Xa umntwana esiba ndlongondlongo kuyadingeka ukujongana nengxaki. Kwimeko yokuqala kukho abazali kunye nootitshala kodwa ukuba uyabona ukuba ubundlobongela bomntwana wakho buqala ukuba yingxaki enkulu Cinga ngokufuna uncedo olukhethekileyo.
Kodwa yintoni unobangela wesimo sengqondo sobundlongondlongo somntwana? Ukungahoywa kwabazali okanye ukungabikho komlinganiswa wokufunda ikhadi? Ngaba inemvelaphi yemithambo-luvo? Ngayiphi na imeko, le ngxaki ingasombululwa ngemfundo elungileyo, umsebenzi wabazali kunye nootitshala.
Masibone ukuba ziintoni Izinto eziphambili kunyango ngokuchasene nobundlongondlongo bomntwana:
1) Chonga ukuba zeziphi iimeko okanye yeyiphi abantu onobundlobongela kubo.
2) Fumanisa kutheni umntwana ephendula ngogonyamelo: Ngaba uziva ukhathazekile, ungazi naluphi na olunye uhlobo lokuphendula, ngaba unengxaki yokujongela phantsi, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ngaba uyathandana ...? Kuhlala kukho isizathu. Kungumsebenzi wengcali ukufumana ukuthembela komntwana kwaye uzame ukufikelela kwingcambu yengxaki.
3) Ukohlwaya umvuzo: Ngokucacileyo, utshintsho oluqinisekileyo olwenzeka emntwaneni kufuneka luqiniswe ngemivuzo encinci kunye nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo ukohlwaywa ngokungapheliyo.
Lumkela amabhaso! Ungatshintsha kuphela indlela oziphethe ngayo ngenxa yomdla wakho. Yiphephe imivuzo yezinto eziphathekayo.
4) Lumkela iimodeli zakho: Umntwana kufuneka akhuthazwe ukuba athande abantu abaziphethe kakuhle. Lo ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye ufuna ukungqinelana.
Khangela naziphi na izinto ozithandayo onazo kwaye ikunike umzekelo omhle ehambelana nomdlalo owuthandayo.
Ukuba uthanda iifilimu ezinobundlobongela okanye imidlalo yevidiyo ikunika izinto ezisemgangathweni ezikhuthaza ixabiso elithile (zininzi imidlalo yevidiyo efundisayo enayo Imiceli mngeni enomtsalane ekufuneka yoyiswe).
5) Ukufundisa iindlela zokuphumla.
6) Faka imidlalo ebomini bakho.
Ukuzivocavoca i-catharsis ebalaseleyo. Ungawasebenzisa amandla akho ukuphumelela ngenye indlela kwaye uzive wonwabile ngayo.
7) Lumka nabahlobo.
Kukho ubuhlobo obukhuthaza ubundlobongela. Kwakhona umdlalo uya kudlala. Kukho imidlalo yeqela eyindlela elungileyo yokufumana abahlobo abatsha nabasempilweni.