Ukulingana kwabasetyhini kuye kwaxhumaxhuma kwaye kwagqitywa kule minyaka ilikhulu idlulileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho izithintelo ezibekwe kwabasetyhini ngokwasentlalweni kwaye, ngelishwa, ngamanye amabhinqa. Amanye amabinzana abethelelwe kuluntu lwethu njengokuncoma kunye nemibuzo ayibi kwaphela.
Jonga la mabinzana asi-8 abafazi mabayeke ukuthi omnye komnye.
1) "Khohlwa ngaye ... nangona kunjalo, umhle."
Uninzi lwabafazi bathetha oku ngeenjongo ezilungileyo. Mhlawumbi iqabane lomhlobo wakho belingathembekanga kuye. Bafuna ukonwabisa umhlobo wabo kwaye babeke uncumo ebusweni bakhe, kodwa babeka ixabiso elikhulu kubuhle. Oku kuthetha ukuba abasetyhini bayakhuphisana, kwaye loo nto intle luphawu oluyimpumelelo kwabasetyhini. Ayisiyonyani kwaphela.
2) «Ngaba wehlile emzimbeni? Ubonakala umhle kakhulu!"
Ngaphandle kokuba omnye umfazi uzama ukunciphisa umzimba, Ukuncoma akufuneki kunxulunyaniswe nobunzima bomzimba. Oku kunokukhokelela kwabasetyhini ekucingeni ukuba ukuzithemba kwabo kuxhomekeke kubunzima babo.
3) "Ulibhityile, yitya ihambhega!"
Oku kuthetha njengengcebiso, kodwa abafazi abaninzi kunzima ukufumana ubunzima, kwaye ukuxelelwa ukuba kufuneka batyebe kwezi zinto kunokuba yingozi kakhulu kwaye kuyacaphukisa.
4) "Amakhwenkwe akhetha olu hlobo lomzimba."
Kwakhona sibeka ixabiso eligqithisileyo kubuhle nakwimbonakalo yomzimba, sithatha ezinye iimpawu ezinje ngobukrelekrele, uburharha okanye umntu olungileyo.
Ukumisela imigangatho yobuhle besetyhini kunokuba yingozi kakhulu. Eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka uyenzile kukuba usempilweni kwaye wonwabe emzimbeni wakho.
Ndizokushiya ividiyo emfanelayo njengeglavu okwangoku. Ibizwa ngokuba sisihloko "Iimbonakalo zobuhle zithoba isidima sakho":
5) "Utshata nini?"
Ngaba kunyanzelekile na ukuba uxinzelelo kumbandela ontununtunu ngolu hlobo? Kuthekani ukuba utshata ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwentlalo ngaphandle kokuqiniseka ngokupheleleyo?
Umtshato uzikhethela kwaye uninzi lwabasetyhini alunamdla ekutshateni. Oku kunokwenza umfazi azive enyanzelekile ukuba asithethelele isigqibo sakhe.
6) "uzomzala nini umntwana?"
Lo ngowona mbuzo mibi ukubuza umntu wasetyhini. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba enze esidlangalaleni ukuba kutheni engengomama. Inokuba kungenxa yokuba awufuni, awunakho okanye awuqinisekanga ngobuhlobo bakho.
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngumama sisigqibo esibaluleke kakhulu kwaye abanye abantu basetyhini bakhetha nje ukungabi nabantwana. Olu khetho lomntu siqu alufunanga kugwetyelwa.
7) "Abafazi bayaphambana."
Uninzi lwezinto eziqhelekileyo azichanekanga kwaye oku akunjalo. Ezi ntlobo zeengxelo zenza umfanekiso ongalunganga wabafazi. Luluvo olubi nolungachanekanga.
8) "Kutheni uwedwa?"
Lo mbuzo undikhumbuza inombolo 6. Ngaba ngenene umfazi kufuneka azithethelele ngokuba kutheni egqibe ekubeni angabinalo iqabane?
Akukho mntu uzithembileyo ubotshelelwe ekubeni neqabane okanye hayi. Zininzi izizathu zokuba ungabikho kubudlelwane. Akunyanzelekanga kobu bomi ukuba neqabane.
Yeyiphi kule mibuzo okanye amabinzana oyithiyileyo? Ngaba unokucinga ngamanye amagama angalunganga? Shiya uluvo lwakho.
Ukuba ulithandile eli nqaku, cinga ngokwabelana ngalo nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe. Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngenkxaso yakho.[imephu]