“Yonke imihla yobomi bam ndiya kukuthanda, ngeempazamo zakho kunye nokuziphatha okuhle. Andithembisi ukuncuma ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ndiyathembisa ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza konke okusemandleni am. Yanga ubomi bethu nothando lwethu bangakhelwa imihla ngemihla ngesiqwengana sethu ”.
Izibhambathiso zothando ezenziwa ngomhla womtshato zezona zihlandlo zovakalelo lomsitho. Ngawo la magama athethwa sisibini esitshatileyo apho sichaza yonke into abazimisele ukuyenza ngexesha lomtshato wabo ukuze oku nyamezela ngesiseko sentlonipho, ukuthembana, ukunyamezelana nothando.
Kuqhelekile ukuba bathi phambi kweendwendwe kwaye nangona kunokubonakala ngathi kukuhle kwabanye, loo mzuzu apho babhengeza uthando yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kubo bonke ubomi obutsha obuqala njengabantu abatshatileyo. Ingakumbi kwabo bathandana ngokwenene kwaye bafuna ukuba zonke iinkcukacha zibekwe kwindawo efanelekileyo. Izibhambathiso zothando, kwezinye ziye zehla, nangona kunjalo, kunjalo Kubalulekile ukuzithatha kwakhona, kuba uthando kufuneka lubonakaliswe.
Ukuba sele uza kutshata kwaye ucinga ngendlela yokwenza izifungo zothando:
- Ngokomgaqo, omabini amaqabane kufuneka avume, ke kufuneka baxoxe kwangaphambili ukuze uzilungiselele ngomhla womtshato.
- Misela notata okanye ngubani oza kuqhuba umtshato ukuba kufanele kubekho indawo yezibhambathiso zomtshato.
- Ngoku ewe, lungela ukubhala.
Iivoti akufuneki uzive ngathi uxinzelelo okanye umthwalo emagxeni ethu, uthando luluvo oluvelisa uthotho lwamava kunye noko sinako, kufuneka nje sivumele amagama ukuba ahambe. Qaphela into ongathanda ukuyithetha, indlela oziva ngayo kunye naye, izinto abadibene nazo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, cinga ukuba yileta oyibhalela umntu omthandayo. Ukuba kunzima, nantsi eminye imizekelo onokuziqhelanisa nayo nenyani:
- Olu thando lusidibanisayo emtshatweni namhlanje, ndiyathembisa ukuba ndiza kuba nawe ngamaxesha onke, ukuba ndibe yinkxaso kunye nomphelelisi wakho Ngokuphathelele kwiimpazamo zam, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuzilungisa, Kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, ndiyathembisa ukuba andizukukwenzakalisa.
- Wena sithandwa sam, sithandwa sam, mhlobo wam, yiyo loo nto ndiza kukuxhasa kangangoko ndinakho, ndiza kuhamba nawe kwiiprojekthi zakho kwaye ndiza kukunceda xa kukho imfuneko yoko. ukufezekisa amaphupha akho, Ndiyayenza imini yakho kubomi bakho buzele luthando.
- Ayinamsebenzi ukuba senza iimpazamo kangaphi, kuba yile nto, akukho ncwadana ichaza ukuba kufanele ukuba injani, into endiyicaceleyo yeyokuba uthando lwam kuwe luza kuhlala luqinile xa ujamelene nabuphi na ubunzima, ukuba esi sithembiso Inkxaso esiyenzayo apha namhlanje ilayishwe ngeenjongo ezinzulu zokuba secaleni lakho.
- Phambi kwabo bonke ubunzima, ndiyathembisa ukuba ndibekhona, ndiya kukuwola ndikuqinise yonke imihla ukuze uve ukuba uthando lwam luhleli. Ndiyathembisa ukukuthemba yiba negalelo lakho kunye neqabane lakho (a), umhlobo wakho (a) kunye nomthandi.
- Ngale mini, njengoko bendisenza, ndikunika intliziyo yam, phantsi kwesithembiso sokuba ndizakuhamba nawe, naphina apho uhambo lwethu lusisa khona. Ukufunda nokuhlala kunye rhoqo.
- Ndikuthatha njengomfazi wam (okanye), uyakuqonda ukwamkela ukusilela kwakho namandla akho, njengoko usenza kum. Ndiyathembisa ukuthembeka nokuqonda kwaye ndihlala ndenza uthando nolonwabo losapho lwam eyona nto iphambili. Ndiza kuba ngowenu ngobuninzi kwaye ndiswele, ekuguleni nasempilweni, ekusileleni nasempumelelweni. Ndiphupha ngawe, ndizonwabele kunye nawe kwaye ndiza kuhamba ecaleni kwakho Nantoni na ebomini bethu. Ungumntu wam, uthando lwam kunye nobomi bam, namhlanje kwaye rhoqo.
- Ukuba sibambelela kunye akukho nto singenakho ukujongana nayo, yiyo loo nto ndithembisa ukuba ndihlale ndisecaleni kwakho, ukukunceda ujongane nemiceli mngeni evelayo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba ubomi nawe abuzokwanela, kodwa ukuba nje sinabo, ndiyathembisa ukukonwabisa.
- Uluthando lobomi bam kwaye uyandonwabisa Kunokuba ubucinga. Undenze umntu ongcono. Ke ndisikelelekile ngokwenyani ngokuba yinxalenye yobomi bakho, ethi ukusukela namhlanje ibe bubomi bethu kunye, ukuba siqhubeke sithandane njengoko senzile ngoku.
- Ndiyathembisa ukukuthanda ngenkululeko, ubekhona xa undidinga, ndikukhaphe kuphumelele kwaye ndikuxhase kukoyiswa kwakho, kuba ngoku konke oko kuyakuba yinxalenye yam. Ke ukuba kukubaleka nawe ndiya kuthi.
- Uxolo, andikwazi Chaza indlela endiziva ngayo kuwe, ndiyazi ukuba ilungile, eyandayo esifubeni sam, endishukumisayo. Ndifuna ukuba nawe yonke imihla xa ndivuka naxa ndiyokulala. Andikwazi ukuyichaza into endiziva ngayo, ngaphaya kokuba amehlo am akhanye xa ulapho, kwaye ndenza ukuzibophelela namhlanje ukukwazisa ukuba ndiza kwenza yonke into kwicala lam ukugcina le mvakalelo ingenakuchazeka kubomi bethu bonke.
- Ndiyathembisa ukuthembeka kunye nomonde, imbeko nokungakhathali, ingqalelo kunye nokuphuculwa komntu. Ndiza kubhiyozela uloyiso lwakho kwaye ndikuthande nangakumbi ngokusilela kwakho.
- Wena ulukhanyiso lwam, kwaye undibonise uthando olungaphaya kolo ndakhe ndalwaziyo, yiyo loo nto ndithembisa ukuba nomonde olufuna uthando, ukuthetha xa amagama efuneka kwaye nokwabelana ukuthula xa kufanelekile.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo
Imizekelo yezibhambathiso zomtshato ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha izimvo zendlela enokuthi yenziwe ngayo, kungcono ukuvumela olo thando ukuba luzive uluvo, ekugqibeleni elowo nalowo abe nomnwe ngokobuqu ngokokuthanda kwesi sibini. Unokongeza isalathiso kwinto ethile ekuchonga njengesibini kunye nento enihlala niyenza kunye, inokuba kukuhamba, ezemidlalo, ukonwaba, i-gastronomy. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba oko kuthethwayo kugcinwa ngexesha lomtshato ngaphandle kobunzima, kubalulekile ukugcina izithembiso kunye nezibophelelo esele zenziwe.
Ukuhlala uhlonipha izivumelwano kubalulekile ukugcina isibini
Ukuhlaziywa kwezifungo zothando
Ukutshata kukukhokelela ekubeni uqonde ezinye zezinto xa babengekho kuthandana bengafani, amava aveliswayo emtshatweni kunye noxanduva oluziswa koku kuvumela isibini ukuba somelele, ukuba bazilungiselele njalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuye kwakho amaxesha apho ziye zajikeleza, ukungqubana kunye neengxaki ezinokuthi ziveliswe yimeko yangaphandle okanye yangaphakathi, kodwa ngandlela thile ebenzileyo. qonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuxhasa kwaye uhambe nomlingane wakho.
Emva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa betshatile, ubudlelwane buye bukhula kwaye mhlawumbi ezo zithembiso okanye izibophelelo kwasekuqaleni zifuna utshintsho olunokuthi luhlengahlengiswe kubomi bomtshato ebebezigcinile kangangexesha elithile. Ngesi sizathu, izibini zigqiba kwelokuba zihlaziye izifungo zazo ukuze zigcine izibophelelo zazo kwaye zilungelelanise nobomi ezibuphilayo ngoku.
Izibini ezininzi zilungiselela ukulungiswa kwazo, kwaye abanye banabantwana babo benza iimbeko. Enye yeendlela esizithandayo zezi abahlobo abasenyongweni kwesi sibini, mhlawumbi intombi yasekuqaleni kunye nendoda ebalaseleyo, ekhetha ukusingatha umsitho. Into enokwenziwa kwindlu yomthandazo, ekhayeni lakho, elunxwemeni, kwigadi entle okanye epakini, encotsheni yentaba okanye kwinqanawa yokuhamba ngenqanawa, okanye naphina apho inentsingiselo khona nobabini.
Ukuvuselelwa kwesibhambathiso ayingombhiyozo obophelelayo ngokusemthethweni, ke nabani na ohlonitshwayo bobabini angasebenza: ijaji, abantwana bakho, isizalwane okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo. Ngokunjalo, iindwendwe sisigqibo sabatshatileyo, ngakumbi abahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho, kodwa ngubani onokuququzelela itheko ukubhiyozela isikhumbuzo sabo kunye nokuhlaziya izifungo zabo.