Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo-Yintoni, iintlobo kunye namabinzana

Kule minyaka yangoku, iingcali ezininzi ziye zasebenzisana ekufuneni inkcazo esengqiqweni ngayo yonke into eyenzekayo kuthi; Njengeemvakalelo, ezinesizathu sokuba zichazwe kwaye impendulo yabizwa ngokuba "yi-Emotional intelligence", gama elo nangona lalisetyenziswa kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, laye lathandwa ngo-1995 ngenxa yokupapashwa kwencwadi UDaniel Goleman, eyayinegama elifanayo nesihloko sayo.

Ngenxa yokuthandwa kwesi sihloko sikufumene ngexesha elizele ngoosomashishini kunye nabantu abanomdla wokuphucula nokuphuhlisa njengabantu ngabanye, sigqibe kwelokuba sincedise ingqolowa yethu yesanti ngokungena ngokwaneleyo. Sinethemba lokuba uyakonwabela ukufunda.

Yintoni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo?

Intsingiselo yeli gama liqikelelwa, kuba kukho uphando oluninzi kunye neenkcazo malunga nalo. Nangona kunjalo, inokuchazwa njenge Ukuqonda kwengqondo abantu kufuneka bazi, baqonde kwaye balawule iimvakalelo zabo; Ngendlela efanayo ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba aqonde, aqonde kwaye anefuthe kwabo babanye.

Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo (i-EI) bazalwa ngenxa yesidingo sokubanakho ukuvavanya umntu ngendlela egqibeleleyo, kuba iimitha zobukrelekrele (IQ) khange avavanye indlela umntu aziqonda ngayo kwaye azixabise ezakhe iimvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo okanye ezabanye abantu. Into eyathethwa nguHoward Gardner ngokupapashwa kwakhe kwe "Multiple Intelligences: ithiyori yokusebenza", incwadi eyakhutshwa ngo-1983.

Kwakungekho kude kube ngo-1985 apho eli gama lafumana ukubonakala okuthe kratya kwithisisi kaWayne Payne; nangona ngo-1964 no-1966 ubuNgcali boMoya babesele bonyulwe nguBeldoch noLeuner. Nangona kunjalo, ngo-1995 kulapho eli gama laye lathandwa kakhulu kwincwadi kaDaniel Goleman, esithe sayichaza ekuqaleni kokungena; kuba le inempembelelo enkulu.

NgokukaDaniel Goleman ngokwakhe, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ingqondo isebenza njani ukuze umisele amandla aneemvakalelo ngaphezulu kweengcinga zethu. Inkcazo esinokuyifumana emsebenzini wakhe:

Iindidi ngokukaDaniel Goleman

Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo bunokwahlulwa lube zizinto ezintlanu, ezichazwe nguDaniel Goleman njenge ukuzazi, ukuzilawula ngokweemvakalelo, ukuzikhuthaza, uvelwano kunye nezakhono zentlalo.

Ezi zinto zinokwahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeka kwi ubuntu bomntu Kwaye nangenxa yesini sabo, umzekelo, kwiimeko ezininzi amadoda azazi ngakumbi; ngelixa abafazi baziva benovelwano ngakumbi.

Yiba nolwazi

Kukukwazi komntu ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo abanazo, kunye nokuqonda ukuba banefuthe njani kwiingcinga zabo okanye ngokubanzi. Ngamanye amagama, kukwazi wena ngokwakho, ukwazi amandla akho (iimpawu okanye ubuchule) kunye nobuthathaka bakho.

Ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho

Yaziwa njenge ukuzilawula okanye ukuzithiba ngokweemvakalelo, Yeyona nto inoxanduva lokulawula nokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zethu, ngeenjongo zokuba bangabinakho ukulawula iingcinga kunye nezenzo.

Ngokusisiseko kukukwazi kwethu ukuba siqonde ukuba kutheni siziva ezi mvakalelo kwaye sifunde ukuzilawula ngamaxesha afanelekileyo, kuba ngesiqhelo xa zikwindawo ephemeral siphela sizisola ngokuthetha okanye ukwenza into ebesingazukuyifuna ukuba bekungekho kuba iimvakalelo ziphembelele indlela esiziphatha ngayo nengcinga yethu.

Inkuthazo yakho

Inokukwazi ngokwazi ukugxila kwiimvakalelo kwicala eliluncedo, oko kukuthi, ukubeka usukelo okanye injongo kunye nokwazi ukujolisa ingqalelo kuyo; ukuze sizikhuthaze.

Kungatshiwo ukuba "kukuzithemba" okungagungqiyo (nangona ngamanye amaxesha kulwa nokukhoyo ngoku), kunye namandla e "qhinga "elisenza ukuba siqhubele phambili ngendlela elungileyo yokukhula kwimiba eyahlukeneyo yethu ubomi.

Uvelwano

Yeyona ivumela qaphela iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zabanye abantu, ezidla ngokudluliselwa zingazi. Inokubizwa ngokuba "bubukrelekrele phakathi kwabantu", eyayiyenye yeendlela u-Howard Gardner akhankanye ukuba akanakulinganisa izikhombisi zobuntlola ezinje IQ.

Umntu okwaziyo ukuqonda, ukuqonda nokuchaphazela iimvakalelo zabanye abantu, unendawo enkulu yokuseka unxibelelwano nayo; Ngapha koko, abantu abanovelwano ngabo banezikhundla eziphezulu ze- ngqondweni.

Izakhono zentlalo

Las ubudlelwane obunxulumene nabanye Ziyinto ebalulekileyo nebalulekileyo kuphuhliso oluchanekileyo lomntu; kuba ezi zinefuthe elibonakalayo kulonwabo, imveliso kunye nokukhula komntu.

Le nto yenza ukuba kuthethwe ngokungangqalanga ngovelwano, oluyimfuneko ukuseka obu budlelwane; ngendlela efanayo yokuba yinto eyimfuneko ukuphucula i-IE yethu ngezizathu ezichazwe ngaphambili.

Fumanisa izakhono zakho ngovavanyo

Njenge-IQ, zininzi iimvavanyo zobukrelekrele bemvakalelo esinokuzifumana kuyo yonke iwebhu. Ngaphandle koku, eyona nto icetyiswayo kukuya kwingcali enokuqhuba uvavanyo lomntu kunye nolungaqhelekanga njengeemvavanyo oza kuzifumana kwi-intanethi.

Nangona unamathandabuzo, ezi mvavanyo zinokukunika umbono othile lithini inqanaba lakho le-IEKungacetyiswa ukuba wenze njalo. Ewe kunjalo, kuba iimvavanyo zikhetho oluninzi, kuya kufuneka uthembeke ngokusemandleni kwaye uzame ukuhlalutya ngokwenyani impendulo yakho inokuba yeyamatyala athile; Ngale ndlela kuphela uya kufezekisa iziphumo ezichanekileyo.

Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo kubantwana, iinkampani kunye neenethiwekhi zentlalo

Ngenxa yokuthandwa okufezekisiweyo, kukho uphando oluninzi olwenziwe ngesihloko kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo. Phakathi kwazo, ezona zibalulekileyo kukulawula iimvakalelo abanazo abantwana, abasebenzi kunye nabasebenzisi benethiwekhi yoluntu.

1. Abantwana

Abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ngokwasemphefumlweni ukuze babenakho ukukhula kwezi zinto sele zikhankanyiwe kwaye ngale ndlela, babe nakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kwaye baziqonde ezo zabanye kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, njengoko, njengoko sele sibonile, zibaluleke kakhulu .

Nangona kunjalo, i ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo ebantwaneni ihlala ifundwa ngokuziqhelanisa, okt ngokukhula kwayo kubomi bokwenyani. Ke, ezi mfundiso zinokuxhaswa ngoncedo losapho, ke sicebisa oku kulandelayo:

• Bafundise ukulawula umsindo kunye nokuba bazi ukuba kukho iimpendulo ezimele ziphetshwe.
• Mbonise ukuba zeziphi ezona mvakalelo zixhaphakileyo kunye nendlela yokuziqonda kwabanye abantu, ukuze bakwazi ukuphuhlisa uvelwano.
• Mfundise ukubiza iimvakalelo abazivayo kwiimeko ezithile.
• Mbonise ubuchule obubavumela ukuba bazivakalise kwaye bajongane neemvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo.
• Khuthaza unxibelelwano ukuze bazive bekhululekile ukuveza izimvo zabo, banike izimvo zabo okanye nayiphi na enye into abaziva okanye bayicinga.

2. Iinkampani

Izifundo ze-EI kunye nophando olunxulumene nendawo yeshishini luvelise iziphumo zomdla omkhulu, ukusukela abasebenzi abane Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo bunemveliso ngakumbi kwaye bonwabile. Ngokwedatha eqokelelweyo, abo basebenzi banakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kwaye babone ukuba yintoni abathengi babo, banesakhono esikhulu sokuthengisa iimveliso kunye neenkonzo.

Oku kubangele ukuba abasebenzi abane-EI bafunwe ngakumbi ziinkampani, kuba bafuna abantu abakwaziyo ukujongana neemeko ezinzima ngokuzimisela kunye nethemba. Ke ngoko, iinkampani ziqalisile ukuvavanya olu hlobo lobukrelekrele xa kukhethwa ukuba ngubani oza kuba yinxalenye yeqela lomsebenzi.

3. I intanethi

Iinethiwekhi zentlalo yenye yeendlela zonxibelelwano, ke oku kunokuba nokubaluleka kwezinye iinkalo. Nangona kunjalo, alukho uphando oluninzi olwenziweyo malunga noku, ke siya kuzikhawulela ekuphawuleni ngezinto ezimbalwa.

• Abantu abakwiwebhsayithi zokuncokola bathanda ukuba novelwano, kuba ezo mpapasho zibonisa iimeko ezinzima okanye ezinzima zithande ukwanda ngakumbi. Ngokukwanjalo, abantu abanesabelo kwimpumelelo yakho banomdla wokwamkeleka ngakumbi.
• Kwiinkampani, izibonelelo ze-EI zibonakala ngakumbi xa kulawulwa uthungelwano lwasentlalweni. Kuba ivumela ukuba bamamele ngakumbi kubathengi babo, bamkele ukugxekwa, babe nethemba kwaye babeyinyani ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko, ukuphucula iimfuno zabaphulaphuli ekujoliswe kubo, phakathi kwabanye.

Amabinzana obukrelekrele bemvakalelo

Okokugqibela, kukho into efunwayo emva koko ngaphakathi Recursosdeautoayuda Sisoloko sikulungele ukuqokelela, ngamabinzana (Kuya kufuneka undwendwele icandelo lethu!). Ke siyathemba ukuba uyabonwabela.

• Ukuba ufuna ukonwaba, kufuneka uzinikezele ekuboneni abanye bonwabile. -Bertrand Russell
• Ingxaki kukuba, ukuba awuziphileli ngokwakho, abanye abantu baya kuphila. -U-Peter Shaffer
• Intando yinjongo eyamkelekileyo kwiimvakalelo. -URaheel Farooq
• Ukuba ufunda le nto ... Siyavuyisana nawe, uyaphila. Ukuba ayisiyonto yokuncuma ngayo, andazi ukuba yintoni. - UChad Sugg
• Esona salathisi silungileyo somntu yindlela abaphatha ngayo abantu abangenako ukumenzela nto, kunye nendlela abaphatha ngayo abantu abangakwaziyo ukuzikhusela. -UAbhigayil Van Buren
• Umntu okrelekrele unokulungelelanisa nantoni na, umntu olumkileyo akazami nokuzama. —UJen Knox
• Ngokwenyani yokwenene, sonke sineengqondo ezimbini, ingqondo yokucinga kunye nengqondo yokuziva. -UDaniel Goleman
• Yiloo nto eyenzekayo ngezifundo, uhlala ufunda kuzo, nokuba awufuni. -Cecelia Ahern
• Ukucinga ngento ethile akuthethi ukuba iyinyani. Ukufuna into akuthethi ukuba kuyinyani. - UMichelle Hodkin
• Yonke imvakalelo inendawo yayo, kodwa akufuneki iphazamise isenzo esifanelekileyo. -USusan Oakey-Baker

• Kuyamangalisa ukuba yakuba nje ingqondo ikhululekile kungcoliseko lweemvakalelo, ingcinga kunye nokucaca kuvela. -Clyde DeSouza
• Imfesane yokwenene ayithethi kuphela ukuziva intlungu yomnye, kodwa ikwasebenza ukuyiphelisa. -UDaniel Goleman
• Silibala ngokulula ukuba yintoni ebangela iintlungu kuthi. -Graham Green.
• Oosomashishini baseNtshona bahlala besilela ukuqonda ukubaluleka kokwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. -UDaniel Goleman
• Yonke into yokufunda ngokuqonda ifuna ukulungela ukulimaza ukuzithemba kwakho. Yiyo loo nto abantwana abancinci befunda ngokukhawuleza ngaphambi kokuba bazi ngokubaluleka kwabo. UThomas Szasz.
• Ukuzazi sisiqalo sabo bonke ubulumko. - uAristotle
• Andikhathali nokuba ungathini kum. Ndiyayikhathalela into owabelana nam kunye nam. - USantosh Kalwar
• Ingqondo yeemvakalelo iphendula kwisiganeko ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi kunengqondo yokuqiqa. -UDaniel Goleman
• Shift ingqalelo yakho kwaye utshintshe iimvakalelo zakho. Guqula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ingqalelo yakho iya kutshintsha indawo. -UFrederick Dodson

• Ukukwazi kwethu ukuziqhelanisa kuyamangalisa. Amandla ethu okutshintsha ayamangalisa. -Liza Lutz.
• Ayisiyoxinzelelo olusibangela ukuba siwe, yindlela esiphendula ngayo kwiimeko zoxinzelelo. -UWayde Goodall
• Ekuphela kwendlela yokutshintsha ingqondo yomntu kukunxibelelana nayo ngentliziyo. -URasheed Ogunlaru
• Isibindi sesona sibalulekileyo kuzo zonke izidima, kuba ngaphandle kwesibindi, abukho obunye ubuhle obungaguquguqukiyo obunokwenziwa. - UMaya Angelou
• Ukuba ulwa nesiqu sakho ukuze ufumanise isiqu sakho esinyani, uya kufumanisa ukuba mnye kuphela ophumeleleyo. -UStephen Richards
• Hambani njengengonyama, thethani njengamahobe, philani njengeendlovu, nithande njengomntwana omncinci. - USantosh Kalwar
• Enye indlela yokwandisa amandla ethu ukwazi indlela yokulawula iziphazamiso endaweni yokubavumela basilawule. -UDaniel Goleman
• Musa ukoyika uloyiko lwakho. Azikho ukuze zikoyikise. Zikhona ukuze zikwazise ukuba into ethile ibalulekile. -Coy JoyBell C.

Ngelishwa le yindawo yokungena, kodwa hlisa umoya, kamva sizakuqhubeka nokungena kwesi sihloko sinomdla. Siyathemba ukuba uyawonwabela umxholo obonelelweyo kwaye njengoko sihlala sisitsho, ukuba ufuna ukufaka igalelo okanye unemibuzo, ungalibali ukuba apha ngezantsi kukho ibhokisi yezimvo. Ewe, sikumema ukuba wabelane ngenqaku kwiinethiwekhi zakho, njengoko uza kunceda abantu bafunde malunga nolu hlobo lobukrelekrele