Inkqubo yeKrisimesi ibangela intsingiselo yengqondo. IKrisimesi liholide apho iimvakalelo zovuyo zimele ukubalasela. Nangona kunjalo, umzamo onzima wokonwaba ngale mihla unokudina. Kunzima ukonwaba xa uphoswa ngumntu omthandayo okanye xa usitya nala mlamu awuginyi.
Iingcali zengqondo zisicebisa ukuba sicinge kakuhle kodwa ngamanye amaxesha oku inokubuyisa umva. Kufana naxa bekuxelela ukuba ungacingi ngebhere emhlophe. Okukhona uzama, kokukhona kubonakala ibhere emhlophe.
Kutheni le nto abemi bamazwe angaqinisekanga kwezoqoqosho bahlala benika ingxelo yolonwabo oluphezulu? Akukho nto bazakuphulukana nayo, Sele beyazi eyona meko imbi kakhulu.
Uvulindlela wendlela "engalunganga" yayingugqirha wezengqondo u-Albert Ellis (owasweleka ngo-2007). Ufumene kwakhona umbono ophambili wezithandi zobulumko zamaStoyike zaseGrisi naseRoma zakudala: ngamanye amaxesha, Eyona ndlela yokujongana nekamva elingaqinisekanga kukujonga hayi kwezona zilungileyo, kodwa ezimbi.
Ukoyisa uloyiko lokuhlazeka, u-Ellis wacebisa abathengi bakhe ukuba bakhwele indlela engaphantsi komhlaba eNew York kwaye babize amagama ezitishi njengoko bedlula kuzo. Izigulana zakhe zazinzima kodwa zakufumanisa oko uloyiko lwakhe lwalubaxiwe: Akukho mntu wathethayo kubo, bafumana ukubonakala okungaqhelekanga.
AmaStoyike ayenza le ndlela ibizwa ngokuba "Ukucwangciswa kwangaphambili kobubi": Bacinga ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zezona meko zibi kakhulu ezinokuthi zinciphise uxinzelelo lwabo.
Isazi ngengqondo uJulie Norem uqikelela ukuba malunga nomntu omnye kwabathathu baseMelika basebenzisa esi sicwangciso basibizayo "Ukuphepha ithemba". Ukucinga okuhle, kwelinye icala, ngumzamo wokuziqinisekisa ukuba izinto ziza kuhamba kakuhle, ezinokuqinisa inkolelo yokuba kunokuba mbi kakhulu ukuba izinto zihambe gwenxa.
Kwimibutho yaseMelika, eyona mfundiso yamkelwe ngokubanzi "lihlelo lokuzithemba." Ukubaluleka kokubeka iinjongo ezinkulu, ezingqindilili zombutho kunye nabasebenzi bayakhuthazwa (okanye banyanzelwe) ukuba bazibekele iinjongo "ezikrelekrele" - ezithile, ezinokulinganiswa, ezinokufikeleleka, ezifanelekileyo nezifike ngexesha.
Nangona kunjalo, oku kulungiswa kweenjongo kuqala ukuvela. Ngexesha lofundo olwenziweyo ngalo mbandela, oosomashishini abaphumeleleyo abangama-45 benziwa udliwanondlebe. Phantse akukho namnye owenze izicwangciso zeshishini ezibanzi okanye wenza uphando olubanzi lweemarike.
Abanye babo bacinge ngeyona meko imbi kakhulu. Endaweni yokugxila kubukho bemivuzo ebalulekileyo kwinkampani yakho, babala ukuba indleko zemali zesigqibo esibi ziya kuba yintoni. Ukuba ilahleko enokubakho ibinyamezeleka, bathathe isigqibo.
Inqaku lokucinga okungalunganga ayikokuvuselela iimvakalelo ezonwabileyo okanye ukulandela impumelelo. Imalunga nokuba sengqiqweni ngokwamkela inyani yokuba ikamva aliqinisekanga kwaye obu bomi kukho izinto ezimangazayo ezingenakuphepheka, ezilungileyo nezingalunganga.
Amandla okucinga okungalunganga kubaluleke ngakumbi xa sithetha ngenyani engenakuphepheka yobomi: ukufa. Elinye lawona mabinzana adumileyo kaSteve Jobs ahambelana nalo mbandela:
Ukukhumbula ukuba uza kufa yeyona ndlela ndiyaziyo yokuphepha umgibe wokucinga ukuba unento oza kuyilahla.
Nangona kunjalo, sinokuhendwa ukuba sivumelane Isikhundla sikaWoody Allen ekufeni:
"Ndichasene naye kakhulu."
Ndicinga ukuba kungcono ukujongana nayo kunokuyiphepha. Kukho iinyani ezithile ebomini nkqu eyona ngcinga inamandla inamandla ayinakuyiguqula.
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