Bathi imfesane sesona sixhobo sinamandla emntwini kuba inokutshintsha lonke uluntu ngokubanzi. Imfesane ihamba kunye nobubele kwaye xa iphuphuma eluntwini, yonke into iya kuba ngcono kubantu abayilayo. Ukuba ungumntu onovelwano Uya kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba izinto ebomini bakho ziya kuphucuka njani phantse ngomlingo.
Imfesane
Xa sithetha ngemfesane sithetha ngokwazi ukuqonda imeko yemvakalelo yomnye umntu okanye yesiqu sakho. Ngamaxesha amaninzi inokubhidaniswa novelwano. Imfesane inento ebonakalisa umnqweno wokufuna ukunciphisa okanye ukunciphisa ukubandezeleka komnye.
Uvelwano, njengoko usazi, kukukwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu. Nangona uvelwano novelwano zizinto ezahlukeneyo, Ukuba nemfesane komnye umntu kunokukhokelela kuvelwano komnye umntu.
Kuthetha ukungacingi okona kubi
Into esithethe ngayo kwinqaku elidlulileyo yinkcazo eyamkelekileyo yemfesane, inkcazo eya kukunceda uqonde ukuba yintoni kwaye iyintoni kanye kanye. Ukuba nemfesane komnye umntu kubandakanya okungaphezulu kokuzibeka endaweni yabo, Ndifuna ukuqonda okanye ukubanceda. Kubandakanya ukuba nembono eyahlukileyo kwindlela obaphatha ngayo abanye.
Umzekelo, cinga ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yempilo kwaye kufuneka umse esibhedlele ukuze enze uvavanyo. Ngokucacileyo imeko yakho yenkxalabo iphezulu kwaye uzive uxhalabile malunga nokuba zithini iimvavanyo. Kufuneka uye ekhaya uyokuthatha ezinye izinto kwaye ubuyele ngokukhawuleza esibhedlele ukuze ube nomntwana wakho kwaye endleleni udibana nomntu omaziyo okanye umhlobo. Intoni uxakeke kakhulu kwiingcinga zakho kunye neenkxalabo awuyeki ukuba nencoko naloo mntu kwaye ubulise nje (okanye ungabinjalo).
Lo mntu ungakhange ubingelele uye waziva ekhubekekile kwaye kamva ufumanisa ukuba waziva ethuke kakhulu akubona ukuba awumhoyanga. Lo mntu ngokungathandabuzekiyo uthathe ngokungalunganga kuwe, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba mhlawumbi unesizathu esivakalayo sokungabinancoko. Ngokucacileyo wawungenanjongo yokumenza azive kakubi, wawukwimeko yeemvakalelo eyayiphazamisekile ngenxa yexhala lakho kwaye kwakufuneka ufike esibhedlele ngokukhawuleza ukuze ube ecaleni komntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza. Khange ayithathele ngqalelo inkxalabo yakho kwaye khange azikhathaze ngokukubuza ukuba yintoni ingxaki ngawe ... Ukhethe ngokuziva okona kubi. Ngelishwa oku kwenzeka rhoqo kuluntu kwaye endaweni yokuba ube nemfesane kwaye ucinge ukuba uya kuba nesizathu esihle sokungayeki ukuncokola, bakhetha ukucinga kakubi.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba bekukho uvelwano ngakumbi emntwini okwibali esilubekileyo, endaweni yokuba abe nomsindo okanye azive ethukwa, ebeya kucinga ukuba into inokwenzeka kumhlobo wakhe okanye umntu amaziyo kwaye ukuba akayeki , uya kuba nesizathu esihle sokungayenzi. Uya kukubiza kamva akubuze ukuba ulungile na okanye akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kwaye ke, anganceda xa kufanelekile (ukuba umntu ebenovelwano). Kule meko, umhlobo wakhe angazibophelela ngakumbi kuye kwaye ubudlelwane babo bunokuphucuka. Ngaphandle koko, ubudlelwane buphukile ngokungabikho kwengqwalaselo.
Imfesane njengonyango
Imfesane inokuba yeyakho okanye eyabanye. Xa ingeyakho yaziwa ngokuba 'kukuzisizela'. Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba xa umntu eziva esikwa yimfesane kungenxa yokuba ebambekile kwindima yexhoba ebomini bakhe, kwaye akukho nto iyinyani enyanisweni. Inyaniso, kukho unyango olunokuphucula ubomi babantu kwaye olunento yokwenza nemfesane.
Luhlobo lonyango apho kusetyenziswa khona imfesane ukuphucula imeko yabantu kwaye ke kuncitshiswe ukubandezeleka kwabo ngaphakathi. Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi okanye abagxeka kakhulu kubo okanye njengabanye banokuba ngabantu abafanelekileyo kolu hlobo lonyango.
Imfesane inokufundwa kwaye iqeqeshwe, kwaye xa ifezekisiwe, ingqondo iyatshintsha kwaye iphucule. Xa umntu enovelwano, baya kuzola, bazole ngakumbi, bonwabe ngakumbi kwaye bakhuthazeke ngakumbi ekuphuculeni ubomi babo bemihla ngemihla.
Unyango ikratshi liyasetyenzwa (elithintela uvakalelo lobomi kwimeko evulekileyo kunye nethemba) kwaye ijolise kwimfesane njengesakhono sokuqeqesha. Isakhono esenza ukuba abanye baziva bebandezeleka ukuba banqwenelele umvuzo wabo. Oku, ukongeza, kufuneka kugxilwe ngaphezulu kwako konke, ngokwakho. Ukuba nemfesane akuthethi ukuzisizela okanye ukuba lixhoba leemeko zobomi ... malunga nokufunda ukungasoli abanye ngeempazamo zakho, umzekelo.
Kuluntu lwethu baninzi abantu abagxila kukhuphiswano nakwimpumelelo kwaye balibale eyona nto isenza sibe ngabantu: uvelwano. Ngonyango lwemfesane, ukulunga kuyafunyanwa njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yomntu.
Imfesane kunye nokuphila kakuhle
Ukuziva uvelwano komnye umntu akunanto yakwenza nokuzisola. Xa usizela omnye umntu, uziva ngathi ukwinqanaba eliphezulu kunomnye umntu, kungakho ukungalingani kwezentlalo okanye kwengqondo phakathi kwabo.
Imfesane inomdla wokufuna impilo-ntle yomnye umntu oziva ethe tye kumntu wakho. Akukho zitepisi zinokuthelekelelwa apho uziva ungaphezulu kwenye. Abantu banobudlelwane obulinganayo nokuba bakweyiphi imeko ekukholelwa ukuba bangabo.
Umntu uziva ukuba ufuna ukunceda omnye ngokuzithandela kuba uvelwano lumkhokelele kuvelwano. Qonda iimvakalelo okanye imeko akuyo omnye umntu, ngaphandle kokugweba. Ufuna ukunciphisa iintlungu zabanye.
Yiba nesisa kwabanye ngokwenza uvelwano! Nceda abanye kunye nawe!