Ukuzithemba kubalulekile kuluntu esihlala kulo, kuba kuphela kwaye sinombulelo kuwo apho siya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo nabanye. Ngokwenyani, ukuzithemba kuthathwa njengolona hlobo lonxibelelwano kunye nokuziphatha. Isivumela ukuba silawule iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo kwaye sakhe kwaye sigcine ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nathi kunye nabanye. Amalungelo okuqinisekisa nawo ayimfuneko kunxibelelwano lwabantu.
Ukuqinisekisa ngokubanzi, ingqondo kunye nemeko yezentlalo eziququzelela ukufezekiswa kweenjongo zomntu kunye nezobugcisa. Inezibonelelo ezininzi kwaye yiyo loo nto sesinye sezakhono abantu abaninzi abafuna ukuziphucula ukuphucula indlela yabo yokuphila kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Yindlela eya kwinkululeko yokucinga, ukuthembeka kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala kuluntu oluhambelanayo.
Ukuziqinisekisa ebantwini
Ukuqinisekisa kubhekisa kubuchule obunzima bokucinga, phendula ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uziphathe ngendlela engacacanga kodwa kwangaxeshanye ngendlela engenaburhalarhume. Umntu ozithembayo uya kuba nakho ukuveza izimvo zakhe elubala, abonakalise iimvakalelo zabo, iimfuno zabo kunye neminqweno yabo ngendlela ebonisa ukuhlonipha amalungelo abo kodwa kwanamalungelo abanye.
Yonke le nto yaziwa njengombono wobubanzi obuninzi kwaye ukuze ufumane izibonelelo zale ndlela yokunxibelelana kunye nokuziphatha, umntu kufuneka abe neendlela ezininzi. Iipatheni zokucinga (ukucinga ngengqiqo), ukuqonda iipateni zeemvakalelo zakho kunye nendlela yokuziqhelanisa neemvakalelo zangaphakathi kwiindlela zokuziphatha eziqwalaselweyo kufuneka kujongwane nazo njengonxibelelwano lomlomo nolungathethiyo kunye nolawulo ngokubanzi lobudlelwane boluntu.
Sebenzisa ukuzithemba
Ukuphucula ukuzithemba, amathandabuzo, abantu kufuneka bayenze kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba nakho ukuziqhelanisa namaxesha angcono. Ukuqinisekisa kufuneka ibe yeyona ndlela iphambili kunxibelelwano nakwindlela oziphatha ngayo kuba iya kuba namandla aneleyo okulungisa iingcinga zakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kunye nesabanye. Ukuze ube nokuzithemba kubalulekile ukwazi Athini amalungelo akho okuqinisekisa, ukuze uwabange kuwe kwaye uwahlonele kwabanye.
Namhlanje kukho uluhlu oluninzi lwamalungelo okuqinisekisa, amanye made kunamanye. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba akukho luhlu luchaziweyo malunga namalungelo okuqinisekisa, kwiimeko ezininzi kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba isikhokele. Lonke olu luhlu luziingxelo ezizimeleyo, kodwa eyona nto ibenza ukuba basebenze kwimeko-bume yophuhliso yezo zivela kwimigaqo esisiseko yokuqinisekisa: ukufumana inkululeko esemthethweni, ukuthembeka kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Konke oku, ngelixa ubonakalisa intlonipho kwenye, ngaphandle kokwenzakalisa abanye abantu okanye okusingqongileyo. Amalungelo oluntu asisiseko kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba afana, kodwa gxila okokugqibela kwimeko zonxibelelwano phakathi konxibelelwano lomntu.
Kutheni le nto kulungile ukuzithemba?
Xa uqinisekile uya kuziva ukhululekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzityhila kwaye ubonakalise iingcinga zakho kunye neminqweno yakho ngamazwi, ngezenzo okanye ngezenzo. Uya kuhlala uziva ngoluhlobo: 'Ndim lo, yile nto ndiyicingayo, ndiyifunayo kwaye ndiziva'.
Ukongeza, uya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana nabantu balo naluphi na uhlobo okanye inqanaba, nokuba lolosapho, abahlobo, abantu ongabaziyo, abaphathi beenkampani, iingcali, njl. Unxibelelwano luya kuhlala luyinto evulekileyo, ethe ngqo, ethembekileyo kwaye eyaneleyo emnyango.
Abantu abanesimbo sokuqinisekisa baya kuba nokuziqhelanisa nokusebenza okungcono ebomini, baya kuyazi into abayifunayo, bayifuna nini kwaye bayifuna njani. Baza kuzama ukwenza izinto zenzeke kwaye oko banako engqondweni kuyenzeka nje. Baya kuba nendlela enoxanduva yokwenza, besamkela ukusikelwa umda kwabo, beqonda ukuba akusoloko kufuneka bephumelele. Bayazi ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ilungile kwaye indlela yabo yokwenza izinto iya kuhlala ikhuselwa zizizathu ezifanelekileyo, izenzo kunye nokuziphatha. Baza kuziva bomelele kuba bayakwazi ukuvakalisa izimvo zabo ngokunyaniseka ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulimaza abanye okanye ukungqubana ngokungeyomfuneko.
Amalungelo okuqinisekisa
- Ilungelo lokuhlonitshwa kunye nesidima
- Ilungelo lokuba neemvakalelo, izimvo kunye nokubanakho ukuziveza ngaphandle kokophula isidima sabanye
- Unelungelo lokuthatha isigqibo ngokwakho
- Ilungelo lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba indlela oziphethe ngayo iyahambelana na noko kulindelweyo kunye neminqweno yabanye, okanye ihambelana neminqweno yethu, ngokuxhomekeke ekubeni leyo ayiphuli
- Unelungelo lokubuza, uyazi ukuba omnye unelungelo lokuthi hayi
- Kulungile ukuthi hayi xa ungafuni ukuthi ewe
- Ilungelo lokuziva nokuveza iimvakalelo ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye
- Ilungelo lokwala izicelo zabanye ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala
- Amalungelo okubeka ezethu izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka nokwenza izigqibo zethu
- Ilungelo lokutshintsha ingqondo
- Ilungelo lokuthatha isigqibo malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza ngomzimba wakho, imali okanye ixesha
- Unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo kwaye ubenoxanduva lwazo zonke
- Unelungelo lokucinga ngaphambi kokuba enze okanye uthathe isigqibo
- Ilungelo lokuba ungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza okanye ungaze uphendule
- Ilungelo lokucela ulwazi okanye ukubuza xa into ingaqondwa rhoqo njengoko kufuneka
- Ilungelo lokonwabela impumelelo yakho kwaye uyamkele, uzingce ngawe
- Unelungelo lokuziva ukhululekile kunye nawe ngaphandle kweziphumo okanye impumelelo (nokuba ingcono okanye imbi)
- Ilungelo lokufumana oko ukuhlawulayo (ukuba, umzekelo, isidlo asilunganga okanye sikwimeko embi, isixa-mali siya kubuyiselwa okanye siya kutshintshelwa komnye sikwimeko entle)
- Ilungelo lokukhetha ukungaziphathi kakuhle ukuba yile nto uziva ngenene
- Ilungelo lokuziva ungonwabanga okoko nje abanye bengonzakalanga
- Ilungelo lokuziva uziva kakuhle kwaye uyonwabele
- Ilungelo lokuba wedwa ukuba yile nto uyifunayo
- Ilungelo akufuneki uzithethelele kwabanye
- Ilungelo lokwenza nantoni na, okoko amalungelo abanye abantu engaphulwanga
- Ilungelo kunye noxanduva lokuziva ukonwaba kwaye nokonwaba
- Ilungelo lokuthi 'andazi' okanye 'Andiqondi'
- Ilungelo lokuba ungafezeki
- Ilungelo lokuzimela
Ukuqinisekisa sisakhono sobukrelekrele beemvakalelo esinokuthi sisebenze kwaye siphuhliswe. Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha indlela onxibelelana ngayo nabanye kwaye ke ukuphucula ubomi bakho bangoku, unako. Musa ukoyika ukufuna ukhathalelo lobuchwephesha ukuyifumana kwaye ubeke amalungelo akho okuqinisekisa ukuba uyasebenza.