Xa umntu efuna ukuba nesisa ebomini bakhe, Kuya kufuneka usebenzele ekubeni nobubele yonke imihla yobomi bakho. Umntu olungileyo ngumntu onomyolelo okanye ochaphazela umntu onegunya okanye igunya phezu kwakhe, unokuba nokuba nobulali okanye anyamezele kwezinye iimeko. Ukuba unesisa ebomini bakho uya kuba nakho ukuhlala uzolile kwaye uzolile, ukwazi ukumisela ubudlelwane obungcono phakathi kwabantu nabanye.
Ukuba uneengcinga ezintle, ubuso bakho buya kubonisa kwabanye kwaye baya kuhlala bekubona ubukeka. Ngesisa iingcinga zakho ziya kuba zilungile okanye zanele, ngekhe kubekho mabala engqondweni yakho ngenxa yokucinga okungalunganga. Uya kuba nesimo sengqondo sethemba kwaye Nangona ngamanye amaxesha unokuba namaqhuma ebomini, uya kukwazi ukutsiba ngobabalo.
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Kodwa inyani kukuba umhlaba yindawo entle, apho kukho ubomi kwaye apho kufuneka kusoloko kukho ithemba lokuphucuka. Isitshixo sokubona umhlaba njengendawo ihlabathi alilelanga ukufuna ukutshintsha, Kuba ngekhe ukwazi! Imfihlelo yokuphila ngolonwabo kukutshintsha ngokwakho.
Kukho iindlela ezilula zokutshintsha indlela obajonga ngayo abo bakungqongileyo, kwaye ubone okuhle ebantwini kunye nobume obunamandla bobukho babantu. Wonke umntu unokulungileyo nokubi, into oyibonayo ixhomekeke kwinto oyifunayo. Ukuba ukhetha ukubona ezona zibalaseleyo ebantwini, uya kuthi. Ukuba ukhetha ukubona okona kubi ebantwini, nawe uya kuba. Ukuba ugcina oku engqondweni uya kuba nakho ukubona okungcono ebantwini, nokuba kubonakala kunzima ngamanye amaxesha.
Unokuyeka ukugweba abanye kwaye ubone umhlaba njengendawo efanelekileyo yokuhlala, egcwele ubuhle ngokungafezeki kunye nomnqweno wokutshintsha. Ngokulunga entliziyweni yakho, awuyi kukhathalela ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni ngawe, nokuba bagweba ntoni okanye bagxeka ntoni, kuba nangona kunjalo, uya kuzama ukubona indawo yabo elungileyo.
IiMantras ezizisa ububele entliziyweni yakho
Kukho ezinye iimantra ezingakunceda ukuba ube ngumntu olunge ngakumbi kwaye ngale ndlela, ufunda ukuphila ubomi bakho ngendlela ezele lulonwabo, ngaphandle kwetyhefu okanye ityhefu yeemvakalelo echaphazela abanye.
Imantra yokuqala
Njengam, lo mntu ufuna ulonwabo, kwaye njengam, bazama ukufumana indlela elungileyo yokulufumana.
Le mantra inokusetyenziswa xa uhendwa ukuba ugwebe umntu obonakala engathandeki, mhlawumbi kuba ubona izinto ezingathandekiyo abazibhala kuFacebook okanye kuba zibonisa into ongayithandiyo. Ngemantra engqondweni yakho le mvakalelo imbi kulomntu iya kuthi shwaka. Ngalo lonke ixesha uhendwa ukuba wale abanye, phinda eli binzana entlokweni yakho.
Ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, uya kuqala ukuziva uvelwano ngomnye umntu kwaye endaweni yokucekiseka uya kuqala ukuqaphela ubuntu babo. Ukuba uyaziqhelanisa, uyakuwaqonda amandla ale mantra ebomini bakho. Nokuba awuvumelani nezenzo zomnye umntu, uya kwazi ukuba ngekhe ubatshintshe nangona bengqubana nokuziphatha kwakho. Umntu ngamnye uya kuza ebomini bakhe izigqibo ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kananjalo abanako, kodwa loo nto ayifanelanga ukuba ichaphazele amandla akho aqinisekileyo.
Ukuba wenza isigqibo esibi ngomntu othile, uvumela isigqibo somnye umntu sikuchaphazele, ukonwaba kwakho kunye nolwaneliseko. Ungakuvumeli oku, banike imfesane yakho kwaye ungagwebi abanye ngokuba namaxesha amabi. Ngale ndlela uya konwaba kwaye uya kuhlala uzolile kwaye uvumelana.
Oku akukho lula kum. Andikholelwa kulwalamano lokuziphatha (okanye naluphi na uhlobo lokuhambelana), ke nangona ndingavumelani nezenzo zomntu, ndiyazi ukuba andizanga kwifilosofi yam yobomi ngobusuku obunye, kwaye abantu banokuza kwizigqibo zakho malunga ixesha lakho. Kananjalo abanako, kodwa loo nto ayifanelanga kuchaphazela ibhamu yam yamandla aqinisekileyo.
Imantra yesibini
Ndonwabile ngaye.
Kuyinyani, le mantra iphantse yabonakala ngathi yinto nje, kodwa iyimantra yokwenene kwaye inokukunceda amaxesha amaninzi. Yintoni ebalulekileyo malunga noku kukuba unako ukonwaba kwabanye. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kunzima, kunokulingwa kwaye ngokuziqhelanisa kuyaphumelela. Ukonwaba kwabanye kukwenza uzive wonwabile.
Ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo kubhetele kunokuqhutywa kukuzisizela kunye nomona. Ukonwaba kwabanye akuyi kukwenza uzive ulungile. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu wakudala uyatshata, wonwabe. Ukuba umphathi wakho unike omnye umsebenzi ongcono, konwabe yena.
Kubonakala ngathi kusisidenge, kodwa ukuba uyaphinda ngokwakho, ingqondo yakho iya kuyibeka ecaleni imvakalelo engalunganga oye wayigcina ngelinye ixesha kwaye isebenze ubumnandi. Uya kuziva ulunge ngakumbi malunga nokuba nethemba kunye nokuvuthwa malunga nayo kunokuba ubuya kuziva ukuba uziva unomona. Ngokukrakra, iyasebenza. Zama nje.
Imantra yesithathu
Yintoni endiyifumanayo xa ndinesiphene?
Ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka ujonge iindleko kunye nezibonelelo zezigqibo zakho: ngaba ukungaziphathi kakuhle nabanye abantu kuyakonwabisa? Ngaba ibenza bube ngcono ubomi bakho? Iyintoni imbuyekezo kuloo mandla atyale imali? Ngaba uyonwaba xa uneengcinga ezingakhiyo ngabantu ebomini bakho, nokuba ngumzuzwana nje? Impendulo nguhayi. Iingcinga ezintle malunga nabanye abantu zikwenza uzive unxibelelana ngakumbi, kwaye iingcinga ezimbi zikwenza uzive ulilolo kwaye ulilolo. Amava omntu okufuna ulwazi kunye nolonwabo kwindalo iphela, ke akukho sizathu sokuziva ulilolo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumhlobo osenyongweni womntu wonke, kodwa ukuziva ungonwabanga kwabanye ngekhe kubucebise ubomi bakho, kuyabunciphisa. Iya kukwenza uphile ungonwabanga. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba nethemba, wonwabe, ubone okuhle emhlabeni kwaye ubomi bakho buza kutshintsha: uya kuba namandla kazibuthe, umelane ngakumbi, uphume ngakumbi kwaye uzimisele ngakumbi ukuthatha umngcipheko ... Kwabo balungileyo balindele ububele kwihlabathi.