Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngesihloko seengqondo esinomdla omkhulu, esiza kunceda bonke abantu abanomdla wokoyisa iimeko ezinzima, zimalunga Ukomelela Apha siza kuthetha kancinci malunga nokuba yintoni, isebenzela ntoni, uyisebenzisa njani, kunye nokunye.
Inokuchazwa njani imeko yomelele?
Nangona inkcazo yokomelela iguqulwe amatyeli aliqela kule minyaka idlulileyo, kunokuthiwa sisakhono abantu ekufuneka besenze ngendlela efanelekileyo kwiimeko ezinzima esidlula kuzo. Ngolwazi oluthe kratya, sisakhono soku ukumelana neengxaki zoxinzelelo ngaphandle kokusichaphazela ngokwasengqondweni. Ngale ndlela sinokuphila ubomi ngokuzola nangakumbi, sizele ziingcinga ezintle ezisikhuthazayo ukuba siqhubeke nobunzima.
Kwiimeko ezininzi igama elikhankanyiweyo alisetyenziswanga, koko “iinkqubo zomelele”; Kungenxa yokuba ithathwa njengenkqubo, ethi ibandakanye inani elikhulu lezinto ekufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo zijongane nokulungelelanisa.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba lo mgangatho uqhele ukwenziwa ngabantu abaninzi, into ethetha ukuba awukho "ngokungaqhelekanga". Umzekelo woku ibe ziintlekele zendalo okanye uhlaselo lobunqolobi, apho abemi beli belizwe benze iinzame zomntu kunye nezihlangeneyo ukuzakha ngokutsha nobomi babo.
Izinto ezinefuthe
Kukho izinto ezininzi okanye imiba echaphazela ukukhula koQinisekiso, olunokuthi luphuhliswe ngabantu abafanayo. Ezinye zezona zibalaseleyo zezi:
- Yiba nesiphatho esifanelekileyo kwiimvakalelo, iimpembelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla.
- Yiba nobudlelwane obuhle ngaphakathi nangaphandle kosapho, apho ikhoyo uthando, inkxaso kunye nothando.
- Ukwazi ukulandela amanyathelo ezicwangciso zakho kunye neenjongo ezifanelekileyo.
- Ubuchule kunye nobuchule ekunxibelelaneni nase ukusombulula iingxaki zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo.
- Ukuzixabisa, xabisa oko banako, ube nethemba, kwaye ubathembe bobabini amandla abo kunye namandla abo.
Iindidi zokomelela
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwicandelo. Kwimeko yengqondo, esithetha ngayo, kunokukhankanywa oku kulandelayo:
- Kwingqondo: esiphuhlisa kulo lonke inqaku.
- Ukomelela kombutho: kukusetyenziswa kwesi sikhundla kwimeko yeshishini. Isetyenziswa ngokubanzi ngoosomashishini, abafuna iindlela zokujongana nabuphi na ubunzima obunokubeka emngciphekweni izicwangciso zabo.
- Kubantwana: Kuyacetyiswa ukuba kufundiswe abantwana kunye nolutsha malunga nesi sifundo, ekhaya nase esikolweni.
Iimpawu zabantu abomeleleyo
Abantu abakwaziyo ukukhulisa obu buchule kwaye babusebenzise ekusebenzeni bonwaba ngakumbi, kuba oko akuvumeli ukuba bazinze xa bejamelene nobunzima. Ukongeza, zinokwenyani ngakumbi kwaye ziyaguquguquka. Phakathi kwezona mpawu zibalulekileyo sinokuzifumana:
- Bangabantu abaninzi uyazi ukuba bathini kwaye benza ntoni, Bayabazi ubuchule babo nokusikelwa umda. Baziqhelanisa nokuzazi, kuba oku kukuvumela ukuba ukusebenzisele inzuzo yakho.
- Bathembele ngokupheleleyo kubuchule babo bokufezekisa iinjongo ezicetywayo; Ngokucacileyo ucinga ngokwenyani ngaphandle kokuzingca.
- Bayayazi indlela yokuchonga izinto ezibangela ingxaki Ukuthintela izehlo zayo kwixa elizayo.
- Bangabantu bokuyila, abajonga indlela yokusombulula ngaphandle kokulindela iziphumo ezifanayo ngokungathi ubunzima abukenzekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ufumane ezinye iindlela ezineziphumo ezahlukeneyo ezilinganayo kwaye bayayazi indlela yokwenza.
- Uninzi lwabo baziqhelanisa nengqondo, Into esele sithethile ngayo kwinqaku elinikezelwe ngokukodwa kubo. Ngamafutshane, bayayazi indlela yokusebenzisa nayiphi na imeko, bayazonwabela zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci ebomini, kwaye bayayazi indlela yokuphila ngoku.
- Ngaphandle kwenyani kwaye inenjongo, iingcinga ezintle zihlala zibalulekile. Kwangelo xesha, bayazingqunga nabantu abacinga ngokufanayo; Ngale ndlela yenza imeko elungileyo evumela ukuba boyise nawuphi na umqobo kwaye babone ukoyiswa njengendlela yokufumana amava.
- Zibhetyebhetye xa kufikwa kutshintsho kwaye abazami ukulawula okanye ukunyanzela iimeko. Ngamanye amaxesha sifuna ukulawula zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu okanye zabanye; into esenza sizive singalunganga xa sisilele. Ukongeza, bavunyelwe ukuba bamkele utshintsho oluyimfuneko kumaxesha amaninzi.
- Aboyiki ukufuna inkxaso kwabanye abantu. Bayazi ukuba abantu ababangqongileyo kunye neengcali kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo baya konwaba ukubanceda kwaye babonise inkxaso yabo.
Uyakha njani ukomelela?
Phakathi izibonelelo zokomelela Singafumana ukuzithemba okukhulu, ukungazigxeki, ithemba, ukujongana nemingeni, ukwanda kwamathuba okuphumelela, kwaye banelisekile kwaye banempilo yabantu. Ukuphuhlisa obu buchule sisitshixo sokukhokelela kubomi obonwabisayo nobusempilweni.
Kuba ayisiyiyo into esizalwe sinayo kodwa kunokuba sikhule njengoko sihamba ebomini, abanye abantu abanakho ukubukhulisa. Ngeso sizathu, sifuna ukukunika iingcebiso eziya kuba luncedo olukhulu kuwe.
Zama ukuseka ubudlelwane obuhle
Zombini kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo, kubalulekile ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle. Ukongeza, isebenza nabantu osebenza nabo, obaqhelileyo, amaqabane, phakathi kwabanye. Umbono kukuba abantu abomeleleyo, njengoko besitshilo, baxhomekeke kakhulu kuncedo loluntu; ukusukela ekupheleni kosuku, leyo yingcinga yoluntu.
Funda kumaxesha adlulileyo
Asinakuthwaxwa ziingxaki ezenzeke kwixesha elidlulileyo. Uninzi lwethu lunoloyiko olunzulu lweemeko ezenzeka kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka sifunde ukoyisa, sifunde kumava ukuba ezi meko zisishiyile kwaye sisebenzise esikufundileyo ukuphucula ikamva lethu.
Funda ukwenza izigqibo
Kubalulekile ukuba umntu angathandabuzi kwaye ayazi indlela yokwenza izigqibo, kuba ubomi buxhomekeke kuzo. Ingakumbi xa sithetha ngeemeko ezinzima. Umbono kukufunda ukulawula izinto ezingalunganga ezinokuthi zichaphazele ukwenziwa kwezigqibo zethu, ukuze kube lula kakhulu.
Zazi kwaye uzikhathalele
Njengokuba ingavakala ingaqhelekanga, bambalwa abantu abazinika ixesha lokuzazi. Bahlala ngokwemiqathango yabanye kunye neenkolelo ezisekwe luluntu. Kubalulekile ukuba sizazise kwaye sazi ukuba sithanda ntoni, zeziphi izakhono zethu kunye nobuthathaka bethu, yintoni ekufuneka siyiphucule, phakathi kwabanye.
Ngokwazi oku, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuzikhathalela, kuba kuya kufuneka ujonge iminqweno yakho, iminqweno yakho, iinjongo zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka uphinde uphile ubomi obunempilo, kungekuphela ngokwesondlo, kodwa ngokomoya nangokwasemzimbeni (ewe, kufuneka wenze imidlalo).
Inqaku elihle! Enkosi!!