Ungawufumana njani umona?

Ndingathanda ukunikezela eli nqaku ekuphenduleni omnye wemibuzo eyavela kumngeneleli, ngenxa yenqaku lam elidlulileyo: "Umona: isifundo esingavumelekanga." Ndiyalixabisa igalelo lakho njengoko olu hlobo lombuzo lusivumela ukuba singene nzulu kwimiba ethile ekunokwenzeka ukuba ayinakuphendulwa ngenye indlela.

Umbuzo ubuzwe ngale ndlela: Singawubona njani umona? Makhe sifike kwinqanaba.

Ngaphandle kokuba umntu avume ngqo nangomlomo, akukho 100% yeempawu ezithembekileyo ezisivumela ukuba sibone umona okanye ngaphezulu ngokubanzi, kwenzeka ntoni engqondweni yomnye umntu. Khawufane ucinge ukuba abanye banokufunda yonke into ehamba ngeentloko zethu ngokuqinisekileyo ... iyakoyikisa kwaye siziva sinyhashwa kubucala.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Ndifuna ukunqanda ukuwela ekutolikeni ngokulula kakhulu kuba isimilo esingakhange sithethe esisibona kwabanye asihlali sityhila intsingiselo enye. Ukuwela iingalo zakho, umzekelo, kunokuthetha ukuba umntu unomsindo okanye akavumelani, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu ubanda nje. Oko kukuthi, iziphumo esizibonayo azihlali zinesizathu esinye okanye inkcazo.

Sekunjalo, kuyaziwa namhlanje ukuba Unxibelelwano olungathethi ngomlomo lunee-70% zonxibelelwano! Eli nani lisixelela ukuba ngokuchaseneyo noko sicinga, amagama awanakufaneleka xa sinxibelelana. Ulwimi olungathethi ngomlomo (izijekulo, ukuma komzimba, ukujonga, ithoni yelizwi, njl. Njl.) Lucebile kakhulu kulwazi. Ngelishwa, asihlali sihlawula kakhulu. Uluntu esihlala kulo lusifundise ukuba sisebenzise ngakumbi iintloko zethu kunye nesizathu, sengozini ye-intuition yethu.

Nazi ezinye imithambo onokuyisebenzisa ukuze ufunde ukukhulisa obu buchule sinabo esinabo kodwa ukuba sihlala sithambekele kwimvelaphi. Olu qheliselo lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekuqondeni ngcono ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubudlelwane bethu kunye nokufumanisa ngakumbi ukuqonda kweenjongo zabanye.

1) Funda ukumamela intuition yethu.

Intuition yile

Esona sixhobo solwazi sinamandulo sinaso kwaye sikhona kwi-cerebellum. Izibonakalisa ngokusabela komzimba esiva siswini (nangona inokwenzeka nakwamanye amalungu omzimba, kuxhomekeke kumntu ngamnye). Kufana nealam yangaphakathi esinayo. Abasetyhini bayayamkela ngakumbi le miqondiso kunye neemvakalelo zabanye ngenxa, phakathi kwezinye izizathu, kubume bethu bendalo bokuba ngoomama. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko benditshilo, sihlala sizihoya ezi mvakalelo kuba kuluntu lwaseNtshona kukho ukwahlukana okucacileyo phakathi komzimba nengqondo.

Ngokunxibelelana nabanye abantu, intuition isazisa ngokungangqinelani phakathi kokunxibelelana ngomlomo nangaphandle komlomo. Umzekelo, umntu angasixelela "Ndonwabile ngawe" kwaye avakalise okwahlukileyo kwilizwi labo lelizwi okanye ukubonakala kobuso kwangaxeshanye. Intuition ayisazisi ncam ukuba kwenzeka ntoni okanye kutheni, kodwa iyasilumkisa ukuba kukho into ekufuneka siyithathele ingqalelo. Kwelinye icala, okunxulunyaniswa noluvo emzimbeni, kuhlala kukho imvakalelo. Xa i-intuition okanye ukungazi kwethu (zifana ngokufanayo) kufumanisa ukuba kukho into engavisisaniyo okanye into engaqhelekanga, sihlala siziva singonwabanga, sididekile, sicaphuka, njl.

Singayiphucula njani intuition yethu?

Ukuhlawula ngakumbi iimvakalelo zethu zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo, sizenze zikwazi kangangoko. Zama oku kangangeveki kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye nabantu abaninzi.

Zibuze: «Ndiziva njani xa ndithetha nalo mntu? " "Ngaba ndiziva ndonwabile emzimbeni wam, imvakalelo?" "Ndiziva njani emva kokuthetha nalo mntu?" "Ngaba luluvo oluthandekayo okanye olungathandekiyo?" "Luphi olu luvo lubekwe emzimbeni wam?"

Kodwa lumka, khumbula ukuba le mibuzo isinika kuphela ulwazi olubonakalisayo. Oko akuthethi ukuba kuba ndiziva ndisoyika umntu omnye, umzekelo, kungenxa yokuba omnye ukhohlakele okanye ukhohlakele. Olu luvo lunokubangelwa ngomnye umntu, kodwa lunokuvela kum okanye lube sisiphumo sonxibelelwano.

2) Ukufaka oku kumona.

Ukuba umntu osondeleyo unentliziyo-yesiqingatha xa uqhuba kakuhle kwinkalo ethile yobomi bakho ngenxa yokuba benomona ngawe. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ndinolindelo oluphezulu kakhulu kwaye ukudana okunjalo (ndingakuboni kulindelwe kwam kulindelwe) kuguqulela kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Lo mntu usenokungayazi nje indlela ebaluleke ngayo inkxaso yakhe kuwe, okanye ukuba utyhubela ixesha elinzima kwaye abafumaneki ngokwasemoyeni. Enye into enokwenzeka kukuba kukho uhlobo oluthile lwenzondo kulwalamano lweengxabano ezingasonjululwanga kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye ukunganikeli inkxaso yenye indlela yempindezelo okanye umboniso wokuzingca.

Ngayiphi na imeko, Sukulujongela phantsi ulwazi oluxabisekileyo esizibonelelwa zizivo zethu. Ngesizathu esithile ukuba "ialam" yangaphakathi iyeza.

3) Phawula:

Nje ukuba sifunde ukumamela ngcono kwaye siqwalasele imiqondiso esiyifumana kwi-intuition yethu, inyathelo lesibini iya kuba kukujonga. Imalunga nokujonga ukungangqinelani kwindlela yokuziphatha kwenye ebonisa eyona nto siyithandayo. Ngamanye amazwi, vavanya i-hypothesis yethu. Sonke siyenza ngendlela engaphezulu okanye encinci kodwa endaweni yokujonga kuphela iimeko ezingqina ukrokrela kwethu umona, umzekelo, ndiyakumema Qwalasela iimeko okanye amaxesha apho le hypothesis ingaqinisekiswanga. Asinakucalulwa ngokuthanda kwethu ukukhetha olo lwazi luhambelana nenkolelo yethu (ngakumbi ukuba ayibonisi nyani).

Masizibuze: "Zeziphi iinkalo zobomi bam endiziva ukuba lo mntu u madolw 'anzima kwimpumelelo yam okanye ulonwabo lwam? "," Kuzo zonke okanye kwezinye kuphela? "," Ngaba kwenzeka kum kuphela okanye ngaba ubonakala ebonisa isimo sengqondo esifanayo nabanye ? "

Umona uzibonakalisa xa umntu ebonakala ngempumelelo yakhe yobungcali, ngenxa yobungqongqo bakhe, imeko yakhe yezoqoqosho ephumelelayo, umtsalane wakhe, ubukrelekrele bakhe, imeko yakhe yothando, njl. Makhe sihlolisise zonke ezi ndlela. Ukuba loo mntu akathethi kakhulu, nokuba ndiyathetha ngamathuba am amatsha emisebenzi okanye ubudlelwane bam obutsha bothando okanye i-canary yam (nayiphi na inkalo yobomi bam enexabiso nentsingiselo kum) kwaye ikwanjalo kuye wonke umntu, emva koko ngenkankulu ugqibe kwelokuba impendulo yakhe ibangelwe yimvakalelo yomona kuba indlela aziphethe ngayo iyahambelana kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo; yinxalenye yobushushu babo. Banokuntywila xa uthetha ngeemoto ezibalekayo kwaye uqala ukuzamla xa uqala incoko malunga nolwandle. Kodwa masingabhideki, oku kungangqinelani kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo kuya kubangelwa linqanaba lomdla isihloko ngasinye esivusa loo mntu. Ayisayi kuba nanto yakwenza nomona.

Xa ndithetha ngokungangqinelani ndithetha oko ngokubanzi Umhlobo okanye isihlobo esivakalelwa ngumona siya kuthanda ukuwubonakalisa kwiindawo ezithile, kodwa ayizizo zonke. Mhlawumbi umzekelo ukubuza malunga nesoka lakho kodwa ungaze malunga nezifundo zakho okanye ngokuchaseneyo. Isimo sakho sengqondo siya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumntu ophambi kwakho. Ungaqaphela ukuba inje le nto kuwe ngalo mbandela kodwa hayi kwabanye. Okokugqibela, kubalulekile ukujonga ukuba ngaba oku kuqatshelweyo kwenzeka rhoqo. Mhlawumbi kukungaqondi nje.

4) Ukunxibelelana nabanye:

Ukunxibelelana kuthetha ukuthetha ngento eyenzekayo kubudlelwane. Ukuba sifuna ukususa nakuphi na ukuthandabuza kwaye siyeke ukutya iintloko zethu, eli nqanaba lokugqibela liya kuba yimfuneko. Intuition yethu kunye nokujonga kunokwanela ukuba sizenzele izigqibo, kodwa ukuba sifuna ukusondela enyanisweni, ekuphela kwendlela kukujongana nomntu kwaye sithethe ngokukhululekileyo malunga nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo kunye noko sikubonileyo. Le ncoko inokuba neziphumo ezininzi ezinokubakho:

- Kulungile umntu uphela evuma ukuba unekhwele nyani. Akunakulindeleka kodwa ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, bekungazukubonisa nje kuphela amandla amakhulu kunye nokunyaniseka kwalowo mntu, kodwa kuya kuba bubungqina bokuba ulwalamano lubalulekile kuye.

-Okanye umntu usinika ulwazi ebesingenalo kude kube lelo xesha kwaye inyani yokuyifaka kwingxelo yethu (okanye ukutolikwa kwemeko) isinceda ukuba sikulungise okwenzekileyo njenge ukungaqondwa kakuhle. Umzekelo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu uwela kwinqanaba elinzima ebomini bakhe, okanye uxakekile, unxunguphele okanye kukho ukungaboni ngasonye okungasombululwanga kubudlelwane kwaye eli lithuba lokuba liphume lithethe ngalo.

-       Nokuba uphendula ngethoni yokuzikhusela, ukuphika yonke into kodwa ngaphandle kokukwazi ukunika inkcazo ehambelanayo malunga noko kwenzekileyo. Xa umntu engakwazi ukunika nayiphi na inkcazo, zihlala ziyimvakalelo ekunzima ukuyamkela kwaye njengoko sisazi, umona yenye yazo.

Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku liluncedo kuwe. Enkosi ngokufunda kwakho kwaye Ndiyathemba iimpendulo ezingakumbi ezivela kuwe!

yi UJasmine murga