Ulawula njani iimvakalelo

Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ukuze zingalawulwa nguwe. Mhlawumbi ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho wakha wanemvakalelo ethe kratya kunokuba ubulindele, kodwa khange ukwazi ukuyilawula. Kungenzeka ukuba le mpendulo ichaphazele into obufuna ukuyizuza ngexesha elithile. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungabavumeli ukuba bakulawule.

Iimvakalelo zinokukumisa okanye uthathe indawo, kuya kufuneka ukhethe phakathi kweendlela ezininzi zokunciphisa ifuthe kuwe, ukuze ukwazi ukuqonde ngcono kokubini ingaphakathi lakho kunye nento eyenzekayo ejikeleze wena.

Ngaba iimvakalelo zakho ziyakulawula?

Sifuna ukuqala indawo yokudibanisa kunye nezivakalisi ezichazayo:

• Unokuba ngumnini wento oyenzayo, kodwa ungaze uve ukuba uziva njani. -Gustave Flaubert
• Ubomi yi-10% yento eyenzekayo kuwe kunye ne-90% yendlela osabela ngayo kubo. -Charles R. Swindoll

Awunakuzilawula iimvakalelo zakho, kodwa ungafunda ukuzilawula. Unokucinga ngayo yonke imisebenzi eyenzekayo kwingqondo yakho ngokungathi yenye yezona zinto zine zengqondo:

• Isimo soloyiko esikhokelela kumlo, ukubhabha, ukubanda, okanye isimilo esingaphaya kokuziphatha. Uloyiko lwenene ludala impendulo engacingiyo ethatha ubuchopho bethu. Ukuphendula komzimba kukuphakama kwenqanaba lentliziyo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi, ukukhutshwa kwe-adrenaline, kunye nokuphefumla ngokukhawuleza. Unokufumana umbono wetonela, utshintsho lobushushu, kunye neenyikima. Ukucinga kwakho kuya kuphazamiseka.
• Imeko yeemvakalelo ayinzulu njengoloyiko, kodwa isaziva kakhulu. Unokubonakala uzolile, ungaziphathi ngendlela eyoyikisayo, kodwa usaziva uziva ngathi unothando, intiyo, ukukruquka, iintloni, uvuyo, ubuze, okanye ukungakhathali. Imeko yeemvakalelo inokuwoyiswa yimeko yokoyika eluhlaza. Imeko yeemvakalelo yokubhabha ithatha imeko yokuqiqa.
• Urhulumente oqiqayo kuyenzeka xa ingcinga enzulu ibonakala ngaphandle kokungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo.
• Imeko yokuba nobulumko iyafezekiswa xa sikwazi ukucinga ngokusengqiqweni, unolwazi, kodwa ungacingelwa ziimvakalelo zethu noloyiko. Ingqondo, ukukwazi ukujonga iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezininzi ngaxeshanye, inika amandla okujonga kwaye ivumele ingqondo yethu ephezulu ukuba ichonge eyona mpendulo.

Imeko yokuba sisilumko yimeko enqwenelekayo, njengoko isenza ukuba sizive sinamandla ngaphandle kokuncama ukuqonda kwethu. Njengalo naluphi na uluvo, imeko yakho yahlukile kwaye kuya kufuneka ulinge kwaye ulungelelanise iindlela ukuze zilungele iimfuno zakho.

Ixesha lokumiselwa kwemvakalelo

Impendulo yakho yeemvakalelo ihamba ngamanqanaba amaninzi. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyaphuncuka kuwe okanye ukuba uphendule ngobulumko, kuxhomekeke kumalungiselelo akho. Kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ufuna ukulungiselela impendulo ngaphambi kwale meko, njengoko iimvakalelo ezinamandla zisenokwenzeka ukuba ziphume kulawulo xa ungenelela kamva.

Phambi kwemeko yeemvakalelo, yenza konke oku kulandelayo:

• Yakha amandla akho emvakalelo.
• Ziqhelanise nezakhono zokubuyisela emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
• Yomeleza ingqondo yakho kunye nokuhamba kwengqondo.
• Ukunciphisa isantya okanye uthintele iimeko ezithile zeemvakalelo ngokupheleleyo.
• Chonga ezona meko zixhaphakileyo nezinzima ezingenakuphepheka kwaye nganye kuzo, phuhlisa kwaye usebenzise iimpendulo zobulumko.

Kwaye kuya kufuneka ugcine engqondweni ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo:

• Imeko iqala: imeko yeemvakalelo iqala, ibangelwa yimeko yokwenene, ekhunjulwayo okanye ecingelweyo. Umzimba wakho ungaqala ukuphendula ngaphandle kolwazi lwakho. Ingqondo iphucula ukuqonda ngaphambili kwaye inceda ukunciphisa ukuphendula ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukunciphisa ukuba semngciphekweni kunye / okanye imeko yeemvakalelo ehlawuliswe ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kunciphisa okanye kuthintele impendulo.
• Qaphela: Ingqwalasela yakho ijolise kwimeko. Iimvakalelo zakho zinokuphuma kulawulo ngokukhawuleza kunokuba unokuphendula ngengqondo yakho enobulumko. Unokuguqula iimpendulo ezikhoyo zempendulo ukuze uphendule ngakumbi ngokuziqhelanisa, kubandakanya ukufumana ingqalelo yakho ngokukhawuleza. Iindlela zokubuyisela emzimbeni ziya kukunceda ukunciphisa i-adrenaline okanye ezinye iimpendulo zomzimba.
• Uvavanyo: kuvavanya nokutolika imeko yeemvakalelo. Imeko yangaphambi kokucwangciswa ikuvumela ukuba uhlele imeko yakho yeemvakalelo. Nje ukuba kudweliswe, isisombululo esele sicwangcisiwe siphunyezwa ngokukhawuleza.
• Impendulo: uphendula ngengqondo yeemvakalelo okanye ngengqondo enobulumko, kuxhomekeke kumalungiselelo. Ingqondo yeemvakalelo ayizilawuli iinkqubo zokuphendula (ezengqondo, ezokuziphatha, ezomzimba, ezemvakalelo). Shiya le meko kwaye uziqhelise ukubuyela emzimbeni. Ingqondo idala ulwazi kunye nomgama weemvakalelo njengombonisi kunokuba uthathe inxaxheba, uvumele ingqondo yakho elumkileyo ukuba ibone iimvakalelo kwaye icinge ngokusengqiqweni.

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Phuhlisa amandla akho emvakalelo

Ukuba sesichengeni kukwenza ungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba semngciphekweni kunye neendlela zokuzinciphisa zidweliswe apha ngezantsi:

• Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo. Yakha iimvakalelo ezintle. Yiba neengcinga ezintle, ukuqinisekiswa, kunye namava anceda ukulungelelanisa nawaphi na amava amabi. Kulumkele iimeko ezibangela umsindo kwaye ufunde ukwamkela umsindo njengemvakalelo engenaziqhamo.
• Ukungathembani. Yakha ulawulo. Thatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi ekunceda ukuba uzive ulunge kwaye usebenza. Oku kulwa nokungabi nathemba kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwaye kukhulisa ukusebenza ngokuzimeleyo.
• Ukuphila ngokwasemzimbeni. Gcina ingqondo nomzimba wakho usempilweni ngokundwendwela rhoqo ugqirha, ukutya, kunye nokuzilolonga. Ukhuseleko olusezantsi kunye nokuba sesichengeni sesifo. Tyelela rhoqo iingcali zempilo ezifanelekileyo.
• Umsindo okanye uxinzelelo. Sukuya kwimeko entsha uneemvakalelo ezinamandla. Kuphephe okanye ukulibazisa, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ziqhelanise nolunye ungenelelo, kubandakanya ukuphumla okanye ukucamngca.
• Ubulolo. Zijikeleze nabahlobo kwaye ube nobubele kwaye uncede abanye kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
• Ukudinwa okanye ukudinwa. Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ukufumana iiyure ezingama-7-9 zokulala ubusuku bonke. Zilolonge rhoqo ukuze ube nefuthe leemvakalelo zomsebenzi womzimba.

Kubalulekile ngendlela efanayo ukuba uzithiye iimvakalelo zakho, ukuba uziphawule, ukuze uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe kwaye kutheni kusenzeka kuwe. Ngale ndlela unokulindela ezo mvakalelo ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke kwaye kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuzilawula ngokusemandleni.. Yiva imvakalelo nganye ukuze ukwazi ukuyazi kwaye ngaloo ndlela uya kuba yingcali ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo ngaphakathi nangaphandle.