Umntu ongenathemba ukhalaza ngumoya; Ithemba lilindele ukuba litshintshe; Inyani inyenyisa amakhandlela.
UWilliam George Ward
Jonga le vidiyo imfutshane apho basibonisa khona ukuba sinokuba nethemba ngakumbi.
Kule vidiyo, uElsa Punset usinika izixhobo zokusinceda ukuba sibe nethemba ebomini:
Abathemba ithemba kunye nethemba benza ukutolika okwahlukileyo kweziganeko ezilungileyo nezingalunganga ezenzeka kunxibelelwano lwabo nehlabathi:
1) Abathemba Baye bacinge ukuba into eyenzekileyo, ukuba iyinyani, inento yokwexeshana, okomzuzwana kwaye bayayibona njengesiphumo sento ebalekayo ezandleni zabo kwaye engaxhomekekanga kubo. Ukuba iziphumo azibi, bacinga ukuba ziya kuhlala ixesha elide kwaye babona yonke into imnyama, bazibambe benoxanduva lwayo yonke into eyenzekileyo.
2) Indlela yokubona abantu abanethemba isebenza ngokwahlukileyo, Bayakwazi ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo (ukulungisa iiseyile) kodwa banethemba (beqonda ukuba yonke into iphela isenzeka). Ngokusisiseko umahluko kukuzithemba, inkolelo yokuba ndinokubala ngezixhobo zam kwaye yonke into yenzeka ngesizathu esiya kuthi siququzelele ukufunda kunye nophuhliso.
Ithemba lisinceda sijongane nobunzima njengemiceli mngeni, Imiceli mngeni ayithathayo umntu ophilayo kwaye anyamezele ukuthembela kumandla ethu kunye namandla ethu njengomntu nakwimeko entle abanye abanayo malunga noncedo.
Ividiyo: Ukoyisa isigulo
Zithini iziphumo zempilo zesinye isimo sengqondo.
"Neentshaba zakho ezimbi kakhulu zinokukwenzakalisa njengeengcinga zakho"
(UBuddha)
Abona bantu banethemba batyekele ekubeni neemvakalelo ezingcono kunye nempilo kunezo zibi.
Sele ikwi-Homer's Odyssey kwaxelwa ukuba uvuyo kunye nethemba zazizindlela zokugcina impilo esempilweni kunye nendlela abaziphethe ngayo ukhuseleko kwizifo ezininzi.
Iyeza langoku kunye nophando lwakutshanje zikhomba kule nyaniso esele ichaziwe I-Odisea. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi ezinye zeziphumo zempilo zesinye isimo sengqondo:
Isimo sengqondo esingalunganga:
• Ukuphazamiseka kweentlobo zengqondo: Ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo lwe-Phobic njenge-agoraphobia, i-phobias zentlalo, i-phobias ekhethekileyo okanye eyahlukileyo, ukuphazamiseka kovalo, ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo ngokubanzi, kunye nokudakumba koxinzelelo.
• Ukuselwa kotywala ngokugqithisileyo, ukusebenzisa icuba okanye izinto zengqondo.
• Uxinzelelo evelisa, kwangaxeshanye, ii-steroids ezininzi ezenza buthathaka amajoni omzimba, ke kukho imeko enkulu yokugula.
• Ukwehla kweekhatolamines kwaye yonyusa ukhuseleko lwee-endorphins, ezinciphisa ukusebenza kwamajoni omzimba, ngaloo ndlela kuququzelela isifo.
• Umsindo ombi okanye uburhabaxa: umngcipheko omkhulu wentliziyo nengqondo, onokuthi ubangele okanye uthintele ukubetha okanye isifo sentliziyo.
Isimo sengqondo esisengqiqweni:
• Ukuhla kweempawu zokudakumba.
• Yomeleza amajoni omzimba.
• Ukunciphisa ukubonakala kweempawu zokuxhalaba.
• Uxinzelelo lwegazi olulinganiselweyo.
• Amanqanaba asezantsi oxinzelelo.
• Izinga lokusinda eliphezulu kunabaguli abangenathemba.
• Uthintela umhlaza.
Ngoku umbuzo omkhulu apha kukuba ezi zimo zengqondo zivela phi, Kutheni le nto abanye abantu benethemba ngakumbi kunabanye kwaye kutheni abanye abantu behlala bekhalaza kwaye bebona yonke into emnyama?
Ukuphelelwa lithemba sisiseko sokuphendula, wafunda ekuhlaleni. Abantu abangenanto bahlala benabazali ababi okanye bebehlala kwiindawo ezimbi kunye neendawo zokuhlala.
Ungasitshintsha njani isimo sethu sengqondo ukusuka kwesibi ukuya kwithemba
Ukuba umntu unomdla kwi uhlengahlengise ingqondo yakho ukwakha ingqondo eyonwabileyo Kuya kufuneka iqale inkqubo ye phuhliso lwabantu apho aqala khona ukubona ingqondo yakhe, abalinganiswa bakhe bangaphakathi kunye neendlela zakhe zokucinga ezimkhokelela ekulandeleni umbono wentlekele yokwenyani kunye nesiqu sakhe aze ke azise utshintsho olumvumela ukuba atshintshe ezi ndlela zokucinga zingamthandiyo kwaye zikuthintele . Njengomntu ozenzekelayo ukuzijonga ngokwakhe iingcinga zakhe kwaye azingqina ngaphandle kokuzigweba, baya kuthi ngokuthe ngcembe bangazichazi kubo.
Ufuna ukuyibona njani iglasi yakho: isiqingatha sigcwele okanye isiqingatha singenanto? Gcina ukhumbula ukuba intando yinyathelo lokuqala lokwenza.
Ukwanga okunzulu.