Kwinkcubeko yethu, ukujonga kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwimi olungathethiyo kwaye kusinceda ukutolika iinjongo zabanyeYiyo loo nto ngamanye amaxesha kungonwabisi kwaye kuphazamisa ukuthetha nomntu ongakhange ajonge ngqo emehlweni ethu, njengabantu abangaboniyo, abantu abane-autistic okanye kwanabantu abanxiba iiglasi zelanga.
Ukujonga kunokuthetha izinto ezininzi, ukutolikwa kwayo kuhlala kuxhomekeke kwinkcubeko, kukho iinkcubeko apho ukujonga umntu luphawu lokungahloniphi, oku kujonga kunokutolikwa kwezinye iinkcubeko njengocelomngeni, ukuba ndlongondlongo, okanye ukoyikisa.
Izifundo zebhayoloji zibonise ukuba amehlo ayibarometer yovuko lwethuOku kuqondwa njengokusebenza kwengqondo kunye nenkqubo yeemvakalelo elawula iimpendulo zethu kukhuthazo lwangaphandle kwindalo esingqongileyo.
Kwaboniswa, kuphononongo lukaGqirha Peter Murphy eNetherlands, ukuba abantu abasoloko bekhula ngakumbi abafundi, ngabo abathatha izigqibo ezingalunganga, kuba kuyaziwa ukuba amaxesha okonwaba, akulunganga ukwenza izigqibo, kungcono ukuzenza xa uzolile. Ngamanye amagama, ubungakanani babafundi bunokuqikelela ukuthembeka kwezigqibo.
Kukho abantu abanezakhono zokujonga ezifanelekileyo kwiimpawu ezifihlakeleyo ezinje ngobungakanani bomfundi, yiyo loo nto abadlali abaninzi be-poker bekwenza ngezibuko zelanga. Kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokukholelwa ukuba ii-manipulators ezizelweyo, ezinje ngee-sociopaths, ngabafundi abalunge kakhulu bamehlo.
Ngokubhekisele kubafundi, u-Eckhard Hess, ugqirha we-biopsychologist kwiYunivesithi yaseChicago, waqonda ukuba xa benomsindo okanye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, abafundi badla ngokungena kwisivumelwano. Ukwafumanise ukuba ukwanda kwabafundi kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuthandana, oku kuyayanyaniswa nenyaniso yokuba iintlanganiso zothando zihlala zenziwa kwiindawo ezinokukhanya okuncinci, Kukwakholelwa ukuba abantu abathandanayo ngokungazi baphanda amehlo omnye umntu bejonga iimpawu zokuthamba.
Enye inkalo ngokubhekisele kwamehlo enokuchazwa yimbonakalo, umzekelo, ukujonga kakhulu emacaleni ichaza ukoyika, ukujonga phantsi kungangumqondiso weentloni, iintloni, ukuziva unetyala okanye ukungazithembi, oko kunokuthetha ukuba baphazamisekile okanye bazame fihla into.
Ngokombono wendaleko, sikulungele ngokungazi ukuba sinike intsingiselo kwinkangeleko yabanye, ukusukela oko ezi zingasinika ulwazi oluluncedo ukuze sisinde, umzekelo ukwazi ukuba kukho uvelwano kusini na nomntu nokuba ngumntu onobungozi onokusihlasela kwaye kufuneka sibaleke.
Into enokufunyanwa ngokuhlalutya ukujonga komntu bubuxoki, ukujonga phezulu kwaye ngasekunene kubonisa ukucinga okanye ulwakhiwo, ngokungafaniyo nokujonga phezulu nangasekhohlo okusisalathiso sokufumana ulwazi kwimemori, emva koko ukuba umntu uza kuxoka, uya kujonga ngasekunene ukwenza into aza kuyithetha, Kodwa kufuneka silumke, kuba ezi ntlobo zeembonakalo azisoloko zimisela ubuxoki kwaye ayifani kuye wonke umntu, baninzi nabantu abasele bekwazi ukuxoka ngaphandle kokujonga kwelicala.
Uphando olwahlukeneyo lubonakalisile ukuba amaqondo aqhwanyazayo angonyuka kwiimeko zovalo okanye ixhala, oku kuhlala kubonakala kumaxoki okanye kubantu abaphantsi koxinzelelo.
Amehlo anokusinceda sifumanise ukuba uncumo luyinyani okanye alungeyonyani, uPaul Ekman wahlule phakathi koncumo olunyanisekileyo nolungelulo, utshilo Amehlo anokusinceda xa sithandabuza ukuba uncumo luyinyani okanye akunjalo, kuba luyinyani, amehlo agcwalisa imigca emincinci emacaleni kwaye acekeceke kancinciUkongeza, amaxesha amaninzi ukukhanya okuthile kunye nokufuma kuveliswa emehlweni omntu owonwabileyo.
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