Wakhe waziva umona ngabo bantu babebonakala benekratshi ngakumbi kunawe? Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba aba bantu ngokungathi kunjalo baphatha la ntlantsi kubuntu babo, ukuba babenayo oko bazalwa ... Kodwa enyanisweni, ukongeza kwimeko abahlangabezana nayo, Ukuba charisma yinto enokufundwa ukuba ubeka umgudu owaneleyo kuyo.
Ukuba ngumntu onomdla wenza abanye babone loo mntu njengonomdla ngakumbi. Ngokuka-Wikipedia, ukuba ngumntu onekratshi kuthetha: "Umgangatho okanye isipho sendalo umntu anaso ukutsala abanye ngobukho babo, ngelizwi labo okanye ngobuntu babo." Ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuba nesisa ngakumbi, ungaphoswa zezi ngcebiso!
Funda ukuba ngumtsalane ngakumbi
Ngethamsanqa, i-charisma ayisiyonto ozelwe unayo. Njengoninzi lwezakhono, yinto onokuthi uyiphuhlise ngokwenza imihla ngemihla. Ukuba kunzima ukuzenza ukuba uve, abantu bakhawuleza baphelelwe ngumdla kuwe kwaye uziva ngathi awubonakali kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokungathi ubukho bakho abunamsebenzi ... ungafunda ukuba ngumtsalane ngakumbi kwaye ubuphucule ubomi bakho ngazo zonke iindlela.
Siphila kwihlabathi lama-extroverts. Umbutho uyabavuza abantu abathe ngqo nabangoyikiyo ukuthetha, nokuba yonke into abayithethayo icacile okanye ayinantsingiselo. Kule mihla, ukukwazi ukuveza uluvo luxabiseke ngakumbi kunoluvo ngokwalo. Ngethamsanqa, inzululwazi ifundile iminyaka eyenza umntu abe ne-charisma okanye hayi. Kwaye, nangona kukho indawo ezalwa kuyo, banako ukuqaphela, ukuziqhelanisa nokufunda.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumntu ophumayo ukuze akhonze, kufuneka nje ube kunye nokukufeza. Ukwenza oku, yenza eyakho indima ngokulandela ezi ngcebiso.
Khathalela ulwimi lwakho lomlomo nolungathethiyo
Xa uthetha nabanye abantu, lawula imithambo-luvo yakho, phendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthathele ingqalelo izijekulo zakho nezabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba baziva ngathi ungumntu osondeleyo kodwa kunye nesidima nobunzima kuyo yonke into oyithethayo.
Umzekelo, ukomeleza amagama akho ngezandla zakho kwenza abanye bayikhumbule bhetele imiyalezo yakho. Isitshixo kukusebenzisa izijekulo ezihambelana nentsingiselo yamagama, hayi intshukumo engahleliwe, kwaye uphephe abo baneempawu ezingathandekiyo. Kubalulekile ukuba novelwano ngamaxesha onke kwaye uthobeke. Ngaphandle kokuthobeka awuyi kuba ne-charisma yokwenyani.
Sebenzisa amagama achukumisayo
Kukho amagama angcono kunabanye xa uzama ukuba ne charisma ebomini bakho. Amagama akunceda wenze imiyalezo emininzi. La ngamagama aneemvakalelo akuvumela ukuba udlulise iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Las abantu abanesisahma bathanda ukuba nomdla kuyo imiyalezo yabo kwaye ke basebenzise amagama afanelekileyo.
Amagama aphefumlelweyo anokuba yinto elungileyo okanye engalunganga kwaye okona kubalulekileyo kukuba iimvakalelo ezinamandla ziveliswa ngexesha lengxoxo. Umzekelo amagama abukhali anokuba: ngumsindo, umsindo, njl. Ngaphantsi iimvakalelo zinokulala, zikhululekile, njl.
Lazi ixabiso lakho
Ukwazi ixabiso lakho kubalulekile. Ukuba uhlala uzithandabuza kunye nobuchule bakho, kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuba ubonakale (kwaye ube) ngumtsalane. Andikuxeleli ukuba ungaze uzibuze. Into endiyithethayo kukuba ukhuthaza uvakalelo lokufezekisa kunye nokuzixabisa. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele amandla akho okuphumeza izinto ezintle. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba unokwenza yonke into ngelixa usenza izinto zenzeke.
Olu lwazi luyakunceda uqhubeke. Awuyi kungasebenzi. Awuyi kwenza nantoni na ebomini bakho. Awuyi kuzisizela. Awuyi kuhlala uncoma abanye abantu ocinga ukuba bangcono kunawe. Ngenxa yokuba uya kulazi ixabiso lakho, uya kuwazi amandla akho.
Sukuzama ukuthanda wonke umntu
Awunakuba yiyo yonke into kubo bonke abantu. Xa uzama ukutsala wonke umntu, uyadika. Uba ngongenangqondo. Uphulukana nomtsalane. Xa uzama ukutsala wonke umntu, awutsali mntu. Ayivusi iimvakalelo ezinamandla kwabanye. Uyeke ukuba nomtsalane nokunqweneleka.
Iinkokheli zopolitiko ezisikhuthaza kakhulu ayizizo ezo zizama ukubhena kuwo wonke umntu. Ayingabo abo bahlala bentywiliselwe ngokuchanekileyo kwezopolitiko, ngenxa yokoyika abanye abantu okanye ukungathandwa ngamajelo eendaba. Ngokuchasene noko, abo banomdla kakhulu kwaye bonwabise abantu ngabo abangoyikiyo ukuthetha oko bakucingayo kunye noko kufuneka kuthethwe ngomngcipheko wokukhubekisa abanye abantu. Abantu abanjalo banomdla.
Aboyiki ukungabakholisi abanye abantu ngokunamathela kwizimvo zabo kwaye benze izinto ngokwemilinganiselo yabo. Xa unqwenela ukukholisa, uya unomdla. Uyadika. Uba ngongenangqondo. Awusenabo ubuntu bakho. Ukungoyiki ukungamkholisi okanye ukumcaphukisa kunomtsalane. Abantu baya kukuhlonipha ngayo.
Yiba nengqibelelo
Ukuba nengqibelelo kuthetha ukwenza izinto ngokungqinelana neenqobo zakho ezisemgangathweni kunye nemigaqo. Vumela amagama akho ahambelane nezenzo zakho. Ukuba nengqibelelo kukwathetha ukwenza ngendlela yokuba izenzo zakho zihambelane neengcinga zabo (okanye ubuncinci into oyifunayo). Uyila yonke. Iqinile, imanyene kwaye ayinakuqhekeka.
Awuzenzi izinto ezichasene nemigaqo yakho. Ngaphandle koko, ubuya kubonakala ngathi uligwala. Indoda enomtsalane ayivumeli ubuvila okanye uloyiko lumthintele ekwenzeni (okanye angenzi) ngokungqinelana neenqobo zakhe kunye nemigaqo.
Imigaqo kunye neenqobo zakho ezinokuxabiseka zinokuguquka ngokuhamba kwexesha kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezahlukeneyo, ezinje ngendawo esingqongileyo, ukuqonda kwakho umhlaba, izinto ezintsha ozifundayo, njl. Xa imigaqo-siseko kunye neenqobo zakho zokuziphatha ziguquka, ungathatha amanyathelo athile ngewawungazange uthathe ngaphambili (kuba zazingahambelani nemigaqo kunye neenqobo owawunazo ngelo xesha).
Kule meko, usenengqibelelo, njengoko isebenza ngokungqinelana nemigaqo kunye neenqobo zakho ezilungileyo (nangaliphi na ixesha). Isitshixo apha kukuba singonakali. Yenza into ocinga ukuba yenzelwe wena nabantu bakho, ngaphandle kokuvumela uloyiko, ubuvila, okanye ezinye izinto zikuphazamise kwiinjongo zakho.
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