Iingcebiso ezi-5 ezinokukunceda ukuba uhlala nomntu ochaphazeleke kukuphazamiseka engqondweni

Ukuhlala nomntu ochaphazeleke kukuphazamiseka engqondweni, nokuba kungaluphi na uhlobo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kwaye kungabeka impilo yomntu ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo ukuba izixhobo eziyimfuneko azaziwa kwaye zisetyenziselwa ukulawula ubomi bemihla ngemihla.

Lo mntu ugulayo unokuba ngumntwana, umzali, okanye iqabane lakho. Ingxaki yakho inokuthi ifunyanwe okanye ingafunyanwa. Unokwenza okanye awufumani unyango. Kodwa ngenye indlela, Ukuhlalisana imihla ngemihla kunzima kakhulu.

Ezi ngcebiso zi-5 ziya kukunceda kule ndlela inzima. Zisebenzise, ​​kwaye ubomi bakho, kunye naloo mntu uhlala nawe, uya kuthwala ngakumbi:

AMANQAKU E-1 AMANQAKU

Imida ibalulekile kubomi bomntu wonke. Bayasichaza kwaye babeke ucwangco kubudlelwane bethu nabanye. Imida yophawu apho uphela khona kwaye enye iqala phi, umvumela kangakanani ukuba ahambe nawe, kwaye ungayi kude kangakanani.

Imida esempilweni kwaye eguqukayo ithanda ubudlelwane kunye nokuhlala kunye.

Khawufane ucinge ngamaqanda amabini: ukuba oonokrwece bobabini baphukile, ingaphakathi lixubekile kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba kwahlulwe oko kukweqanda elinye okanye kwelinye. Imida yakho ligobolondo lakho, elichaza ukuba ngubani owahlukileyo kwabanye. Ukuba imida yakho ayichazwanga, ayizinzanga kwaye izinzile, ubuntu bakho buya kudibanisa nobabanye. Ngekhe wazi apho uphela khona kwaye baqala, yeyiphi eyakho kunye neyabanye.

Kunoko, Imida eqine kakhulu kwaye ingaguquguquki iya kukhokelela ekungaqondani. Kwaye ukuhlala kunye apho kungekho kuqonda okanye uvelwano kugwetyelwe ngqo kwintlekele.

Hlaziya ulindelo lwesibini

Mhlawumbi uphoxekile kwaye uyakhathazeka kuba ukuhlala nesosizalwane kuyinto ekude kakhulu kunaleyo ubucinga ukuba inokuba yiyo.

Ayisiyiyo le nto ubuyilindele. Kodwa akukho mntu ukuxelele ukuba kuya kuba njalo. Ngapha koko, kunqabile ukuba zizinto ebomini njengoko sizicinge njalo. Kwaye umntu onesifo, izinto zihlala zibi kakhulu.

Chaza kwakhona okulindelekileyo:

-Sukulindela ukuba isimilo okanye iimpendulo onokuzilindela kumntu "oqhelekileyo".

-Unganyanzelisi ukuba ufune ukugcina ulindelo ozibekele lona nokuba ungubani na.

-Sukuba nobukrakra ucinga ukuba "ngenxa yaloo mntu" awungekhe uphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo.

Izinto akufuneki zibe ngcono okanye zibe mbi kunokuba ubucinga, zahlukile.

Yiba bhetyebhetye, uvumelane neemeko, kwaye nonke niya kuphila ngcono.

3º Guqula utshintsho lwakho lwangaphakathi

- Ayilotyala lakho.

- Awunakho ukuyilawula.

- Awungekhe uyinyange.

Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uthathe uxanduva olungangqinelani nawe, Ewe, ukongeza ekuzenzakaliseni, ubandeza omnye ukuzimela kwabo, ilungelo labo lokwenza izigqibo zabo, kunye noxanduva lwabo lokuthatha uxanduva ngobomi babo, ngokulungileyo okanye okubi.

Ungamnceda, kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba alwamkele uncedo lwakho.

Unokumcebisa, kodwa akanyanzelekanga ukuba alandele ingcebiso yakho.

Ungamxhasa, kodwa kufuneka umvumele ukuba ahambe yedwa.

4º ISALATHISO

Ingaba ithetha ntoni? Ewe, wena, njengomntu onxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo nesigulana, ufumana amandla amaninzi angalunganga awanikayo. Ngamanye amagama, utya isimo sabo sengqondo esingathandekiyo, ukuba ndlongondlongo kwabo, umsindo wabo, iminqweno yabo. Kulungile, akanatyala xa kusenzeka kuye, kodwa nawe awunatyala.

Ngokuqinisekileyo i-Therapist okanye ugqirha okunyangayo akayityi yonke loo nto ivelayo.

Lowo ngumahluko: zibonisa zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye nokuziphatha kwesigulana, kodwa wena, ngonxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo, uzifunxe.

Funda ukubonakalisa nabo. Babuyisele kumnini wabo ofanelekileyo. Ukuba uyazigcina, akasokuze afunde ukuzilawula.

Ukuziphatha kakubi kwilungu losapho lwakho: ayichasananga nawe. Asinto yobuqu. Kuphela kukuba usemgceni wangaphambili womlilo kwaye uthatha ukubetha ngamandla apheleleyo.

Ndiyazi ukuba akukho lula, kodwa phinda rhoqo, ngalo lonke ixesha kuvela ingxaki, ngokungathi yimantra:

-Ayonto yobuqu.

- Akuchasene nam.

- Andinatyala, nokuba ndizama ukukholelwa.

Kuya kukunceda ugcine unetyala.

5 YAMKELE

Ukwamkelwa kwale meko kubalulekile. Lumka! Ukwamkelwa akuthethi ukurhoxa. Ukwamkelwa kuthatha izinto njengoko zinjalo, ngaphandle kwedrama ebaxwayo. Yamkela eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka, eyona meko inokwenzeka, kwaye ukusuka apho, inyathelo ngalinye oza kulithatha iya kuba kukuphucula.

Ukuyamkela akuthethi ukuba kufuneka yenzekile. Akho ndlela yimbi. Kuthetha ukuba ukulungele ukuyithatha, kwaye uyazi, kwaye ngaphandle koku, uyakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngaphandle kokubandezeleka ngokungenamsebenzi.

Ukuba ulandela ezi ngcebiso zi-5, ukuhlala nalo mntu umthandayo onengxaki yokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngengqondo kuya kuphucula kakhulu, impilo yakho iya kukubulela, kwaye ukuba uphilile, ngokungathandabuzekiyo uya kuba kwimeko engcono yokunceda loo mntu.

Wonke umntu uya kuphumelela.

Ukuba ulithandile eli nqaku, cinga ngokwabelana ngalo nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe. Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngenkxaso yakho.

UAnna Traver, umqeqeshi kunye nomcebisi, ukubuyisa inkohliso kunye nomakhi weendlela zokuhamba ezikhuselekileyo kumhlaba wentlabathi. Ibhlog yam, Itwitter yam kunye neFacebook yam.