Kungenzeka ukuba uzifumane ukwenye yeemeko apho uthandana nomntu kodwa yena ukujonga njengomhlobo, into ecaphukisayo kwaye inokuba lusizi kakhulu, kuba ngamanye amaxesha inokude ibe nde kune iyimfuneko. Ngeso sizathu siza kukunika uthotho lwe iingcebiso malunga nokuphuma kwindawo yomhlobo, ukuze nikwazi ukuzikhulula ngaphezu kwayo yonke into ngenjongo yokuba zihambe kakuhle kwaye niqale ubudlelwane kunye, kwaye kwimeko embi kakhulu ukuba nizikhulule kwaye nikwazi ukuqhubela phambili ukwamkela izinto ezintsha ezinokubakho kwisiphelo.
Yintoni i-friendzone
I-friendzone yile limbo esizifumana sikuyo xa sikunye nomntu esimthandayo kodwa khange sikwazi ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zethu, ngokokude lo mntu acinge ukuba sizihlobo zakhe kuphela kwaye akasekho phakathi kwethu.
Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, kusithatha ixesha elide ukuqonda ukuba sikule meko, ukuze, nangona sisazi nyani ukuba lo mntu akazazi iimvakalelo zethu, sidlula ixesha ngethemba lokuba ngenye imini yonke into iya kusonjululwa kwaye siya kufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo.impendulo yomlingo ukuba ibe ecaleni kwakhe ngaphandle kokufihla iimvakalelo zethu.
Inyani yile yokuba oku kwenza ukuba yonke inkqubo ithathe ixesha elide kunokuba iyimfuneko, oko kuthetha ukuba ekugqibeleni sifumanisa ukuba siziva sikhathazekile ngakumbi, kwangaxeshanye asinandlela yimbi ngaphandle kokuba mamela iimvakalelo zakho kwiqela lesithathu, nto leyo esenza sizive sibi kakhulu.
Ngenxa yeso sizathu, ixesha lifikile lokuba sitshintshe i-chip kwaye siqhawule imeko, esiza kukunika uthotho lweengcebiso esinethemba lokukunceda ngazo shiya indawo yomhlobo kunye nentloko yakho ibanjwe phezulu kunye namathuba aphezulu okuphumelela.
Iingcebiso zethu zokuphuma kwindawo yomhlobo
Okulandelayo siza kunika iinkcukacha ngezinye zeengcebiso eziphambili zokuphuma kwindawo yomhlobo, kodwa khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba sibe nobuchule kwaye siziqhelanise nemeko yethu ethile, oko kukuthi, ayizizo zonke izibini zabantu bonke ezifanayo, ke Ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka siqwalasele iinkcukacha kwaye sizisebenzise ukuze sifezekise iinjongo zethu.
Qaphela ukuba ukwindawo yomhlobo
Oku kufana nokukhotyokiswa ziziyobisi, kuba ukuba awukwazi ukuvuma ukuba ulikhoboka, ayizubakho indlela yokuba uyeke kwaye uzikhulule, ke ngoku icebo lethu lokuqala kukuba uyazi ukuba untywiliselwe ngokupheleleyo kumhlobo wobuhlobo, ukuze sikwazi qalisa ukuthatha amanyathelo okuphuma kuyo.
Khumbula ukuba ukwaliwa kwezi meko akuyi kusinceda nganto, kwaye isiqingatha semilinganiselo kunye nokuzithethelela akuncedi nokuba, oko kukuthi, into esiyithethayo malunga "Akazazi iimvakalelo zam, kodwa ndithatha amanyathelo okwenza ukuba andithande","Andikho kummandla wobuhlobo, kodwa ndimamela iingxaki zabo ukuze bazi ukuba banokundithemba kwaye ke baya kuthandana"…
Konke oku akukho nto ngaphandle kwe-bullshit, kwaye kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ukwi-friendzone, ke yeka ukwenza izizathu kwaye uqale ukwamkela ingxaki.
Funda imeko yakho
Nje ukuba siyiqonde into yokuba sikule meko, into elandelayo kukuhlalutya indlela esibugcina ngayo ubudlelwane, oko kukuthi, yeyiphi intembeko ekhoyo kwaye yeyiphi imiqondiso esikhe sayifumana ngendlela umntu abona ngayo thina.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba siyazi ngokugqibeleleyo indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngaye, kodwa akanalo olona lwazi lukude nolwethu, ngenxa yoko asinakukuthetha ngaphandle kweblue nokuba kungonakalisa ukuzithemba, kodwa kuya kufuneka siqale ukuvavanya Amanzi kwaye aqonde ngokuchanekileyo oko akubonayo kuthi xa esijonga.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luthando, ukuqonda kwaye, kwabanye abaninzi, lukhona nothando, kodwa ngokungathathi inyathelo eliya phambili, ekugqibeleni ubudlelwane buyolula kwaye, qiniseka, okude sikwi-friendzone, kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuphuma ngempumelelo, kuba ukuthembana kuya kuba nkulu kwaye oku kuya kwenza kube nzima ngenene ukuba nigqibe kunye.
Indlela elungileyo yokufumana idatha efanelekileyo ngumzekelo kwabanye abahlobo bakho, kuba amaxesha amaninzi kukho izinto esingazibambiyo kodwa ezinokuba luncedo kuthi. Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka sibuze ngobuchule kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke simthintele ekufumaneni abantu besithathu, kuba oku kunokudala imeko yexesha elinzima nelingathandekiyo.
Lifikile ixesha lokuvuma
Nje ukuba yonke into icace, kuya kubakho oku kulandelayo vula kwaye uvume iimvakalelo zakho kulo mntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sibuthathaka, oko kukuthi, akufuneki sibe nexhala kwaye sishiye ibinzana elicengceleziweyo ngaxeshanye, kodwa eyona nto ilungileyo kukulungiselela idinga apho sisodwa, sizolile kwaye sinendawo eyaneleyo kunye nexesha ukuze sikwazi Chaza indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, ukuze angaphinde anyanzelwe ukuba enze isigqibo kodwa uziva ukuba angayifumana indawo yakhe yokucamngca ngayo nayiphi na into abona ifanelekile.
Ewe kunjalo, siqala kwisiseko sokuba ukusukela ngoku izinto phakathi kwethu zizakutshintsha, kodwa kuyafuneka ukuba zitshintshe, kuba kungenjalo besizakuba nomda kunye nokuzithuthumbisa ubomi bethu bonke. sichitha iminyaka yethu yobutsha ngoluhlobo ukuze ekugqibeleni singamfumani loo mntu?
Sele usenzile isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukushiya i-friendzone, ke siyakucebisa ukuba ungabuyeli emva, kwaye ukuhlala ngoluhlobo akunampilo kuye nawuphina umntu, ke kuya kufuneka u-ewe okanye hayi kubo.
Ngaphandle kokuthetha, kubaluleke kangakanani ukucwangcisa ngokufanelekileyo lo mhlangano, ngokufanelekileyo emini, kwaye kunjalo ubuso ngobuso. Akukho nto yokuthumela imiyalezo kwaye ewe akufuneki sibenotywala ngaphambi komzuzu, kuba oko kunokusikhokelela ekubeni senze ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunaleyo siyiyo, enokuthi isichaphazele kakubi.
Lindela impendulo evela kuwe
Sele siyenzile yonke into ukuya shiya indawo yomhlobo kwaye uzame ukuphumelela kubudlelwaneKe ngoku ibhola isenkundleni yakhe, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka simlinde ukuba athathe isigqibo kwaye asixelele ngaso.
Kuya kufuneka siqale kwisiseko sesigqibo esintsokothileyo, kuba uyasithanda, kodwa akazi ukuba eyona nto avakalelwa ngathi luthando okanye yimvakalelo umntu anayo ngomhlobo wakho umntu.oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha ukucoca, kwaye kunjalo nendawo.
Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba sishiye umda, oko kuthetha ukuba asizukuthumela imiyalezo okanye senze iminxeba okanye sikhangele lo mntu naphina ukuze asinike impendulo, kodwa siya kumvumela ukuba abe nguye onxibelelana nathi xa une wenza isigqibo sokugqibela.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba iimvakalelo zethu zibalulekile, ukuze kuthi xa sibona ukuba iintsuku ezimbalwa ziyadlula kwaye asinampendulo, singazama ukunxibelelana ukuze siqonde ukuba bayacamngca na okanye ngokuchaseneyo baziva bengonwabanga. Akufanele samkele imilinganiselo yesiqingatha, oko kukuthi, Sithathe isigqibo sokuyishiya i-friendzone, yiyo loo nto sele sishiyiwe sinemilinganiselo yesiqingatha; impendulo nguewe okanye impendulo nguhayi, kodwa phakathi azikho ezinye iindlela esinokuthi sizenze.
Impendulo yakho kwimpendulo yabo
Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele yindlela esiza kusabela ngayo kwimpendulo yakho. Ngokucacileyo sinethemba lokuba uya kuvuma ukuba liqabane lethu okanye ubuncinci azame, kwaye ukuba siyaphumelela, kunjalo singonwaba njengoko sifuna, kodwa phambi kwakhe siza kuyenza ngokumodareyitha, kuba Kuya kufuneka abonakale enxanelwe okanye aphule umfanekiso anawo kuthi.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuvuma ukuba ukhetha ukungaqhubeki nolwalamano, ngenxa yoko asikwazanga ukuseka ubudlelwane naye, kodwa umhlaba awupheleli apha. Into yokuqala kukuba ngoku sikhululekile ngokupheleleyo ukuba sifune ulonwabo kwenye indawoKe ukuba uyasala, ekuphela kwento esinokuyenza kukwahlukana naye.
Musa ukucinga ukuba ukusondela kunokutshintsha ingqondo yakhe, kuba yeyona nto yokugqibela eza kwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, ngokushiya icala lakhe kunokwenzeka ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha uzokuqonda indlela esasibaluleke ngayo ebomini bakhe, Oko kuthetha ukuba ungabuya uphinde ucinge ngale meko kwaye uqwalasele ukuqala ubudlelwane kunye nathi.
Ke ukuba impendulo nguhayi, musa ukubeka naluphi na uhlobo lomboniso, kodwa yenze icace kuye ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyinyani, ukuze ungekhe uqhubeke ecaleni kwakhe kuba iyakuba kukuhlala ungcungcuthekiswa luthando olungenakwenzeka.
Kuya kufuneka aqonde, nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba uza kukutsalela umnxeba kamva, kodwa kule ndlela kufuneka ungabinantsingiselo, oko kuthetha ukuba Kuya kufuneka umcele ukuba ahloniphe indawo yakho kwaye akuvumele ukuba ulilele usizi lwakho wedwa.
Siyakukhumbuza ukuba ngokwahlula sandisa amathuba okuba kwixesha elizayo abe nomdla kuthi kwakhona, kwaye kwimeko apho oku kungenjalo, ubuncinci siya kuba siphumile kulomgibe apho besicinga ukuba silungile kodwa enyanisweni ibisikhawulela kwaye ibisenza sizive ngathi singabantu abaxhomekeke kwaye ngaphandle ukukwazi ukufezekisa ulonwabo ngokwethu, into ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili uzakuqonda ukuba oku akunjalo kwaphela, ke, nokuba uthi ewe okanye uthi hayi, uya kuba uzikhulule kwaye uzakuqala Umjikelo ebomini bakho apho uya konwaba ngakumbi.
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