Abantu banokubakhumbula abantu, izilwanyana, iindawo okanye izinto, kodwa yimvakalelo ehamba ngaphakathi kuthi sonke kwaye asinakwenza nto ukuyiphepha. I-Nostalgia inokusenza sizive silusizi okanye sinethemba lokuba kwixa elizayo sinokuba kunye nabo bantu sibathandayo. Akunakuphikwa ukuba sonke, ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu sikuphosile.
Yimvakalelo eyaziwayo kwasebuncinaneni, xa sithi ndlela-ntle kumntu esimthandayo, xa sifuna ukubuyela kwindawo esenza siziva sithuthuzelekile, njl. Mhlawumbi awuhlali kwidolophu yakho kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha undwendwela kwaye ushiya uziva unoluvo lokumangaliswa ongenakukuthintela. Ungalikhumbula idolophu, kodwa uya kuphoswa nayinto yonke ehlala kulo, njengosapho okanye abahlobo.
Kutheni sikhumbula nje?
Sisoloko sizibuza ukuba xa sikhumbula umntu, into ethile, indawo, kungenxa yokuba siyazithanda ezo zinto? Masithi xa sikhumbula umntu, ngaba sihlala silwa nathi ngesizathu sokulahleka kwakhe? Ngexesha elithile sikhumbula nabantu esibathiyileyo. Amaxesha amaninzi sikhumbula abantu esingenabo ubudlelwane obuhle nabo.
Siphosa umntu okhethekileyo xa sithandana naloo mntu okanye xa sinolwalamano olukhethekileyo naloo mntu njengabazali okanye abantakwethu. Loo mntu uhlala enathi xa sifuna umntu esithembele kuye.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, yimvakalelo emnandi kakhulu ukukhumbula umntu, indawo okanye isixeko. Sihlala sicinga ngalo mntu, iinkumbulo ezintle zendawo esikhumbula ngayo. Kodwa xa ukulahleka kuba yintlungu emva koko kuyakufuneka ukuhambisa olo luvo ukuze lungasongameli kakhulu.
Abantu abaninzi baziva ngathi yeyona nto imbi kukhumbula umntu, kodwa kukwakho abo baziva njengentlungu emnandi, kuba ukusilela kuthetha ukuba unayo okanye ubenobudlelwane obusondeleyo naloo mntu okanye loo ndawo uyiphosileyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba siphile ngoku kunye nabantu esibathandayo kakhulu kuba ngabo abasizalisayo ngobomi. Wonwabele umzuzu kwindawo, uphefumla umoya osingqongileyo kwaye ukujonga indalo. Soloko uzama ukuxabisa amaxesha amnandi kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo aya kukwenza uncume.
Enye into abantu abayenzayo kukufihla iimvakalelo zabo kumntu abaphulukana naye. Kuya kufuneka sigcine i-ego yethu ecaleni kwaye sidlulisele iimvakalelo zethu kuloo mntu. Ubomi bufutshane kakhulu; Ukuba sithanda okanye sikhumbula umntu, nceda ubazise. Ukuba loo mntu uyasiqonda, ngekhe abonakalise ubudlelwane bayo ngento entle njengokumkhumbula. Uthando alunamntu, into okanye indawo xa sahlukene, kodwa ngandlela thile siziva sifudumele ngaphakathi kuba siziva sisondele ezintliziyweni zethu.
Kutheni abantu belahlekile
Kutheni le nto ngamanye amaxesha sikhumbula abantu abathile ngequbuliso?
Kutheni ukhumbula ngesiquphe umntu owawumthanda kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo emva koko ubaphose?
Kutheni le nto maxa wambi uziva ngathi ufowunela umhlobo othile ongakhange umfownele ithutyana?
Abantu bashukunyiswa ziimfuno. Xa sinxaniwe siyazikhuthaza ukuba sisele kwaye xa silambile sizikhuthaza ukuba sitye. Ngoku masithi unxaniwe kwaye emva koko usele ibhotile yamanzi, ngaba ayizukuthatha ixesha ngaphambi kokuba unxanwe kwakhona? Ewe kunjalo, oku kuyakwenzeka kuba isidingo saneliswa okwethutyana. Njengokuba kukho iimfuno zomzimba ekufuneka zifezekisiwe amaxesha ngamaxesha kukwakho neemfuno zengqondo.
Ezo mfuno zengqondo zitshintsha yonke imihla kwaye nangosuku olunye. Ngoku, izizathu zokuba iimfuno zengqondo zihlala ziguquka zininzi, kodwa nantsi eminye imizekelo elula yokukunika umbono wezi zizathu:
- Umbono wakho: ukuqonda kwakho kunokutshintsha iimfuno zakho. Ukuba ngequbuliso ucinga ukuba uwedwa, unokuziva ubiza umhlobo.
- Iimvakalelo zakho: Ingqondo isebenzisa iimvakalelo ukwalathisa abantu kwiimfuno zabo. Ukuba wonke umntu ngequbuliso uziva edikiwe, ke ingqondo izama ukubakhuthaza ukuba baqhubeke nomsebenzi owahlukileyo kunale bayenzayo ngoku. Iimvakalelo zichaphazela ukuqonda.
- Amava obomi: Amava ohlukeneyo obomi ohamba nawo anokubangela ukuba utshintshe ngesiquphe kwiimfuno zakho zengqondo
Naluphi na utshintsho kwiimfuno zakho lunokuvumela ukuba uphoswe ngabantu
Masithi ukhe wakwimeko etshintshe iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Kwimeko enjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuphoswa ngabantu abathile emva kokudlula kuloo meko. Ukuhamba ngamava amabi ngenxa yomntu kunokukwenza unamathele kubantu abangafaniyo naloo mntu kwaye ufuna uthando kwaye Inkxaso yabantu abakuthandayo nabakwamkela njengokuba unjalo.
Utshintsho kwiimfuno akufuneki lubangelwe yimeko entsha, kodwa lusenokubangelwa ziingcinga, izivamvo okanye ukuqonda. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukucinga ngento ethile ngendlela ngequbuliso kunokukwenza uzive ngathi ulahlekelwe ngumntu. Hayi, awumkhumbuli loo mntu kuba yayinguye yedwa okanye iqabane lakho lomphefumlo. Umntu uyaphoswa nje ukuba awuzifezekisi iimfuno zakho ezibalulekileyo ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ngamanye amagama, ukuba ukwazile ukufumana indlela yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nomntu omphosileyo, awusayi kuphinda umkhumbule loo mntu. Kodwa imvakalelo yokulahleka kwezinye izinto okanye indawo yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye awunakukhathazeka, ziimvakalelo ekufuneka uzamkele ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni uziva unjalo. Ukuba ukhumbula umntu okanye indawo, kungenxa yokuba ukhathalele ngaphezulu kunokuba ubucinga ekuqaleni ... Qonda iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uyazi ukuba kutheni umkhumbula!