Uwahlalutya njani amaphupha ethu?
Ukujongana nalo mbuzo, abantu bathambekele ekuthatheni indawo ezichaziweyo. Abanye bayayikhaba ngaw 'omane imbono yokuba amaphupha angangumthombo wolwazi osemthethweni, bewajonga njengamampunge kwaye engenantsingiselo, kwaye besithi akukho nto ingaqondakaliyo ngabo kwaye kungcono ukuwalibala kwaye uqhubeke. Abanye, nangona kunjalo, babonisa ukholo olugqibeleleyo nolungathandabuzekiyo kwizichazi magama eziphupha ezibaxelela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba isimboli nganye ithetha ntoni na kwaye iqikelela ntoni. Kwaye nangona ekuqaleni ukutolikwa okucetyiswayo kungasifaneli kakhulu, ngengcinga encinci, sihlala siyivuma.
Inqaku lelo zininzi izinto ezingekhoyo malunga nesi sihloko kwaye akukho nasinye kwezi zikhundla zibini esondela kubunyani bomsebenzi wamaphupha. Ukuba kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo, ukuhlalutya amaphupha ethu kunokusinceda siziqonde kwaye sizazi ngcono. Sisoloko sicinga ukuba siyazazi kwaye ingekude ukuba sizenzele umsebenzi kuthi apho siqonda ukuba kuncinane kangakanani esikwaziyo. Kwaye kulula ukugcina umbono wokuba sizakhele thina kuba ukujonga ngaphakathi ngamanye amaxesha kunokoyikisa kwaye / okanye kuhlazise. Ndinomona ngosisi wam? Akunakuze! » Amaphupha asivumela ukuba sibonise iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu okanye ekunzima ukuzamkela, kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Zityhila ezona minqweno zethu zinzulu, iintlungu kunye noloyiko. Zikwasinceda ukucacisa iziganeko kunye neemvakalelo. Ngokombono weGestalt, amaphupha Babonisa imiba engagqitywanga okanye engasonjululwanga kwaye banemiyalezo ekhoyo malunga nokulwa.
Isikhokelo sokuhlalutya amaphupha ethu:
Enye yeentsomi eziqhelekileyo kukucinga ukuba kukho imigaqo emiselweyo yokuhlalutya amaphupha. Kodwa inyani kukuba, akukho ndlela yomlingo. Ewe, umntu ngamnye wahlukile, kwaye Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kukho iisimboli kwindalo iphela, intsingiselo esiyibonisa kwisimboli ayisoloko ihambelana nentsingiselo omnye umntu athi unayo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba liphupha lithetha ntoni kumntu ngamnye. Iimpawu ezibonakalayo okanye esizikhethayo zibonisa imbali yethu. Nangona kunjalo, ndingathanda ukucebisa ezinye izikhokelo ukukunceda ukomeleza intsingiselo yamaphupha akho, kwaye ke ufezekise ulwazi olungcono lokuzazi.
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Bhala phantsi amaphupha akho kwijenali.
Eli nyathelo lokuqala liyimfuneko ngenxa yendalo eguqukayo yamaphupha. Sihlala siqinisekile ukuba siyakukhumbula into ebesisandula ukuyiphupha kanti ke kuthatha iiyure ezimbalwa ukuba liphuphe, ngamanye amaxesha liphelele. Ke ngoko, ngokukhawuleza uyakwenza ngcono. Kungenxa yoko kucetyiswa ukuba ube nejenali nepeni ezandleni zakho xa uvuka. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ubhale lonke ibali, ukuba ukhumbula iziqwenga kuphela, bhala phantsi amagama okanye amabinzana ngamanye. Okanye nokuba ukhetha njalo, ungalizoba iphupha lakho okanye inxenye yephupha lakho elibambe umdla wakho. Sukuba nexhala lokuba iyahambelana okwangoku. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kwesi sigaba kukuba umxholo ongaqondakaliyo nongazi nto uwela ibhulorho ungene kwilizwe lekhonkrithi kunye nokuqonda. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kunqabile ukuba uphuphe okanye ukuba awuwakhumbuli amaphupha akho, akukho nto yenzekayo, bhala: "Khange ndiphuphe nto" okanye "andilikhumbuli iphupha lam. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, uya kuqala ukukhumbula amaphupha akho. Nokuba amaphupha abonakala ngathi angabalulekanga anokusinika ulwazi olunomdla.
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