Iimvakalelo ezintle: Philisa ingqondo
Kule nqaku uza kufumana:
-Ukubaluleka kweemvakalelo ezilungileyo.
-I-anecdote yobuqu malunga namandla ayo okutshintsha iimeko ezimbi.
-Iividiyo: Iimvakalelo kunye nentetho kwiPsychology efanelekileyo
Ngaba ukhe wema wacinga amandla eemvakalelo ezintle? Ulonwabo lwenziwa luluhlu lweemvakalelo ezintle. Iimvakalelo ezintle zezona zihlangu zibalaseleyo zokuhamba usiya ukuzaliseka kobuqu.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukhathazwa yinto ethile okanye ukhathaza iingcinga eziphosakeleyo kaninzi, kwaye ngequbuliso kwenzeka into ekuthathela ngaphandle koburharha okanye imeko engathandekiyo yekatonic kunye neemvakalelo ezintle ezikuzo njengokuzithemba okuqinisekileyo nokuhlaziyeka, uvuyo, ithemba okanye into ekuhlekisayo.
I-Anecdote malunga namandla eemvakalelo ezintle
Ndikhumbula ixesha apho ndandikhathazeke nyani sisimo somntu: wagxeka ngokungafanelekanga umsebenzi endiwenzileyo wathi mandiphinde. Ndiphume ndahamba ndahamba nabantwana bam. Khange ndikonwabele ukukhwela ngoba ingqondo yam ibixakwe ziingcinga ezingalunganga ngalo mntu nokuba uzokwenza ntoni okanye uzokwenza njani. Wayekwi "trance embi." Ngokukhawuleza, ndabona unyana wam (owayeneminyaka emibini ubudala ngelo xesha) emi phambi kwabangqibi ababini ababesela epakini. Ingqondo yam ngokuzenzekelayo yaphuma kuloo nto kwaye yajolisa kuloo ndawo. Abangqibi bamjonga ngokonwaba. Ngesinye isikhathi, unyana wam wasusa i-pacifier (eyayiyeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuye) kwaye wayinika enye yazo ukuba ayifake emlonyeni wakhe. Lonto ibisenza ukuba sihleke nabaceli.
Ukususela ngelo xesha imva kwemini yam itshintshile. Andazi nokuba ndilibale malunga nomcimbi kunye naloo mntu okanye ndakujonga ukubaluleka kwawo. Inyani yile yokuba imeko yam yatshintsha enkosi kwimveliso yokuhleka yokujonga imeko ehlekisayo.
Iimvakalelo ezintle zinamandla okutshintsha imeko zethu ezimbi. Ezi meko zingalunganga zinokubangelwa ziingxaki ezingaphezulu okanye ezingaphantsi, nangona ubuzaza beengxaki buxhomekeke kumntu ngamnye; Elowo nalowo kuthi, iingxaki zethu zezona zinzima ehlabathini, kodwa ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ubuyazazi ezommelwane wakho, ubunokuhlala ungakhazimli nowakho.
Hlakulela iimvakalelo ezintle ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kunye nobugcisa. Yile nto imijikelezo yengqondo yanamhlanje yobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo okuhle kuyinyamekele.
Ndiyakukhuthaza ukuba uphande kwaye uzicwilise kwezi msinga zengqondo zintsha.
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