, ungasebenzisa indlela yobundlongondlongo ukuziphindezela okanye ukumcaphukisa umntu. Unokwalathisa nokuziphatha gwenxa kuwe. Ukuqonda oonobangela bokuziphatha gwenxa kufuneka uzame ukujongana nayo.
Isizathu sokuba abantwana babe nogonyamelo
Kuyamangalisa njengoko kunokuvakala, ubundlongondlongo yinto eqhelekileyo ekukhuleni komntwana. Uninzi lwabantwana luchola izinto zokudlala koogxa babo eklasini, ukubetha, ukukhaba, okanye ukukhwaza ebusweni amaxesha ngamaxesha. Umntwana omncinci usafunda zonke iintlobo zezakhono ezitsha, ukusuka ekusebenziseni isikere ukuya ekuthetheni ngezivakalisi ezimbaxa. Umntwana unokucaphuka ngokulula kuyo yonke into azama ukuyifeza kwaye ekugqibeleni agqibe kumdlali odlala naye.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ufunda kwiziko lemfundo aqhele ukuba kude nekhaya, unokuziva enomsindo xa abanye abantwana behlekisa ngaye. Ngamanye amaxesha ubundlongondlongo bomntwana kunokuba ngenxa yokuba ediniwe okanye elambile kodwa engazi ukuba angayichaza njani indlela avakalelwa ngayo kwaye Kungenxa yoko le nto eyibonakalisa ngokuluma, ukubetha okanye ukuba nomsindo.
Kwanomntwana omdala ofunda esikolweni usenokuba nengxaki yokulawula umsindo wakhe. Ukukhubazeka ekufundeni kunokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukumamela, ukugxila, okanye ukufunda, kuthintela ukusebenza kwakho esikolweni kwaye kubangele unxunguphalo olungapheliyo. Okanye mhlawumbi ingxaki yengqondo (njengoqhawulo mtshato okanye ukugula kusapho) ibangela iintlungu nomsindo ongaphezulu kunakho.
Nokuba siyintoni na unobangela wengqumbo yomntwana, kunokwenzeka ukuba ekugqibeleni ayigqibe njengoko esiba nobuchule ekusebenziseni amagama kunokubetha ukusombulula iingxaki zakhe. Isitshixo kukukunceda uqonde, kungekudala, ukuba uya kufumana iziphumo ezingcono ngokuthetha ngento ekukhathazayo. Kunokutsala iinwele zalowo ufunda naye okanye udade wabo.
Oonobangela abanokubakho bokuKhathazwa kwabantwana
Zininzi izinto ezinokubumba isimilo somntwana. Oku kunokubandakanya impilo yomzimba, impilo yengqondo, ulwakhiwo losapho, ubudlelwane nabanye, umsebenzi okanye imeko yesikolo, ezentlalo okanye ezentlalo noqoqosho, iimpawu zomntu ngamnye kunye namava obomi.
Xa isenzeka kubantu abadala, inokusebenza ngenkani ekuphenduleni kumava amabi. Umzekelo, unokuba ndlongondlongo xa ukhathazekile. Ukuziphatha kwakho nochuku Inokunxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo, okanye ezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo.
Izizathu zempilo zokuziphatha gwenxa
Iimeko ezininzi zempilo yengqondo zinokuba negalelo ekuziphatheni okukhohlakeleyo. Umzekelo, le miqathango ibandakanya:
- Ingxaki yesifo sengqondo
- Ukuqwalaselwa kwentsilelo yokuchaphazeleka kwengqondo (ADHD)
- Ukuxhuzula
- I-Schizophrenia
- Yenza ukungahambi kakuhle
- Ukuphazamiseka okungapheliyo
- Uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo lwasemva (PTSD)
Umonakalo wobuchopho unokunciphisa umda kubuchule bakho bokulawula ubundlongondlongo. Unokufumana ukonakala kwengqondo ngenxa yokwenzakala kwengqondo, usulelo, okanye ezinye izifo.
Iimeko ezahlukeneyo zempilo zinegalelo kugonyamelo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, ukuba une-autism okanye i-bipolar disorder, unokwenza ngobundlongondlongo xa uziva ukhathazekile okanye ungakwazi ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba unengxaki yokuziphatha, uya kwenza ngolunya ngenjongo.
Oonobangela ebantwaneni
Ubundlongondlongo ebantwaneni bunokubangelwa zizinto ezininzi. Oku kunokubandakanya:
- Izakhono zobudlelwane obubi
- Iimeko zempilo ezisisiseko
- Uxinzelelo okanye unxunguphalo
Umntwana wakho unokulingisa indlela enomsindo okanye enobundlobongela ayibonayo kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Banokufumana ukhathalelo kumalungu osapho, kootitshala, okanye koontanga. Unokumkhuthaza ngengozi ngokungakhathaleli okanye ngokuvuza indlela aziphethe ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baphuma ngenxa yoloyiko okanye ukungaqiniseki. Oku kuqheleke ngakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho une-schizophrenia, paranoia, okanye ezinye iindlela zengqondo. Ukuba bane-bipolar disorder, banokwenza isenzo sobundlongondlongo ngexesha lesigaba semeko yabo. Ukuba banexinzelelo, banokwenza isenzo sobundlongondlongo xa besiva ukuba bacatshukisiwe.
Umntwana naye unokusebenza gadalala xa enengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Banokukufumanisa kunzima ngakumbi ukujongana nonxunguphalo. Oku kuqhelekile kubantwana abane-Autism spectrum disorder okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuba bayakhathazeka, banokungakwazi ukulungisa okanye ukuchaza imeko ebangela ukuba bakhathazeke. Oku kunokubakhokelela ekuboniseni ubundlongondlongo bomntwana.
Abantwana abane-ADHD okanye ezinye iingxaki zokuphazamiseka banokubonisa ukungakhathaleli okanye ukuqonda. Banokubonakala bengenangqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinokuthathwa ngokuba ndlongondlongo. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kwiimeko apho iindlela zabo zokuziphatha zingamkelekanga eluntwini.
Oonobangela kulutsha
Ukuziphatha gwenxa kulutsha kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Umzekelo, ulutsha oluninzi lukrwada okanye ngamanye amaxesha luyalwa. Nangona kunjalo, umntu okwishumi elivisayo unokuba nengxaki ngokuziphatha gwenxa ukuba uhlala esenza oku:
- Uyakhwaza kwincoko okanye kwiingxoxo
- Ukulwa nabanye
- Yoyikisa abanye
- Ngamanye amaxesha, banokwenza ngokuchasene nokuphendula:
- Ukuxinezeleka
- Ifuthe labangani
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi
- Ubudlelwane obungenampilo namalungu osapho okanye abanye abantu
Ukufikisa kunokuba lixesha loxinzelelo kulutsha oluninzi. Ukuba abayiqondi okanye abayazi indlela yokujamelana notshintsho ngexesha lokufikisa, umntwana wakho unokuziphatha gadalala. Ukuba banempilo yengqondo, inokuba negalelo ekuziphatheni okukhohlakeleyo.