Into elungileyo ngokusebenza kwifayile yakho ye- ukuziphucula kukuba xa usenza iinzame zokuphucula indawo ebomini bakho, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba uza kuphumelela ekuhambeni kwexesha. Unokuba nenkunkuma eninzi ekucoceni ngokwemiqathango yokuthintela iinkolelo, kwaye ungaqala ukusuka kwindawo engentle, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha elaneleyo, unokuphucula indawo ethile yobomi bakho.
Umzekelo, unethuba lokuhamba usuka kubuhlwempu uye kubutyebi, usiba neentloni uye ekuzithembeni okungathethekiyo kwezentlalo, okanye kubomi obungenampilo ukuze ulunge ngokupheleleyo. Kusenokungabi lula ukwenza olu tshintsho, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Baninzi abantu esele bephumelele.
Ewe, kunjalo, kunjalo isithembiso esikhulu sokuziphucula: Uyakwazi ukuphinda uyenze inxenye yobomi bakho, wenze umfanekiso oqingqiweyo wento ofuna ukuba yiyo kwaye ube yiyo.
Kodwa zimbini iingxaki eziqhelekileyo ezi thintela abantu abaninzi ekubeni babe yile nto bafuna ukuba yiyo.
Ngaba ucacile malunga nale nto ufuna ukuba yiyo?
Okokuqala, uninzi lwabantu alucacanga malunga nento abafuna ukuba yiyo.
Kuba abathathi sigqibo, abahambeli phambili naphi na.
Xa ubuza abantu ukuba bafuna ntoni ebomini, uninzi lwamaxesha bafumana impendulo engacacanga. Abanakuchaza nto. Ewe kunjalo ubomi babo abuzukutshintsha kakhulu. Azenzi ngqondo. Xa umntu ekubuza ukuba ufuna ntoni ebomini, nika impendulo ecacileyo nengqalileyo.
Sukulindela ukuba ubomi bakho butshintshe de ube wenza isigqibo esicacileyo malunga nokuba ufuna ukuya phi. Enkosi ukuba ungakhetha!
Ukwenza ukhetho kulula kakhulu, kulula kakhulu. Uninzi lwabantu luyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kwinkqubo. Buza umntwana ukuba ufuna ntoni ngomhla wakhe wokuzalwa, kwaye uya kuthi akurhole kuthotho lwemixholo ethile kuwe. Ugqiba njani? Sukuba nexhala kakhulu ngokwenza izigqibo ezingalunganga. Ukuba utsaleleke kumava athile, ke lowo ngumgqatswa obalaseleyo kwisigqibo esitsha.
Izigqibo zokwenyani vs izigqibo ezimnandi
Okwesibini, xa abantu begqiba isigqibo, bahlala bengazukukhetha. Bakhetha ukhetho lwefantasy.
Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwesigqibo esingeyonyani kunye nesigqibo sokwenyani. Makhe ndikucacisele.
Isigqibo asiyonyani xa ucacile ukuba ufuna ntoni kodwa ungazamkeli iziphumo ezinzulu zeso sigqibo. Oku kufana nokuthatha isigqibo sokukhetha isiphelo sentonga ngelixa ukhanyela okanye ungabuhoyi ubukho besiphelo sinye. Ukuba uyayichasa imeko yokwenyani yeklabhu xa iyonke, awungekhe uthabathe umphambili weklabhu. Ukuba uyayichasa iminqweno yakho, uya kuyithintela iminqweno yakho ibe yinyani
Rhoqo abantu bathi bayayazi into abayifunayo, kodwa inyani kukuba babanjiswe kumhlaba oyiphupha. Umzekelo, bathathe isigqibo sokufikelela kubunzima babo obufanelekileyo, kodwa abamkeli ukubakho kokutya ukutya okunesimo ngakumbi kunye nemikhwa yokuzilolonga ukugcina ubunzima, njl.
Ke ngoku kushwankathela, sinezithintelo ezibini eziphambili ekufezekiseni ukuziphucula kwethu: 1) Ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nento oyifunayo, kunye no-2) Ukuchonga, ukwamkela nokumema iziphumo ezinokubakho zento oyifunayo.
Xa woyisa le miqobo mibini, wenza into entsha. Nokuba ukhetha ntoni, unayo mpu melelo. Yibhiyozele!
Ndikushiya a i vidiyo ebonisa umzekelo ocacileyo wento i ukukhula komntu:
Ndingathanda ukwenza isemina kunye nawe ukukunceda ngenzondo. Banokundinika ulwazi.