Ngaphambi kokuba uchaze ukuba yeyiphi eyona ithiyori ibalulekileyo yenkuthazo, ndiyakumema ukuba ubukele le mizuzu mithathu yenkuthazo emsulwa.
Kule vidiyo basimema ukuba sicinge ngento enika intsingiselo ebomini bakho, usukelo onqwenela ukulufikelela, into eyenza ukuba ubomi bakho bube nenjongo:
Kukho iithiyori ezahlukeneyo zokukhuthaza kodwa kweli nqaku ndiza kugxila kwezona zibalulekileyo ithiyori yenkuthazo, Lowo usityhala okanye asinciphise kobu bomi:
1) Umnqweno wokuphepha iintlungu.
2) Umnqweno wokufumana uyolo.
Phantse zonke izigqibo esizenzayo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla zikhuthazwa sesinye sezi 2 imikhosi enamandla, zii-paradigms ezi-2 eziphambili ebomini bethu.
Ngamanye amaxesha ingcinga yethu izama ukulwa le mikhosi mibini inamandla, kodwa uloyiso luhlala ixesha elifutshane. Nanku umzekelo:
- Bonke abantu abatshayayo bayazi ukuba lo mkhwa yingozi. Ingqondo yakho esengqiqweni iyazi ukuba ungangcono xa uyekile ukutshaya. Ke kutheni uqhubeka nokutshaya? Kuba ngokweemvakalelo, ukutshaya kubonisa ulonwabo kunye nokuyeka ukutshaya kubonisa iintlungu. Ndiyayazi lento ndithetha ngayo, ndiyatshaya 🙁
Ekuphela kwendlela yokuyeka ukutshaya kukumisa iintlungu kumkhwa wabo kunye nolonwabo ekuyekeni, kuphela emva koko uya kufumana inkuthazo eyimfuneko ukuyeka ukutshaya. Oku kufuna ukuba nembono yexesha elide, kunokuba ube nembono yexesha elifutshane.
Isimanga malunga nokutshaya, okanye nawuphi na umkhwa oyingozi, kukuba oko kubangela ukonwaba kwixesha elifutshane kuya kuzisa iintlungu kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuqonda indlela iintlungu kunye nolonwabo olunefuthe ngayo kubomi bethu linyathelo lokuqala elilawulayo. Sonke sinakho ukusebenzisa amandla ethu engqondo ukuphinda similisele iiankile zethu zeemvakalelo. Ngamanye amagama, sinokukhetha into ebuhlungu nefanelekileyo.
Kulungile, enkosi ngegalelo, ukuqala kwezi ndawo zimbini kwenza ukuba kube lula kuwe ukuhlalutya kwaye uthathe izigqibo ngezigqibo zakho, enkosi