Ukugxila yinkqubo yonyango lwengqondo ephuhliswe ngu-Eugene Gendlin ngo-1953. Emva kweminyaka eli-15 yophando kwiYunivesithi yaseChicago, uGendlin wagqiba kwelokuba into egqiba ukuba ingaba unyango lwengqondo luyaphumelela okanye aluxhomekekanga, ngakumbi kugqirha, kwindlela isigulana esiziphatha ngayo. into oyenzayo ngaphakathi ngexesha leseshoni. U-Gendlin ufumanise ukuba, ngaphandle kokukhetha, abaguli abaphumeleleyo bajolise kubo ngaphakathi kwabo, kwimeko ecekeceke kwaye esasazekayo ebizwa ngokuba ndeva imvakalelo ("Felt sense" ngesiNgesi). Lo ndeva imvakalelo Inolwazi oluthi xa luqwalaselwe, lusikhokelele kwisisombululo sengxaki esijongene nayo. Ke ngoko, ujolise bubuchule obunokufundwa kwaye ibuyisela indlela yokuziphatha ebonwa kwizigulana eziphumeleleyo.
Ukujolisa kubandakanya ukujolisa kwengqwalaselo ngendlela evulekileyo nengagwebiyo kulwazi lwangaphakathi ubani aluva ngqo kodwa oko kusengaphambi kokuthetha. Oko kukuthi, umzimba unokuqulatha ulwazi oluxabisekileyo, nokuba awukenziwa ngokwamagama okanye uziswe ezingqondweni. Ukugxila kusetyenziselwa ukukhanyisa ukukhanya kwinto umntu aziva ngayo okanye ayifunayo, kwaye kubandakanya incoko kunye noluvo luvakalayo. Abantu abaninzi bayoyika ukuba semizimbeni yabo kangangokuba bakhetha ukuzimela ngeentloko zabo apho yonke into isaziwa khona kwaye akukho nto izakubothusa. Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenza oku, asigcini nje ngokubanjiswa sisaqhwithi seengcinga eziphindaphindayo kunye nezingacacanga eziqhele ukusisa ndawo, kodwa siphulukana nolwazi oluninzi. Umzimba awusosixhobo okanye umatshini womzimba nje. Eli candelo yinto inzululwazi ekwaziyo ukuyibamba okanye ukulinganisa ngokugqwesileyo, kodwa umzimba ungaphezulu koko: bubulumko.
Zeziphi izibonelelo zokuGxila?
Ukugxila kusinceda ukuba sicinge ngamanye amabali okanye ezinye iindlela ezinokubangela imeko, ukubona izinto ngokucacileyo, ukwenza izigqibo kunye nokukhuthaza utshintsho kuthi.
Ngenkqubo yokugxila, sinokuguqula ifayile ye- ndeva imvakalelo kwinto ebambekayo nekulula ukusebenzisana nayo. Y Ukuze olu luvo luva ukuba luyenzeka kwaye luthathe intsingiselo, umntu kufuneka azame amagama ahlukeneyo aguqulela olo valo. Xa uthetha la magama, kubalulekile ukuba unake into eyenzekayo ngaphakathi kuba ndeva imvakalelo ayizukuqinisekisa igama okanye ibinzana (inokuba ngumfanekiso) ongachazanga ngokwaneleyo. Oku ngokubanzi kuthatha ixesha kwaye kubalulekile ukuze ubenako ukunyamezela ukungaqiniseki. Kodwa nje ukuba sikwazile ukukuqonda oko ndeva imvakalelo kwaye siyinike igama, siyaqaphela ukuba ukubhloka kuyanyamalala kwaye ekugqibeleni singaqhubeka.
Uhlengahlengiso oluninzi lwenkqubo yokuGxila ekucetyweni kwasekuqaleni yiGendlin sele yenziwe. Enye yezona zidumileyo nguAnn Weiser Cornell. Ngokuka-Weiser, ezi zinto zintathu ezahlula ukugxila kwezinye iindlela zokwazisa ngaphakathi kunye nokukhula komntu zezi zilandelayo:
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Ingqondo evakalayo:
Ukugxila kuthetha ukungena emzimbeni kwaye ufumane apho ukuba ulwazelelo olukhethekileyo lubizwa ndeva imvakalelo, equlethe nentsingiselo. Mhlawumbi ukhe wayifumana amaxesha ngamaxesha ngaphandle kokuyinika ukubaluleka kakhulu. Kwaye kukuba ngokubanzi sihlala sinikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo. Ingxaki ngeemvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha zenza ilifu kwaye zisithintele ekuboneni ngokucacileyo. Uloyiko luloyiko, ayikho enye into. Siziva sisoyika kwaye "siyazi" kungenxa yesi sizathu okanye eso sizathu kodwa ziimbali esele sizazi kwaye siziphinda-phinda ngokungadinwa. Endaweni yoko, kunzima ngakumbi ukufikelela emzimbeni. Kodwa ukuba sisebenza kwinqanaba le ndeva imvakaleloSingaziva ukuba olu loyiko, olu sihlangabezana nalo ngoku, lwahlukile kuloyiko esibe nalo izolo ngokomzekelo. Mhlawumbi uloyiko lwayizolo lwalufana nelitye elibandayo esiswini sakho, kwaye uloyiko lwanamhlanje lukurhuqa okanye ukubuyisa umva. Ukuba sishiyeke noloyiko apha nangoku, sinokufumana esona sizathu sokuba boyike kangaka. Xa siqwalaselwe, le mvakalelo ihlala iguqulwa kwaye idlulela ngaphaya kwento esicinga ukuba siyayazi. Isikhokelela kutshintsho. Sikwazile ukufikelela kumxholo obonakala ungafikeleleki kude kube lelo xesha. Nangona kunjalo, andifuni ukubonisa ukuba masizidele iimvakalelo zethu, iliso. Singaqala ngokuchonga imvakalelo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe sinxibelelane ndeva imvakalelo.
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Ingqwalaselo ejolise embindini kwaye ihamba kunye nokwamkelwa kunye nokuzibophelela:
Nje ukuba uyazi i ndeva imvakalelo, inyathelo elilandelayo kukunikezela umgangatho othile wokuqwalaselwa kuyo. Enye indlela yokwenza mema loo mvakalelo ukuba ihlale nathi ebhentshini (elicingelwayo) ukuze sazi bhetele. Xa simisela olo lwalamano kunye ndeva imvakalelo, kubalulekile ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokufuna ukwazi kuye. Masizame ukunqanda ukubeka izihluzi Ngokutolika, ukuqiqa, izimvo, iingcinga, okanye ukugxeka. Lo mkhwa uyafana naxa singena kwigumbi elimnyama. Njengoko amehlo ethu esiqhela kubunzulu obuphantsi bokukhanya, siqala ukuqonda izinto ezisingqongileyo ngokucacileyo. Uninzi lwabantu alunamonde wokuhlala kwigumbi kwaye bakhetha ukuphuma ngqo. Kodwa okusikhokelela kulwazi olunzulu ngumdla, umnqweno, umdla wokufuna ukwazi. Kwelinye icala, apha ayikokuzama ukutshintsha nantoni na, kodwa malunga nokwamkela, okanye kanye ukuvumela olovakalelo. Utshintsho lwenzeka ngokwalo, kuba umhlaba wethu wangaphakathi awukho ndawonyesoloko ihambahamba. Xa sigcina ukuqonda, oko ndeva imvakalelo iyavela, ishukume kwaye iguqule kwinyathelo elilandelayo. Sinomdla kwi Njani? luvavanyo, hayi yena kutheni.
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Umkhwa oququzelela utshintsho:
Uninzi lwabantu luqinisekile ukuba ukuze utshintsho lwenzeke, kufuneka umntu ayivelise, kwaye amandla kunye nomzamo zizinto ezisisiseko sokwenza oko. Kodwa le ntanda-bulumko ayisebenzi ekugxileni. Ngokutsho kokuGxila, utshintsho lwenzeka njengenxalenye yendalo yezifundo, kwaye xa into ibonakala ingatshintshi, into oyifunayo kukuqwalaselwa kunye nokwaziswa ngokupheleleyo, kukhatshwa sisimo sokwamkela kwinto ethiwe thaca kuthi. Umzimba uyayazi into oyifunayo, njengembewu yeradish iyazi ukuba izakuguqula ibe radish. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sivelise naluphi na utshintsho, kodwa sinikeze kuphela iimeko ezivumela olo tshintsho.
Kukhethwa ukuba usebenzise le ndlela kunye nonyango okanye umntu oqeqeshwe ekugxileni kodwa inokwenziwa kuphela usebenzisa iphepha okanye incwadi yokubhalela umzekelo.
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