Izakhono ezili-10 zeNtlalontle kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu

Izakhono zentlalo Bezisoloko zisisiseko sokuphumeza oko besizimisele ukukwenza kwanokuphucula umgangatho wethu wolonwabo.

Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ezi zakhono zili-10 zeNtlalontle kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, Ndiyakumema ukuba ubone le vidiyo osihloko sithi "Abantu bathanda njani kunye nomntu onjengawe (kwangoko!)".

Asinguye wonke umntu onokukuthanda kodwa kule vidiyo bachaza iqhinga elilula eliza kutshintsha indlela onxibelelana ngayo nabanye kwaye likwenze umntu onempembelelo ngakumbi:

[Unokuba nomdla "kwiifilimu ezili-11 eziphakanyiswe kakhulu ngokwasengqondweni"]
Umgangatho wobudlelwane bakho nabanye inxulumana ngqo nenqanaba eliphezulu lokwoneliseka bubomi. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndiza kukushiya noluhlu lweembono onokuthi uzenze ukuphucula ezi zakhono zentlalo:

1) Uvelwano.

Uvelwano luthetha ukuzibeka kwindima yomnye, ukuzama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo, izizathu zabo (kutheni besenza njalo) kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ndiziva ndikunye naye.

Xa sichonga ngale ndlela nge-interlocutor yethu, i-chemistry ekhethekileyo iveliswa phakathi kwethu sobabini kwaye ubudlelwane buba bunyanisekile ngakumbi kwaye bunobuhlobo.

2) ububele.

Kumnandi ukudibana nabantu abanobubele abakubulisa ngokufudumeleyo, bancume kwaye bakunike isihlalo ebhasini.

Ixabiso lobubele ayiveli ngobusuku obunye. Yinto ekufuneka uyihlakulele yonke imihla, yenze umkhwa. Kufuneka sizabalazele ukuba olunye lweempawu zethu zobuntu lube lolobubele. Ezo zimbo zomzimba zincinci ziya kubuyiselwa kumhlakulo.

3) Vula abanye.

Asinakuhamba yonke imihla ngeendlebe ezinjengeedonki, siphepha abantu kwaye sihambisa ubuncinci obungenanto. Kuya kufuneka uyophule la shell esisibambayo kwaye sifune ubudlelwane nabanye abantu. Xa umntu evulela abanye abanye uziva ebhetele ngokungapheliyo.

4) Sukuthatha kancinci okanye ugxeke ngokwakho.

Kuqhelekile ukuba senze ngokobuqu okuthile okuncinci: "Khange andibulisele ngoba akandithandi."

Kufuneka siyiqonde loo nto ingxaki ayilali kuthi kodwa emntwini ovela kuye loo mandla mabi. Ukuba wenze oku nathi, uya kwenza njalo nabanye abantu. Ayibangelwa nguwe… kungenxa yakhe okanye yakhe.

Nika elinye ithuba.

5) Yiba @ mna.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sithathe amanyathelo. Sonke siyabathanda abantu abanyanisekileyo abanezinto ezintle nezingalunganga. Ukuba uba ngumntu ogqibeleleyo, uya kuba uyadika.

Abantu abaninzi kufuneka benze iinzame zokuba babe kuba besoyika ukwaliwa. Akukho nto ikhulula ngaphezu kokuhamba ngobomi bokuba unguye ngokwenene.

6) Musa ukugweba kwangaphambili.

Amaxesha amaninzi, imbonakalo inokubakhohlisa. Loo mntu ucinga ukuba akazukukuthanda ungaphuma ube ngumntu oziva ukhululekile kuye. Nangona kunjalo, ekuqaleni uyamjonga ngokukrokrela kwaye uvale kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane naye.

Awungekhe udlule ebomini ngoluhlobo. Khululeka kwaye ube bhetyebhetye ngakumbi.

7) Ukuphumla.

Awungekhe uxakeke xa ungena kubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Zama ukuphumla kwaye bonwabele ubukho bakho, yencoko yabo. Ewe, ewe, ifunyanwa ngoqheliso oluninzi ke qala uqeqesho lwakho namhlanje 😉

8) Funda ukumamela okanye ukunika uluvo lwakho.

Kukho abantu abangathethi nto ngenxa yokoyika ukugwetywa ngokungalunganga kwaye kwelinye icala abanye abayeki ukuthetha kwaye babambe incoko.

Ukuba ukwezi zimbini zeepali ezichaseneyo, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukunika uluvo lwakho ngaphandle koloyiko okanye ukumamela.

9) Yamkela ukuba awungekhe uthandwe ngumntu wonke.

Oku ayinakwenzeka kwaye ayiyonto yokwemvelo ke sukukhathazeka xa ubona umntu ekulahla. Hlonipha uluvo lwabo kuba Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kuthanda wonke umntu. Akukho nto yenzekayo.

10) Fumana ixabiso elivelele kumntu ngamnye.

Sonke sinexabiso elifanelekileyo elibonakalayo kuthi: ukunyaniseka, isidima, ubumbano, ubukrelekrele, ububele, ... Kubalulekile ukufumanisa izinto ezintle umntu ngamnye anazo.

Vumela ukulunga komntu ngamnye kunamathele kuwe ... okubi, kulahle kude. Olunye ulwazi