Amaxesha amaninzi sikholelwa izinto ezingeyonyani. Kungenxa yokuba sinamava amabi okanye kungenxa yokuba besidlulisele kuthi ngaloo ndlela kwaye siyifundile ngaphandle kokujonga ukuba iyinyani na.
Kuya kufuneka ucace malunga nento enye: ungumntu ozimeleyo ogqiba ngento ofuna ukuyikholelwa kunye nento ongayikholelwayo. Ngale nto ndifuna ukukuxelela lonto ungathembi oko kuthethwa ngabanye kwaye ukholwe ngokuqinileyo kuwe. Ngale ndlela uya kwazi ukuba ukwindlela elungileyo.
Emva koko siza kubona iinkolelo ezi-3 ekufuneka uphume kuzo engqondweni yakho.
1) Iintshaba zam zichanekile malunga nam
Kuyinyani ukuba kukho amaxesha apho ukungakhathali kuthatha iingqondo nomzimba wethu. Kukuloo mizuzu apho sicinga ukuba iintshaba zethu zingaphezulu kwethu kwaye akukho nto sinokuyenza ukumelana nazo.
Amaxesha amaninzi abantu basabela ngendlela engathandekiyo ngenxa yamava adlulileyo okanye amanxeba angaphilanga. Nokuba siyathanda okanye asithandi, uluvo lwabantu luxabiseke kakhulu kuthi… kodwa kufuneka sazi ukuba singalunika njani na.
Ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungaphikisana okanye ulwe. Thatha ithuba lokufumana olu luvo ukuphucula ukuba ucinga luyimfuneko, kodwa ungabavumeli bathathe ingqondo yakho nangaliphi na ixesha; womelele kunabo kwaye ukhethe kanye le nto ufuna ukuyithetha nokuyithetha.
2) Kubalulekile ukuba usapho kunye nabahlobo bam bavume iinjongo zam
Kuyinyani ukuba sonke siyabathanda ukuba baxhase iiprojekthi zethu. Basinika amandla ongezelelweyo okanye "ukutyhala" ekufuneka siqhubeke nako.
Nangona kunjalo, asisoloko siyifumana. Abantu abasondeleyo kuthi banokusinika izimvo eziza kusitshabalalisa ... nangona baya kuhlala bebanga ukuba bayenza ngeyona njongo intle; kwaye kuyinyani.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu onokuyenza, ukuba uqinisekile ngokwenene ukuba iprojekthi yakho inokuphumelela kwaye iphumelele, kukuqhubeka. Ukuba akukho mntu unako ukuntywila okanye ukugxeka into oyisebenzele ixesha elide.
Xa ufikelela esiphelweni, wonke umntu uyakuthi ukuxhasile kolo hambo, nangona uzokwazi kakuhle ukuba bekungenjalo.
3) Andonelanga ngokwaneleyo
Inkohliso! Ngokukhawuleza tyhala loo ngcinga kude nawe. Sonke sinesipho kunye nendawo kobu bomi. Iprojekthi ethile inokusixhathisa, ukuze singakwazi ukuya phambili, ukuba sicinga ngokufaka itawuli ... kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngomzamo kunye nomsebenzi sinokuyenza.
Xa le ngcinga ifika entlokweni yakho kuya kufuneka uyityhale kude kuzo zonke iindleko. Abantu abakungqongileyo bahlala belindele izinto ezinkulu kuwe ... kwaye banokucaphuka kuba ungakhange ulandele indlela ababecwangcise ngayo.
Sukoyikeka ukwaphula okusekwe kwaye ulandele ngqo indlela oyifunayoNgaphandle kokulandela naluphi na uluvo okanye ukubekwa kwimeko yomnye umntu.
Khumbula: nguwe kuphela ogqiba ukuba wenzeni kwaye akukho mntu unokukutshintsha.