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Kum kukunethezeka ukuba nabantu abafana nawe ababonakala mihla le ngaphakathi le bhlog ukubona into endiyibhalileyo. Ndiyakuvuyela ukuba ungubani.
Ukuba ufuna ubomi bakho buphuculwe, kuya kufuneka wenze izinto ezahlukeneyo kulo nyaka. Sonke sinqwenela ngaphezulu. Kungenxa yoko le nto umxholo wanamhlanje ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi indlela esingahamba ngayo fumana uxolo lwengqondo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukufikelela kuxolo lwengqondo?
Baninzi abantu kunye neendlela ezizama ukufezekisa uxolo lwengqondo kunye nokunxibelelana nolwazi lwabo ukuze abanye abantu balufezekise.
Ebomini ungakhetha ukuqhubeka uziphucula okanye ungazibandakanya nomhlambi wokudibana. Ukuphucula usuku nosuku (fumana imikhwa elungileyo, unxibelelane ngokufanelekileyo nabanye, yiba nobubele, ...) kunyanzelekile ukuba ndibenako oko ndikubizayo uxolo lwengqondo.
Awunakuthi: "Ewe, ewe, ndizama ukuhambisa imiphetho yam yonke imihla.". Hayi, nokuba uzibophelele kwinjongo yoxolo lwengqondo okanye ngekhe uphumelele.
Ubomi bubutyebi bamathuba. Kuya kuba yimpazamo ukuhlala "ngaphandle kokunye." Kufuneka siyikhame yonke incindi kwaye oku kufuneka ingqondo yethu ibe lulwandle lokuthula.
Ukuba siyalufezekisa olu xolo lwengqondo siya kube siphumelele uFerrari wengqondo. Iyafumaneka kuye nawuphina umntu. Ifuna:
1) Ubeko: Kuya kufuneka sifikelele kwimo yengqondo kwaye sizinikele ukuyilwela.
2) Ukufunyanwa kolwazi: Njengoko besenditshilo ngaphambili, kukho iindlela ezinokukunceda ufezekise uxolo lwengqondo ekudala lulindelwe. Isayikholoji efanelekileyo, ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ubuchwephesha bengqondo kunye nokucamngca zizifundo ezi-4 ezinokukunika ulwazi oluyimfuneko.
3) Isicelo: Nje ukuba ukhethe ukuba loluphi na olu qeqesho olulungele iinkolelo zakho, kuya kufuneka usebenzise iindlela zabo ngengqeqesho ukufezekisa iziphumo ezinqwenelekayo.
4) Ixesha: Ixesha elininzi otyala ngalo usukelo lwakho, kokukhona iziphumo ziya kuba ninzi. Ukuba uchitha iiyure ezimbini ngosuku usebenzisa indlela elungileyo unokufumana iziphumo ezinomtsalane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzinikela okunjalo akuyimfuneko. Unganikezela usuku olunye ngeveki kwaye ufumane utshintsho oluhlala luhleli.
Andikwazi ukuhamba ngendlela yakho kodwa ndingakubonisa indlela.
Ndiphetha ngezivakalisi ezi-2:
1) I-1 ivela Kafka: "Into ebalulekileyo kukuguqula inkanuko ibe ngumlinganiswa."
Ibinzana elihle elibonisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba nothando lwento okanye umntu ukuze afake amandla aloo mlinganiso kwisimilo sethu.
2) "Ayisiyiyo kuphela into engenzi nto eyonqenayo, kodwa ikwanayo naleyo, ekwaziyo ukwenza into ebhetele, ayenzi." Ibinzana elinomyalezo omninzi ovela kuSocrates.
Enkosi kuni nonke enindilandelayo. Ukwanga ngothando. Ningabantu abakhethekileyo kakhulu abangaphandle komhlambi kwaye abayinxalenye yegcuntswana elwela ukuba ngcono mihla le, abatyala ixesha labo kuqeqesho lokuphucula.
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