Uthando yingcinga enokuthi ihlale iphazamisekile, kwaye kukuba kufuneka siyicace loo nto kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando, ngendlela efanayo nokuba isetyenziswa njenge-axis apho ukukhathazeka kwentliziyo kunye nezinye izinto ezinobungozi ezonakalisa abantu nazo ziyavela. Ke ngoko, ngeli xesha siza kuzama Chaza ukuba yintoni uthando kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke siya kuhlalutya okona kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ingcaciso yothando
Kwindawo yokuqala siza kuqala ngokuchaza uthando njengengqondo ngokubanzi, oko kukuthi, asizukugxila ekuchazeni iintlobo, kodwa sizakuyiphatha ngokwembono ngokubanzi, kwaye ngale ndlela Bathetha ngombono ojolise kwi ubudlelwane obukhoyo phakathi kwezinto ezahlukeneyo, Ukuseka imvakalelo yothando esikhokelela ekubeni sisabele kuloo nto ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngokuthelekiswa nezinye.
Ngale ndlela, kufanele ukuba kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho thando kuphela phakathi kwabantu, kodwa ikwaqwalaselwa nothando xa ubudlelwane busekiwe phakathi kwezilwanyana okanye naphakathi kwabantu nezilwanyana, okoko nje kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwazo olubakhokelela ekubeni babe nolwalamano olunzulu nolwahlukileyo.
Ewe akufuneki sicinge ukuba uthando luthetha ukuba kukho ubunyani ngokwesini, kodwa singathetha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo iimvakalelo kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lothando ekubhekiswa kulo, ukuze kuthiwe luthando okanye uvakalelo lwe-asexual inokuba yintoni, umzekelo, umntu oziva engutata ngonyana okanye ngokuchaseneyo.
Ngendlela efanayo sikwafumana ezinye iintlobo zothando ngokuxhomekeke kwisantya esenziwe ngalo, kwimeko apho singathetha ngaso Uthando lweplato, Kwaye nangokwembono yenkolo siza kuseka uthando olwahlukileyo.
Ngale ndlela, siluqonda uthando njengothotho lweemvakalelo eziveliswa ngokubhekisele kwinto ethile, enokuvela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane obusekwe kunye naloo nto.
Lwazi lonke uthando
Ngokusekwe kwinkcazo yangaphambili, kufuneka siqonde ukuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando, esiza kuzimela apha ngezantsi ukuze siqonde ngcono uthando kunye nendlela ephuhla ngayo ngokusekwe kwimigaqo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni.
Uthando lomtshato
Nguye uthando olumiselweyo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana nakuzo zombini iindlela, ezibandakanya nezinye iintlobo ezinje nge uthando lobuzalwana ebezakuba yintoni uthando phakathi kwabantakwabo ababininokuba ngabazalwana begazi okanye hayi.
Uthando olungenamiqathango
Kwelinye icala, sinothando olungenamiqathango, ekuthi umntu azinikele ngokupheleleyo komnye ngaphandle kokulindela mbuyekezo, kwaye umzekelo olungileyo wolu hlobo lothando kukuba Ikholwa liziva libhekise kuThixo walo, okanye uthando luziva ngabo bathembekileyo omnye komnye esekwe kwimanyano esekwe yinkolelo yenkolo.
Kule meko sinokugxininisa ukuba uthando lwefilial lukwanalo nothando olungenamiqathango, kuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba utata anike yonke into ngabantwana bakhe engalindelanga ukuba ibuyiswe.
Uthando lukaPlato
El Uthando lweplato lolunye uhlobo lothando olujolise kulo Uluvo lukaPlato ngale mvakalelo, nangona kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba ihlala iphazanyiswa luthando oluphindiweyo okanye uthando olungenakwenzeka, kodwa le yimpazamo ukusukela Uthando lukaPlato lujolise kwimfuno yokucinga ngobuhle, yiyo loo nto xa siziva ukuthanda umntu ukuqala ukumbona, Sithi uthando lweplato.
Umzekelo olungileyo kuxa sibona intombazana ebonakala inomtsalane kuthi kwaye intle, kwaye nangona sidibene nayo kwaye kungekho sizathu sokwenene sokuziva ngathi, inyani kukuba kukho into eyenzekayo ngaphakathi kwethu, kodwa uthando lukaPlato alugxili kuphela kwinto esiza kuyibiza ngokuba luthando lwe-eros, kodwa sinako uzive uthando lweplato nakwizilwanyana, izinto kunye nayo nayiphi na into oko kusingqongile, okoko nje kuvelisa obo buhle busitsala ngandlela thile.
Kubalulekile ukubeka ingqalelo kuthando lweplatonic akukho nto yesondo, kuba ayijolisanga kugxila kuloo mntu, kodwa ijolise kwi Ukugqwesa okungaphaya kobuhle kufanelekile.
Uthando eros
Yinto esiyaziyo njengothando ngokwenkcazo, oko kukuthi, yiyo uthando lomntu esihlala sijolise kumntu othile kwaye sahluke kakhulu kuthando okanye iimvakalelo esinokuziva sinazo kwabanye.
Kuthetha ubungqongqo obukhulu kwaye ityhalele nzulu kokubini kwinqanaba leemvakalelo kunye nomzimba, ukudala ukubonakala okungafaniyo nezinye iintlobo zothando kuba ikwanayo nemonogram yendalo, kuba akunakulindeleka ukuba ive. abantu ababini ngexesha elinye.
Kunjalo akufuneki sibhidanise uthando lwe-eros kunye nomtsalane womzimba, kuba nangona olu hlobo luthando luthetha ukuba neentlobano zesini, alujoli ngqo kulo, kodwa lusebenzisa njengesixhobo ukuze sikwazi ukwenza nzulu ubudlelwane.
Uthando lukaLudus
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kukho olu hlobo lothando olujolise kwi ubudlelwane obudlalayoOko kukuthi, apha siza kuthetha la Umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngokukodwa, ukuze kungabikho luhlobo lothando kodwa kuphela ukudlala ngokwesondo phakathi kwabantu ababini okanye nangaphezulu.
Rhoqo, abantu abalandela olu hlobo lothando banobunzima ekumiseni oko kubizwa ngokuba luthando lwe-eros, nangona ngenxa yeendlela zokuziphatha ekuhlaleni kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubo ukuba bazame ukuyiphumeza, kodwa kuyacaca ukuba ayisiyonto inokunyanzelwa, ke ukuba sinokuziva sitsala umntu kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba sithandana kwinqanaba lothando lwe-eros.
Ngale ndlela, abaxhasi bothando lwe-ludus ngokubanzi banobunzima bokuzibophelela, kwaye ngokweemvakalelo bahlala bekude nabantu ababangqongileyo.