Ukungabikho kwembeko kunokubutshabalalisa ubudlelwane, nkqu nezo zazibonakala ngathi zisekwe iminyaka. Mhlawumbi ukhe waziva uthotyiwe ngaphakathi kuwe okanye indlela oziva ngayo ukungaqiniseki ngokweemvakalelo kungene ngaphakathi kwakho emva kokudibana nomnye umntu. Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba intlonipho iyimfuneko kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba babe nayo nawe njengoko unabanye.
Xa usilela ukuhlonipha kubudlelwane, ubudlelwane phakathi kwaba bantu butshabalala ngokuthe ngcembe. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ubudlelwane bobabini, usapho, ubungcali okanye ubuhlobo ... Ukuba imbeko iyanyamalala, ubudlelwane buyafa.
Yintoni
Intlonipho kukuziphatha okuhle. Xa kukho imbeko, kukho ukubaluleka kwabanye, isidima sabo siyaqwalaselwa. Intlonipho kukuthathelwa ingqalelo kwamalungelo abantu abazalwa benawo ngenxa nje yokuba benjalo. Nangona kufuneka kubekho imbeko kwindalo, izilwanyana kunye nobomi ngokubanzi.
Intlonipho, ke ngoko, ibalulekile kulwalamano lwabantu kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala ngoxolo phakathi koluntu. Intlonipho lilungelo kwanesibophelelo, ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba wonke umntu azi kwaye aqonde ukubaluleka kwako kubomi babantu bemihla ngemihla. Unelungelo lokufuna unyango oluhambelana nesidima sakho kwaye unoxanduva lokunika olo nyango kubantu abakungqongileyo.
Ukungabi nantlonelo kubuso obahlukeneyo kuba kubonisiwe kwizimo zengqondo, ngentetho nangolwimi olungenamlomo ... ayinguye wonke umntu ophatha oontanga bakhe ngentlonipho kwaye kubalulekile ukuyichonga kwangexesha, ukuze, ukuba kukho imfuneko, imida ibekwe. abantu abangakwaziyo ukuziphatha kakuhle. Ezinye zezizathu zokungahloniphi phakathi kwabantu zibandakanya:
- Ukuzicingela
- Ikratshi
- Ukunganyamezelani
- Ukudelela
- Ukunqongophala kwemfundo
- Ukungabikho kovelwano
- Ukungabikho kwamaxabiso
- Ukuhlala kunye okubi
Ukungabi nantlonelo kuchaphazela njani
Ukuba kukho ukunqongophala kwentlonipho eluntwini, kusapho, kubudlelwane phakathi kwabahlobo ... iyakuhlala ivelisa ukungavisisani kunye nobundlobongela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo apho ivela khona ingxaki. Akukho mntu uthanda ukungabi nantlonelo yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhloniphe abanye kakhulu, njengoko usazi ukuba ungafuna njani ukuba uzihlonele.
Kuluntu zininzi kakhulu iindawo apho kukho ukungabikho kwentlonipho enjengale: njl.
Zonke ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zibangela ukungonwabi kubantu abachaphazelekayo, iimvakalelo zenzondo, ukufuna ukuziphindezela komnye umntu, iimvakalelo zokungancedi ... kuya kuxhomekeka kubuntu bomntu ochaphazelekayo ezinye iimvakalelo okanye ezinye zivela, kodwa akukho zimvo zivakalayo.
Ungayiphepha njani kumanqanaba amane
Ukuba abakuhloniphi, kuyafuneka ukuba umisele imida kwaye uzikhusele kubundlongondlongo ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo obusilela kwimbeko kuwe. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubanyamezele abanye abantu bezama ukukuhlaza okanye ungazi nje ukuba bakuphathe njani ngembeko. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba awukwazi ukulawula isimilo sabanye, Ewe ungaseta imida kwaye usete iziphumo ngalo lonke ixesha kusenzeka.
Inyathelo lokuqala AKUKHO ukulungelelanisa ukungabi nantlonelo, kungaphantsi kobudlelwane bamandla. Umzekelo, ungaze uvumele umphathi ukuba angakuhloniphi ngenxa yokuba engumphathi wakho, akukho mntu ufanele ukungabi nantlonelo nakubani na! Awunyanzelekanga ukuba "unyamezele" nabani na ongaziyo ukuba angakuhlonipha njani. Ngaba loo mida iphawulwe kakuhle ebomini bakho.
Inyathelo lesibini kukwazi into oyinyamezelayo kunye nento ongayinyamezeliyo kubudlelwane nabanye. Zombini nosapho lwakho, njengabahlobo bakho okanye abantu osebenza nabo. Yenza inzame zokwazi xa uziva ngathi omnye umntu utyhala imida ekwenza uzive ungonwabanga. Umzimba wakho uhlala ukulumkisa xa omnye umntu engenayo imbeko oyifaneleyo, ke kuya kufuneka umamele umzimba wakho xa uthetha nawe ukuze wazi okwenzekayo.
Isinyathelo sesithathu kukukhumbula ukuba akukho mntu uphakamileyo kunaye nabani na kwaye ke ngoko akukho mntu unelungelo lokukulimaza okanye ukukwenzakalisa nangayiphi na indlela. Musa ukunika amandla kwabanye abantu ukuze bakwazi ukungakuhloneli kwaye bakwenzakalise, eyona mbeko inamandla ikhoyo nekhoyo Kuya kuphawula intlonipho abanye baya kuba nayo kuwe, yintlonipho onayo ngokwakho.
Inyathelo lesine kukubeka imida ebantwini ukuze bazi ukuba kufuneka bakuhloniphe. Ukuba umntu othile ukwenza ukuba uzive ungalunganga, sukumisa ukungonwabi kwakho kuba uza kuqala ukuzityhefu. Sukuvuma ukungaziphathi kakuhle kwabanye kuba baya kucinga ukuba bangayenza. Sebenzela ekuzimiseleni kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukuthetha ngamagama alungileyo kwaye ungonzakalisi mntu ukuba kukho indlela yokuziphatha ongayinyamezeliyo kwaye ekufuneka eyihloniphile. Ukuba loo mntu akatshintshi indlela aziphethe ngayo, Bonisa intlonipho kuwe kwaye uhlale kude naloo mntu uyingozi kuwe.
Wonke umntu ufanelwe yintlonipho
Wonke umntu ufanelwe yintlonipho kwaye ukuba awucingi njalo, kuya kubaluleka ukuba uqale ukusebenza kwinqanaba lakho lamaxabiso. Ukuba ucinga ukuba abanye abafanele ukuhlonitshwa, kungenxa yokuba ungakholelwa ukuba uyakufanelekela okanye mhlawumbi, awuyazi indlela yokwenza ukuba bakuhloniphe okanye awazi kuzihlonela. Ukuze kubekho intlonipho ebomini bakho, kufuneka uqale nawe.
Awufanelanga kudelwa mntu nangaliphi na ixesha ebomini bakho. Kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kungcono na ukuphatha iintlungu ekubonakala uncumo okanye ukuthatha into eyenzekayo kwaye ungavumeli abanye ukuba bagqithe kwimida ebangela ukungabikho kwembeko. Kufanelekile ukuba uqale uzihloniphe kwaye awubavumeli abanye ukuba bawele loo mngqikelelo kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ugcine engqondweni. Kwangokunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba uphi loo mgca kubomi babanye ukuze ungaweli. Bafanelwe yintlonipho efana neyakho.
