Uwafunda njani amehlo omntu: fumana iingcinga zakhe ngaphandle kwamagama

Baye bajikeleza iminyaka eyi-540 yezigidi kwaye uninzi lwethu lunesiqabane, kodwa ngaphandle kokwenza ukuba sibone, singathini ngokujonga umntu? Abantu bathi amehlo "yiwindow emphefumlweni," anokuthi asixelele okuninzi ngomntu ngokumjonga nje. Kuba asinakho, umzekelo, ukulawula ubungakanani babafundi bethu, iingcali kulwimi lomzimba zinokuqonda imeko yomntu ngezinto ezinxulumene namehlo. Inomdla, akunjalo?

Amehlo ayinxalenye yolwimi lomzimba wethu esingakwaziyo ukuwulawula. Ukongeza ekuhlengahlengiseni ubungakanani bokukhanya okwenziwe kwinkqubo yombono (ukwandiswa: ukwanda kubungakanani bomfundi; ukunciphisa) ukuncipha kubungakanani bomfundi), U-Eckhard Hess (1975) wafumanisa ukuba umfundi uyangxama xa sinomdla kulo mntu sithetha naye okanye kwinto esijonge kuyo.

Njengesalathiso, jonga ubungakanani bomfundi womhlobo wakho xa uthetha nabo ngento enomdla, emva koko utshintshe umxholo ube yinto engathandekiyo kwaye ubone ukuba benza isivumelwano njani. Ngaphandle kwengqondo, amehlo lelona lungu linzima emzimbeni womntu, kwaye linomdla kakhulu!

Amehlo anjengesipili somphefumlo

Amehlo ethu athetha okuthile ngathi. Banxibelelana okuthile ngomphefumlo wethu kunye nesimilo. Ycinge:

• Xa uthetha nomntu, unokwazi ukubona ngamehlo abo ukuba bamamele nyani okanye hayi okanye bayazibandakanya kule nto uyithethayo.
• Xa udibana nomntu, unokuphantse uxele ukuba ngumntu onjani ngamehlo abo. Ngaba banobuhlobo, banamandla, bakude, banexhala, bayoyikisa, bayamkela, bayakhathala, okanye bayasongela?
• Xa ujonga emehlweni abo, unokuxela imeko yabo. Kungaba lusizi, ukonwaba, ukonwaba, ukwenzakala, ukucaphukisa, inzondo, inzondo, okanye uthando.
• Xa uncokola nzulu, unokwazi ukuba banomdla, baphazamisekile, banomdla, okanye abanamdla.
• Xa umdala amehlo akho anxibelelana nezinto ezinzulu. Baxelela abahlobo kunye nosapho ukuba umntu ofanayo ukhona okanye akekho; kwaloo mntu badibana naye kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini okanye iintsuku ezingamashumi amabini ezidlulileyo. Sijonge kubo emehlweni kwaye sinokubona into eyahlukileyo.

Inqaku elidibeneyo:

Amaqhinga oLwimi angenakuthetha kufuneka usebenzise yonke imihla

Ukufunda ingqondo yomntu, jonga emehlweni abo

Ukudibana kwamehlo

Ukuseka unxibelelwano nokunxibelelana nomntu, ukuqhagamshela ngamehlo okusebenzayo kubalulekile ekusebenzisaneni kwethu kwemihla ngemihla nabantu, kwaye ikwenzelwe nabo bafuna ukuba ngabanxibelelanisi abasebenza kwindawo yoluntu:

Ukuqhubeka nokudibana kwamehlo

Jonga, sukujonga. Ukujongana namehlo ngokugqithileyo kunokwenza ukuba ungakhululeki kulowo ukumkelayo. Ngokubanzi kwimiphakathi yasentshona nakwezinye iinkcubeko ezininzi, ukudibana kwamehlo nomntu kulindeleke ukuba kube yinto eqhelekileyo kodwa kungapheli. Ukujongana namehlo rhoqo kuhlala kuthathwa njengelinge lokoyikisa, elenza ukuba umntu ophantsi kwamehlo akhe azive efundelwe kwaye engonwabanga.

Nokuba uphakathi kwabantu kunye nabantu abangengabo abantu, ukungaboni ngamehlo okuqhubekayo ngamanye amaxesha akunakucebiseka: INew Zealand Medical Journal yanikela ingxelo yokuba esinye sezizathu zokuba abantwana babe ngamaxhoba okuhlaselwa zizinja kukudibana kwamehlo nezilwanyana, nto leyo ebenza babe namandla kakhulu. Izinja ziziva zisongelwa kwaye zinomoya wokuzikhusela.

Ukuqhubeka nokudibana kwamehlo ikwangumqondiso wokuba umntu unolwazi olugqithisileyo ngemiyalezo ayithumelayo. Kwimeko yomntu ozama ukukhohlisa umntu, banokugqwetha ukudibana kwamehlo akhe ukuze angakuphephi, isibonakaliso esaziwa ngokubanzi sokuxoka.

Ukudibana kwamehlo

Kutheni sikuphepha ukujonga umntu? Isenokuba ngenxa yokuba neentloni zokujonga kubo ukuba asinyanisekanga xa sizama ukubakhohlisa. Nangona kunjalo, iYunivesithi yaseStirling eScotland ifumanise ukuba, kwisifundo semibuzo neempendulo phakathi kwabantwana, abo bagcina amehlo abo ejongana nabo kunqabile ukuba bafumane impendulo echanekileyo yombuzo kunabo bajonge kude ukuze baqwalasele impendulo yabo.

Uqhagamshelo lamehlo, Njengesixhobo sentlalontle, inokufuna inani elothusayo lomzamo wokuligcina xa la mandla inokusetyenziselwa ukubala, endaweni yemisebenzi yokuqonda.

Amehlo alilayo

Abantu bakholelwa ukuba kuphela kwendalo eMhlabeni ekhalayo, nangona kukho ubungqina obuvelayo boku kwindlovu nakwiigorila (ukulila ngokweemvakalelo). Kwiinkcubeko ezininzi kwihlabathi liphela, ukulila kuthathwa njengokubangelwa ngamava agqithisileyo emvakalelo; ihlala inxulunyaniswa nosizi okanye iintlungu, nangona zihlala zihlala Amava agqithisileyo olonwabo kwaye, ngokusebenzisa uburharha, kunokusenza silile.

Amaxesha amaninzi ukukhala ngokunyanzelwa ukufumana uvelwano okanye ukukhohlisa abanye kwaziwa ngokuba "ziinyembezi zengwenya", intetho yeentsomi zeengwenya "ziyalila" xa zibamba ixhoba.

Amehlo aqhwanyazayo

Ukongeza kwimfuno yethu yemvelo yokuqhwanyaza, iimvakalelo zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu kumntu esithetha naye kunokusibangela ukuba sazi ngokungaguqukiyo ukutshintsha kwethu inqanaba

Ukuqhwanyaza ngaphezulu kwe-avareji ye-6 ukuya kwi-10 amaxesha ngomzuzu kunokuba sisalathiso esihle sokuba umntu utsaliwe ngumntu othetha naye kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu isetyenziswa njengophawu lokudlala ngothando.

Amadoda nabasetyhini badanyaza kwinqanaba elifanayo ngokufanayo, amaxesha angama-6-10 ngomzuzu kwindawo eqhelekileyo. Kwakhona, izilwanyana ezinjengeemfudu ziyaziwa ngokuqhwanyaza ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ngeliso ngalinye.

Qwina iliso

ENtshona, sikubona ukuqwanyaza njengendlela enesidima yokudlala ngothando, into esiyenzayo nabantu esibaziyo okanye esivumelana nabo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ukwahluka kwenkcubeko kunye nomxholo wink: ezinye iinkcubeko zaseAsia zinefreyim kukusetyenziswa kwale fomu yobuso.

Ulwalathiso lwamehlo

Ingaba isikhombisi apho umntu ajonga into acinga ngayo okanye indlela aziva ngayo isixelela ntoni? Ewe, mhlawumbi yile nto bayibonayo. Into emelwe ukuyilumkela lukhokelo olujongwe ngamehlo lomntu xa becinga. Ukujonga ngasekhohlo kwabo kubonisa ukuba bakhumbula okanye bazama ukukhumbula into.

Kwelinye icala, ukujonga ngasekunene kwakho kubonisa iingcinga zokuyila ngakumbi, kwaye oku kuhlala kutolikwa njengophawu lokuba umntu angaba ulixoki kwezinye iimeko, oko kukuthi, ukwenza ingxelo yeziganeko ezingezizo ezokwenyani.  Qaphela: Ukuba umntu unesandla sasekhohlo, izikhombisi zendlela zinokubuyiselwa umva.