Abasetyhini zizinto ezizodwa ezikhethekileyo, kwaye bahlukile emadodeni ikakhulu ngenxa yokuntsonkotha kokucinga nokwenza kwabo. Kungenxa yoko le nto amanye amadoda ehlala ekufumanisa kunzima ukujongana nabasetyhini, nokuba kungenxa yokuba bengenamava okanye bengazi ukuba bajongane njani neentlobo ezithile zabasetyhini. Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikubonisa iingcebiso ezithile malunga woyise umfazi; ezakusebenza ngokubanzi.
Njani ukurhwebesha umfazi?
Ukoyisa umfazi ayisiyonto ilula, kodwa kweli nqaku sivelisa iingcebiso eziluncedo, eziyinyani kunye nezisebenzayo zokuphepha ukusilela kwinkqubo.
Yiba yingqondi, gcina iinjongo zakho zifihliwe
Impazamo eqhelekileyo iqhele ukuza nomfazi kusekutsha kakhulu; ngaphandle kokubuza malunga nezinto abazithandayo, iminqweno yabo okanye imeko yabo yovuyo. Eli linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu lokuba, nokuba siyintoni na isiphumo, uya kuphawula kwangaphambili nasemva kokuqhubana naye.
Eyona nto inobulumko ukoyisa umntu wasetyhini kukuba yingqondi xa kuziwa kwiimvakalelo kunye neenjongo. Imfihlakalo yinto eluncedo kakhulu ekuthandaneni, kuba ngayo inzala iye yafakwa, kwaye iingcinga ezithile ziyavuselelwa eziya kuthi zikhuthaze ukukhula komtsalane, kwaye kamva uthando.
Ukuba uveza iimvakalelo zakho kuye kwakamsinya, okanye ngendlela engenangqondo, uya kuphelela umgxotha; Kuba awuyilungisanga ingqondo yakhe ukuba iyicwangcise ngendlela eyinzuzo kuwe. Ngaphambi kokuzibhengeza, kubalulekile ukuba uzazise, umqhele kancinci kubukho bakho, kwaye ube nezimbo zomzimba kuye. Ngale nto, uya kuzenzela umhlaba ebomini bakhe, kwaye kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukungena kuwo ngokupheleleyo.
Thatha ithuba lokulunga kwakho
Xa kuziwa ekuzaziseni, abantu basetyhini bahlala begqamile kunamadoda. Nangona kunjalo, kwinkqubo yokwamkeleka kunye nokuvisisana nomfanekiso wabo, amadoda athambekele ekuboniseni iziphumo ezingcono. Nangona kunjalo, okwangoku lo mahluko kufuneka uwele kwaye unike ubunzima obulinganayo kuzo zombini.
Ukuba uyabuza Ungamrhwebesha njani umntu obhinqileyo uziva unomdla, kuya kufuneka uqale ngokwazi ukuba zeziphi izinto onokuzitsalela kuye, kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka uzazi. Oku kuthetha ukuba kucace ngamandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, ukomelela kunye nobuthathaka bakho; ukuze basebenzise okuhle nokulungileyo.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini lunomdla amadoda abonisa ukhuseleko oluninzi ukwenzeka kwayo kwemihla ngemihla; kunjalo nobuhlobo, imbeko kwaye iluncedo; banoburharha kwaye bayamhlekisa. Abo bathatha izigqibo ezikhawulezileyo, ezinobuchule nezisebenzayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi babo.
Ngokuzazi, unokwenza uthelekiso phakathi kobuntu bakho kunye nezinto eziqhelekileyo ezinje ngezi zichazwe apha ngasentla; Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba ujolise ekuqaqambiseni abo banokusebenzela fumana le ntombazana ingqalelo uyithanda kangakanani. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabafazi.
Khathalela inkangeleko yakho ukoyisa umfazi
Nje ukuba inqanaba lokufikisa lidlule kwaye emva kokuba bephila uthando lwabo lokuqala, abafazi bayaqonda ukuba imfezeko ayikho. Kungenxa yoko le nto, nangona begcina ulindelo lokufumana iqabane okanye umthandi ongumzekelo, bathambekele ekubeni bhetyebhetye kwinkqubo yokukhetha, ngakumbi kwinkangeleko yomzimba. Ngapha koko, okwangoku unokuqinisekisa ukuba amadoda afunwa ngakumbi.
Kukho inkolelo ephosakeleyo yokuba kufuneka ubengumfana omhle onaye Umzimba olungileyo ukutsala umdla, kwaye woyise nentombazana. Ewe kuyinyani ukuba ukubonakala kakuhle komzimba kuyinzuzo xa kufikwa ekufumaneni iqabane: kodwa ubuntu kunye nohlobo lophuhliso endodeni ebomini zizinto ezinobunzima kwinkqubo yoloyiso. Nanku ukubaluleka kwenqaku elidlulileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukuwutyeshela umfanekiso wakho kuba abantu basetyhini abanamzimba kangako kukhetho lwabo. Inkangeleko ecocekileyo, incasa elungileyo enxibe, okanye imikhwa eyahlukeneyo ebonakaliswa kwimikhwa xa usitya, umzekelo, ziimpawu zokuntsonkotha okunomtsalane kubo. Ukuba awunasiqu side, izihlunu ezichaziweyo okanye ubuso obuhle kakhulu, oku akufuneki kukuyekise, njengoko unokusebenzisa la malungu angasentla kunye nezinto ezintle kubuntu bakho.
Buza malunga nezinto abanomdla kuzo
Xa ucinga ngendlela yokoyisa umfazi yenye yezinto ekufuneka ize engqondweni yakho kukuba umazi. Ngale ndlela, unokuyicacisa kakuhle imidlalo yakho ukuze umtsalele. Ukuba uyamthanda kungekuphela ngenxa yomzimba wakhe, ukuba sele ukwazi okuthile ngobuntu bakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo oku akuyi kukuthatha umsebenzi omninzi, kwaye kuya kuba lula kuwe.
Ngexesha apho wabelana nabo, kwiincoko zodwa, kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo, okanye umyalezo wangoko nangoko ... Zonke ezi meko ziya kufuna ukuba uvule amehlo neendlebe ukuze wazi ukuba bathanda ntoni, yintoni abangayithandiyo, yintoni bayakuthanda, bayakukhathaza, okanye bakucaphukise. Oku kuya kukunceda uqinisekise kwakhona umfanekiso owenzileyo, ngenxa yoko, umdla wakhe. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umthanda kakhulu, ukumazi kuya kukunceda unikele ingqalelo kwinto akuxelela yona (ngaphandle kokuba kukufela ukholo okanye uyakruqula) kwaye ungene kwezinye iinkcukacha ukuze umthande.
Nikela ingqalelo kumazwi abo
Abasetyhini bahlala bephulaphula kakuhle kubo abahlobo, abahlobo kunye neqabane, Ngendlela efanayo, bayathanda ukuthetha malunga nezinto ezenza usuku lwabo usuku okanye ubomi babo bonke. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuba yindlebe elungileyo kubalulekile ekwenzeni ukuba bathandane.
Ukoyisa umntu wasetyhini kufuneka uyaphule le miqobo, kwaye unikele ingqalelo kwinto ayithethayo kuwe. Oku kuyahambelana nengcebiso engentla, ukudibana nayo. Iya kukunceda kunye nemidlalo yakho elandelayo. Kwakhona, ukuba uziva ekhathalelwe, uya kumtyisa umlinganiso wakhe kunye nomdla wakhe kuwe. Okwangoku kuyakubanzima kuwe ukukhumbula into endikhe ndayithetha kuwe, imihla ebalulekileyo njengomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe, okanye ukuba uzifumanele into ayithandayo okanye emcaphukisayo, kwaye uyivakalise kuye. Oku kuyakumangalisa, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo.
Zama ukuba ngumthengisi
Ukuqwalaselwa kuhlala kudidekile kunye neenkcukacha; Zombini ziyancedisana, kwaye ziyimfuneko enkulu, kodwa kufuneka ufunde ukudlala nazo. Ukuba ngumthengisi akuthethi ukuba uyarhaxwa zizipho ezithengwe komnye umntu. Yinto eyenzeka kwimicimbi yemihla ngemihla, ekwabelaneni ngezinto onazo, okanye ube nezimbo zomzimba ezizodwa kubo.
Kwinkcubeko eyaziwayo, ukubonelela ngezipho kumfazi kubonisa enye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokubonisa umdla okanye uthando kuye. Ngapha koko, phantse onke amadoda ayisebenzisela ukuphumelela umfazi. Nangona kunjalo, eli likrele elintlangothi-mbini ngokwenene.
Kukho abantu ababhinqileyo abakwaziyo kakhulu obu buchule bokudlala ngothando, abanokuyithathela ingqalelo njengokucekisa; baninzi abantu abaziva bethandwa ngokwenene kwaye bencedwa yile miqondiso. Nangona, ukunika izipho ezininzi okanye uhlala ungoyena mntu umema ngebali ukuba sisimo sengqondo sendoda esinokutsala abantu basetyhini abanomdla, ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ngelixa usenza obu buchule, jonga indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
Isingqisho esiqhelekileyo kukunika ukufumana; Xa unika into kwintombazana, iya kuziva ithabile kwaye inombulelo, kwaye ukuba iyahambelana nawe, uya kufumana indlela yokuba nesenzo esifanayo kuwe. Ukuba akunjalo, unokunyanzelisa ngaphezulu, usebenzisa ezinye iindlela ngokudibeneyo. Ukuba awuyiboni inkqubela phambili, unokuvavanya ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ayiboniswanga.
Yiba nembeko
Konke ubudlelwane busebenza ngokusekwe kwintlonipho, kuba yenye yeentsika ezisisiseko. Ukuba abukho, obo budlelwane okanye ubudlelwane obunokubakho buya kugwetywa. Khumbula ukuba abantu basetyhini banokukhubekiswa zizinto amadoda angenako ukuzenza, ke kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kumagama nakwindlela ocinga ngayo.
Asibhekiseli kuphela ekuphathweni gadalala, into ehamba ngaphandle kokutsho ukuba sesona senzo sobugwala nesona sincinci sobudoda esikhoyo. Kodwa ngendlela ozibonakalisa ngayo kuye, umzekelo, ukumnika iziteketiso ezingangathandi kuye, ukwenza amagqabantshintshi ezesondo okanye ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo.
Imeko embi nayo iyasebenza
Oku kunokuba kuphikisana ngokuchaseneyo noko kwakuphakanyisiwe kwiingcebiso zangaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, inyani kukuba ukulingana kufuneka kufumaneke phakathi kobubi nentlonipho. Abasetyhini bayayixabisa imbeko kunye nemiboniso ecacileyo yayo; kodwa bayathanda ukunqweneleka.
Kule ndawo awufanele ucinezele amandla akho obudoda kumanqanaba amakhulu; Endaweni yoko, unokuhamba kancinci kwaye uyisebenzisele inzuzo yakho. Ukuncoma okuchuliweyo ngenkangeleko yakhe yomsitho othile, okanye uluvo oluhlekisayo olunxulumene nomtsalane wakhe kuye phakathi kwincoko zizinto eziphambili zokuhlasela iingcinga zakhe.
Kuxhomekeka kwinqanaba lokuthembela okukhoyo phakathi kwakho, le midlalo kufuneka ibeneqondo elinye okanye elinye. Ukuba sele uthandana ixesha elithile, kwaye ebethandana nawe, ebamba isandla sakhe, emwola okanye ephulula izidlele zakhe kwimeko ethile iya kuba sisenzo esiya kumkholisa ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa, ukuba ngumhla wokuqala, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo into yokuba izijekulo ezinje zinokumenza angakhululeki, kwaye zimcaphukise ngenxa yokungazithembi; Ayicetyiswa konke konke ngaphandle kokuba ikunike imiqondiso yokuba unakho.
Baninzi abantu ababhinqileyo, abaqhele ukubonisa ngokucacileyo malunga nezinto abazifunayo, kwaye banokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwezi nkalo. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, kuya kufuneka udlale ngononophelo ngendlela efanayo. Ukuba ezi azizizo ngokucacileyo izinto, isikhundla sakho se-knight ngamaxesha athile siya kuba neziphumo ezingcono kunempendulo engalawulekiyo engalawulekiyo enokuba krwada kuye.
Ukoyisa umfazi, soloko unguye
Ukufumana ingqalelo yabasetyhini (kunye nabani na kuyo nayiphi na intsimi, enyanisweni) kukho umgaqo osisiseko kwaye ungagungqi: Yiba nguwe.
Phantse bonke abantu basetyhini bavakalisa umnqweno wabo wokufumana indoda ngexesha elithile ebomini babo ukumamela, ukuba nobuhlobo, ukuphendula, ubundlobongela kunye nembeko… Nangona kunjalo, bawuxabisile ngakumbi lo mfanekiso ukuba uyinyani. Amadoda amaninzi, azimisele ukufezekisa injongo yokwenza intombazana iwele eluthandweni, yenza inguqulelo yenkosana enomtsalane; okanye ngokulula, sele befumene ukuthanda kwabo, bazenza ngathi bayile nto bayifunayo. Oku kuyakuvelisa iziphumo eziphumeleleyo kuphela xa intombazana ingayiqondi i-charade ngexesha elifanelekileyo, okanye ukuba iphela isamkela esi simo sengqondo ngokusisigxina. Ngaphandle koko, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, iziphumo ziya kubulala: ukuphoxeka kunye nokungabi namdla kuye.
Ukunyaniseka kuxabiseke kakhulu ngabantu namhlanje. Ukutsala okanye ukuthanda umntu akufuneki kube zizizathu ezixhasa utshintsho olukhulu kubuntu babantu, ngakumbi ukuba lutshintsho lomzuzwana. Olu tshintsho kufuneka luvele ngaphakathi komntu ngamnye ukuze athathwe njengokwenyani.
Ke ngoko, emva kokufunda lonke icebiso eliphakanyisiweyo, akukho nto iyenye ngaphandle kokucebisa ukuba uhlale unguye. Siyathemba ukuba ulithandile eli nqaku ngendlela yokoyisa umfazi, kwaye ikwancede ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho.