Iingcinga ezixhalabisayo: Funda ukuChonga kunye nokuMisa

Ngokwethiyori yonyango lwengqondo, iingcinga zakho kunye nexabiso lakho zichonga indlela ozibona ngayo kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo. Iingcinga kunye neenkolelo ezisekwe kwithemba zinokuchaphazela kakubi iimvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo zakho kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo. Ezi mbono ziyingozi ziingxaki eziqhelekileyo ezinokuthi zibe negalelo kwiimpawu zesifo kunye noxinzelelo.

Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba ungazichonga njani kwaye uzimise njani iingcinga ezingalunganga zoxinzelelo ukuze zingakuchaphazeli kwaye uwele kumoya wokuzibhubhisa ngokweemvakalelo. Kodwa ngaphambi koku, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zeengcinga ezingalunganga ezikhoyo kwaye zeziphi iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga kunye neenkolelo.

Iinkolelo zokuzenzakalisa kunye neendlela zokucinga ezimbi

Ukoyisa iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga kunye neenkolelo zokuzenzakalisa, Kubalulekile ukuqonda iinkcazo kunye nolwahluko phakathi kwezi ngcamango zimbini.

Iinkolelo zokuzenzakalisa

Inkqubo yakho yenkolelo yenziwe ziimbono zakho zobuqu, izimo zengqondo, kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni. Iinkolelo zakho zihlala zikunye nawe, zibumba indlela ozibona ngayo kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo. Iinkolelo zokuzibhubhisa zinokumisela ukusilela kunye nokungoneliseki. Umzekelo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kugqitywe kuphela kukuphumelela kwakho, uya kwaneliswa kuphela xa ugqwesa kwikhondo lomsebenzi wakho, ufezekisa iinjongo zakho, okanye ufikelela kwinqanaba lakho elinqwenelekayo lobume.

Iinkolelo zokuzenzakalisa ziwela ngokwamacandelo amabini: iinkolelo zangaphakathi onazo ngawe kunye neenkolelo zabantu malunga nolwalamano lwakho.

• Umsebenzi wobuqu: Ukugqibelela, ukuvunywa, impumelelo
• Ukunxibelelana: Ukuziva unetyala, ukuzithoba, ukoyika ungquzulwano

Iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga

Ngokungafaniyo neenkolelo zokuzenzakalisa, iipateni zokucinga ezingalunganga azisoloko zisengqondweni yakho, zivela kuphela xa ujongene nengxaki. Kwaziwa njengokugqwetha kwengqondo, Ezi ngcinga zingalunganga ziya kuza engqondweni ngamaxesha oxinzelelo kwaye zomeleze iinkolelo zakho zokuzibetha.

Umzekelo, mhlawumbi unokholo olucocekileyo lokuba ukubaluleka kwakho kuchazwa kuphela kukuphumelela kwakho. Unokuziva ulungile ukuba unganakho ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho. Nangona kunjalo, xa ujongene nezithintelo ezingalindelekanga okanye izithintelo, iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga zinokubangela ukuba ugqithise ngaphezulu okanye ubugqithise ubuzaza bemeko, eya kuthi ekugqibeleni ibangele uxinzelelo olungenasiseko.

Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ungaqala ukuba neengcinga ezingalunganga, ezinje ngokuzibiza ngokuba "usilele" okanye uzibeke ityala ngokungafikeleli kwinjongo yakho. Unokucinga, "Andisoze ndibengumntu ophumeleleyo" okanye "Andimiselwanga le nto." Ixesha elingaphezulu, ezi ngcinga zinokunciphisa ukuzithemba kwaye zinokuba negalelo kwiimpawu zokudakumba kunye noloyiko lokuphazamiseka.

Yoyisa ezi ngcinga zimbi

Iinkolelo zobuqu ziyafundwa kwaye ziphuhliswe ngokuhamba kwexesha, nto leyo ebenza nzima kakhulu ukuba batshintshe. Kwangokunjalo, iipateni zokucinga ziba yindlela yesiqhelo yokucinga egxile kuthi kangangokuba amaxesha amaninzi asiqondi ukuba iyenzeka engqondweni. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela zokophula umjikelo weenkolelo zokuzibetha kunye neendlela zokucinga ezimbi.

Ukuphakama ngaphezulu kweenkolelo zakho zokuzibetha kunye neengcinga ezimbi, qala ngokwamkela ukuba le micimbi ivela nini ebomini bakho. Umzekelo, jonga umbono wakho ebomini kunye nendlela osabela ngayo kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo xa zisenzeka kuwe. Ngaba ujongana ngqo neengxaki zakho okanye uthabatheke ziingcinga ezimbi? Ngaba ubomi buzele zizinto ezinokwenzeka okanye uyabona ukuba iglasi ihlala ihleli ingenamntu?

Emva kokuba uqalile ukuqonda iinkolelo zokuzibetha kunye neepateni zokucinga ezingalunganga, phinda ufumane ulawulo ngokuzicelomngeni. Umzekelo, ukuba uziva ungakwazi, zibuze ukuba yinyani na ukuba abanye bayakwamkela ukuba "ugqibelele." Ngaba nyhani woyisile?

Qhubeka ubuze iinkolelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho, ubeke endaweni yazo ngezinto ezintle nezinyanisekileyo. Xa uqala ukujongana neembono zakho ezimbi, ungaqala ukuqaphela ukuba zingaphi ezingeyonyani ebomini bakho. Endaweni yokucinga okona kubi, usenokucinga ngokwakho ukuba uphoxekile kukungafikeleli kwinjongo ethile, kodwa Uyamkela ukuba uyafunda kwaye uyakhula kwiimpazamo zakho nakwiimbandezelo zakho.

Ukuphuhlisa iinkolelo ezintsha kunye neendlela zokucinga kuya kufuna umgudu owongezelelweyo kunye nokuhambelana kwicala lakho. Ngokubeka iliso, ukujongana, kunye nokucinga kwakhona ngeengcinga neenkolelo zakho ezingalunganga, unako "ukungafundi" okanye ukuzitshintshela ekukhuliseni, ekuxhobiseni, nasekukhuthazeni iindlela zokujonga ubomi bakho. Ixesha elidlulele, Unokwazi ukutshintsha iingcinga kunye neenkolelo zakho kwabanye eziyinyani kwaye ziyinyani.

Inyathelo ngenyathelo ukuphelisa iingcinga ezimbi

Ukongeza kwingcebiso esikunike yona ngasentla, ungathatha ingqalelo la manyathelo alandelayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqala ukuphelisa iingcinga ezimbi ngoku.

Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqonda kwaye uyeke iingcinga zakho ezimbi okanye "ukuthetha ngokwakho." Incoko yangaphakathi yile nto ucinga kwaye ukholelwa ngayo ngawe nangamava akho. Kufana nengcaciso eqhelekileyo entlokweni yakho. Ukuthetha kwakho kunokuqiqa kwaye kuncede. Okanye inokuba mbi kwaye ingabi luncedo.

Inyathelo elilandelayo kukuzibuza ukuba ingaba iingcinga zakho ziluncedo okanye zililize. Jonga le nto uyithethayo kuwe. Ngaba ubungqina buxhasa ukucinga kwakho okungalunganga? Ezinye zeencoko zakho zangaphakathi zinokuba ziyinyani, okanye inokuba ziyinyani kodwa zibaxekile.

Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokujonga ukuba ukhathazeke kakhulu kukujonga amathuba. Ngawaphi amathuba okanye into enokwenzeka yokuba into embi ekukhathazayo yenzeke? Ukuba uphononongo lomsebenzi olunokugxekwa okuncinci phakathi kokuncoma okuninzi, ngawaphi amathuba okuba usengozini yokuphulukana nomsebenzi wakho? Amathuba mhlawumbi aphantsi.

Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukukhetha ingcinga efanelekileyo yokutshintsha enye engenamsebenzi. Ukugcina idayari yeengcinga zakho yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuziqhelanisa nokuma, ukubuza nokukhetha iingcinga zakho, oku kukwenza ukuba wazi incoko yakho yangaphakathi. Bhala phantsi naziphi na iingcinga ezimbi okanye ezingancediyo obukhe wanazo ngexesha lasemini.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba awungekhe ubakhumbule ekupheleni kosuku lwakho, thabatha incwadana yokubhala kunye nawe ukuze ubhale phantsi naziphi na iingcinga njengoko zihamba entlokweni yakho. Emva koko bhala imiyalezo eluncedo ukulungisa iingcinga ezimbi. Ukuba wenza oku yonke imihla, iingcinga ezichanekileyo neziluncedo ziya kuza kuwe ngokukhawuleza.