Ngaba uyazi ukuba lithetha ntoni eli binzana "Unenkumbulo entle"? Kuvakala ukuba sisibongo, kwaye, singaqhelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, uphando oluninzi luye lwabonisa ukuba abaninzi bethu "banemibala ebomvu" njengoko kunjalo Kuyimfuneko ukugcina ukuzithemba kwethu. Kule nqaku ndicacisa ukuba iqulethe ntoni.
Iividiyo ezi-5 oza kuzifumana kweli nqaku zinenjongo enye kuphela: ukonwabisa.
1) Sikwandisa okuhle kwaye sinciphise okubi.
Inkumbulo yethu ngokungazi ithambekele ekwandiseni ezona zinto zethu zintle (silumke kakhulu) kunye nokunciphisa izinto ezingalunganga (asizicingeli kwaphela).
Oku kukugqwetha okwenyani kodwa ndiza kukuxelela into ibenye: Kungcono ndikhethe ubugqwetha obuchanekileyo bokwenyani kunokuba buchasene. Makhe ndichaze: abantu abaninzi abaneempawu zokudakumba benza ngokuchaseneyo.
2) Kwinqanaba eliphakathi yeyona nto ilungileyo.
Ngaba siyakholelwa ukuba asikhohlakali, sibugwala kwaye siyazingca xa izibakala zibonisa oko? Kuyimfuneko ukuvula amehlo ethu kwinyani ukuze siziqonde iimpazamo zethu kwaye sizilungise. Ukuba asipheli sedwa, awucingi?
3) sisixhobo sokhuseleko.
Imisebenzi yethu engekho zingqondweni ayisebenzi. Ngamaxesha amaninzi kusibangela iingxaki kodwa ngale ndlela isebenzisa olu luvo lulungileyo ukugcina impilo yethu yengqondo.
4) Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba asizazi ngokwenene ukuba siyintoni kanye kanye?
Ngaba le ndlela yokhuseleko igcina sikhohlisiwe kangakanani? Kubonakala kucacile ukuba ukufihla ubunyani bethu kwabanye kunokuba nefuthe. Kodwa ngaba iya kuba nefuthe kuthi? Kuthatha umzamo omkhulu wokujonga kakuhle ukuzama ukufumana ukuba singobani kanye kanye.
5) I-biobiography ebuyisiweyo.
Le "nkumbulo enemibala ebomvu" ingqineka phakathi kweenkumbulo zethu ukwenza olu luvo lulungileyo. Zingaphi iimbali eziza kuba yinyani kwaye zithembeke?
6) Ukuqwalaselwa okusebenzayo.
Thatha ithuba lolu phawu lwenkumbulo yethu ukomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho kodwa uzame ukungazicwangcisi kunye neemeko ezikungqongileyo ukuze wazi ukuba ungazibona njani iziphene zakho kwaye uzilungise.
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