Ukufunda kunamandla okuphilisa umphefumlo nokondla ingqondo. Ukuya kwakho esikolweni, mhlawumbi wawucinga ukuba ukufunda kuyadika kuba bakunyanzela ukuba ufunde izinto ongazithandiyo, kodwa xa ubona ukuba ukufunda kuzisa izinto ezininzi, uyayibona indlela ilayibrari yakho ezaliswe ngayo ziincwadi ukuphucula ubomi.
Ziincwadi eziya kubuphucula ubomi bakho wakuba uzifundile, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba zikunceda ukuba uzazi bhetele, wazi abanye ngcono okanye wenze ubomi bube lula kuba uya kubuqonda ngenye indlela.. Sifuna ukukunika ukhetho lweencwadi ukuphucula ubomi obungenakuphuthelwa kwilayibrari yakho ukusukela ngoku. Ingaba ulunde ntoni?
Abantu abanetyhefu
Le ncwadi intle kangaka eyenziwe nguBernardo Stamateas ikwenza ukuba ubengumntu oyena mntu uqhelekileyo onokuyifumana ikukujikelezile. Usenokuziva uchongiwe ngabanye babo Ke uya kuyazi into ekufuneka uyenzile ukutshintsha ubomi bakho bube ngcono. Vula Amazon Sifumana incwadi kunye nenkcazo elandelayo:
"Kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla asinakukuphepha ukudibana nabantu abanengxaki. Abaphathi abagunyazisiweyo nabangafanelekiyo, abamelwane abakhalazayo, abantu abasebenza nomona okanye abo ufunda nabo, izalamane ezihlala zisibeka ityala ngayo yonke into, amadoda azikhukhumeleyo, irascible okanye amadoda axokayo… Bonke aba bantu "banetyhefu" bayasicaphukisa, kodwa abanye banokonakalisa ubomi bethu, batshabalalise amaphupha okanye siphume kwiinjongo zethu ”.
Iiglasi zolonwabo
Iiglasi zolonwabo yenye yezo ncwadi eziguqula ubomi bakho ngonaphakade wakuba uyifundile. Ibhaliwe nguRafael Santandreu kwaye ayisiyo ncwadi yesiqhelo yokuziva ulungile, akukho nto iyinyani inyani. Yincwadi ephelisa ezo ngcinga zingenangqondo ezijongela phantsi ubomi bakho kwaye ezingakuvumeli ukuba uqhubele phambili. Uyakuqonda ukuba ubomi bunamanye amanqaku amaninzi kwaye kuxhomekeke kwindlela obubona ngayo, nendlela oza kuziva ngayo. Ungayifumana kwi- Amazon Ngale nkcazo ibhalwe ngumbhali ngokwakhe:
“Le ncwadi ijonge ukukwenza ube ngumntu owomeleleyo kwaye onwabile. Izisa ndawonye zonke iindlela ezaziwa yi-psychology yanamhlanje ukusiguqula. Andingomntu othanda iincwadi zokuzinceda, ngaphandle kwezo zisekwe kubungqina. Apha ndikunika kuphela izixhobo zokusebenza okuqinisekisiweyo kwaye ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ama-80% ezigulana ezilandele indibaniselwano yam yonyango zishiye ngokupheleleyo ukudakumba, unxunguphalo, ukutyeba kakhulu kunye noloyiko olugqithisileyo ”.
Bazi ubuntu bakho
Yazi ubuntu bakho ibhalwe nguJavier de las Heras kwaye yincwadi engaze iphoswe kwishelufa yalo naliphi na ikhaya. Nokuba ufuna ukuzazi ngcono okanye ukuba ufuna ukwazi abanye ngconoIya kukunceda uziqonde ngokwakho kwaye nokuba ungabuphucula njani ubuntu bakho kwaye wazi ukuba kutheni uyile ndlela uyiyo. Esi sisiseko kuye nabani na ofuna ukuphucula ubomi bakhe ngokuqala ngaphakathi. Inemvavanyo ezininzi eziza kukunceda wenze iprofayile yakho. Vula Amazon ungayifumana ngale nkcazo:
“Le ncwadi ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo uJavier de las Heras isifundisa into ekwakukudala sifuna ukuyazi: ukwazi ubuntu bethu, ukwazi ukuba kutheni le nto siyiyo, ukuqonda indlela esivakalelwa ngayo nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kunye nokuqonda iyantlukwano yethu hlonipha abanye.Yintoni yokuba nobuntu obunje? -Ziziphi iimpawu zobuntu obunxungupheleyo? -Yintoni eyenza umntu onwabe xa edakumbile? -Zintoni ezibangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo? - Ngaba ukwahlula ubuntu kuyingxaki enkulu? - Ngaba iimvavanyo ziyinyani? Umsebenzi obonisa ukuba ubuntu buquka ubuninzi beempawu kwaye ezi zilungelelaniswe kulwakhiwo oluntsonkothileyo lwengqondo, ngokuthe ngqo kumntu ngamnye. Indlela ethile yokuziva, yokucinga, yokuvavanya, yokuziphatha kunye, nayo, ukutolika nokujongana nenyani ”.
Incwadana yemigaqo yokungafi kothando
Le ncwadi ixabisekileyo nguWalter Riso ibaluleke kuzo zonke izibini ezisehlabathini. Yinto yokufunda efunekayo efundisa indlela yokuthanda ngaphandle kwamaqhina, inkululeko ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokufanelekileyo, ifundisa uthando ngaphandle kwetyhefu nokuba umntu kufuneka alunyamezele njani uthando. Uthando xa lubuhlungu aluthando kwaye oku kuyenza icace kwiphepha ngalinye lazo ngeempikiswano ezahlukeneyo. Vula Amazon ungayifumana incwadi ngale nkcazo:
«Yala ukubandezeleka ngenxa yothando, zibhengeze kugwayimbo oluchaphazelekayo, yenza uxolo ngesizungu kwaye ucaphukise isidingo sothando ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into nangexabiso. Sindisa uthando lwakho, uthando lwakho lokuqala olukhulu oluvela kwabanye. UWalter Riso usisa kwezinye zeengxaki ezenza ubudlelwane bezothando zibe ngunobangela wokubandezeleka kunye nokukhathazeka, kwaye usinika uthotho lwezixhobo zokungafi luthando kwaye sitshintshe umbono wethu wothando lwesintu ukuze luhlaziyeke kwaye lube sempilweni ”.
Imida yothando: Ungayithanda njani ngaphandle kokuzincama
Ukulandela umgaqo wangaphambili kunye nombhali ofanayo, uWalter Riso, sifumana le ncwadi imangalisayo, Imida yothando: Ungathanda njani ungazincami. Phakathi kwemigca yayo izama ukufikelela ebantwini ukuze baqonde ukuba luyintoni uthando olusempilweni kwaye indlela yokurhoxa kuthando kukuzingcwaba uphila.
Uthando lunemida kwaye kufuneka lube nemida kwaye owona mda uphambili uqala ngawe kunye nesidima sakho. Umntu akufuneki alahle igama lakhe lothando, kuba emva koko ayilothando kwaphela. Le yenye yeencwadi ekufuneka zifundwe zizibini ezitshatileyo emhlabeni ukuze ziqondane, ziqonde uthando kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, zibeke uthando lwazo phambi kwabanye. Vula Amazon ungayifumana ngale nkcazo ilandelayo:
“Kwinkcubeko apho uthando olungasikelwanga mda lugqithisiwe, ubomi njengesibini sele buyindlela ephambili yokuziqonda; Nangona kunjalo, uthando aluthetheleli yonke into, kuba ukuthanda akufuneki uzilahle ngokwakho. Owona mgaqo mkhulu. "