Sikwixesha apho ubuchule buya buxabiswa kakhulu kubantu abadala kuba kubonakala ngathi xa ungumntwana, kunqabile. Umbutho unenkxalabo enkulu malunga nempumelelo yabantwana kodwa awukhathali nokuba ungabenza njani bayifumane. Abazali baxhalabile ngamabanga, iimvavanyo, indlela yokufunda ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza, indlela yokukhuphisana ngcono kwaye ufezekise ubuninzi ngawo onke amaxesha. Nangona impumelelo inokuza, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kwinkqubo yokugxila kakhulu kwimpumelelo silibale ukubaluleka kokuyila? Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uyiphuhlisa njani le nto yokudala kwasekuqaleni kubomi babantwana ...
Ukuyila kuyimfuneko ekukhuleni kwabantwana kwaye kufuneka kuphakanyiswe kwasekuqaleni. Kufanelekile ukuba uphinde ucinge ngendlela enokubakho ngayo kunye nendlela yokufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ukuvumela abantwana ukuba baphonononge umhlaba iya kuba luhlobo lokukhuthaza ukuyila ... ukukhula kwangoko koku kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ucinga.
Uyilo
Ukuyila kunokuchazwa njengokucinga okanye izimvo zoqobo, ngakumbi kwimveliso yomsebenzi wobugcisa. Leyo yindlela yokucinga yendabuko yoyilo, kodwa ukuyila kungaphezulu kakhulu koko. Ibaluleke kakhulu kuyo yonke into esiyenzayo ukuze siphumelele. Ukuyila kusinceda sikwazi ukujongana notshintsho, ukusombulula iingxaki, kuchaphazela ubukrelekrele bethu kwezentlalo nangokweemvakalelo, kuphucula ukuqonda kwethu imathematics kunye nesayensi, kwaye yeyona nto iphambili kwezempilo nolonwabo ...
Njengokuba oko kwakunganelanga, ubuchule bokuyila buyimfuneko ekuphembeleleni ubomi babantwana kuba bunokubanceda ukuba basebenzise amandla abo angaphakathi. Ezona ngcinga zixhaphakileyo kukukholelwa ukuba umntu unetalente kuphela ukuba uzelwe eneso "sipho", kodwa inyani kukuba sinokuphuhliswa. Inkxaso yabazali kunye nesikhokelo malunga nokufuna ukwazi komntwana, kunye nenkxaso yabo kwizinto abazithandayo, zihlala zibonakalisa impumelelo yexesha elizayo kunayo nayiphi na enye into.
Ithetha ntoni ke le nto? Ngamagama alula, oko kuthetha ukuveza abantwana bethu kwizinto ezibanceda ukuba baphonononge umdla wabo wokuyila kunye nobuchule bokuvuselela amandla abo eetalente. Umbono kukuba ukuba ubuchule buphuhliswa besebancinci, Abazali banokunceda abantwana ukuba bafikelele kwiitalente zabo.
Indlela yokukhuthaza ubuchule ebantwaneni
Ukuba ungutata okanye umama wabantwana, ke kusezandleni zakho ukukhuthaza ubuchule babantwana bakho ukuze babe namathuba amaninzi ebomini. Oku kuthetha ukuba ubuchule bokuyila ayisiyonto ozelwe nayo, yinto ekufuneka inyuswe kwaye abazali banoxanduva ngokupheleleyo ukuba yenzeke. Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokuphucula ubuchule babantwana bakho, apha ngezantsi siza kukunika iingcebiso ezinokuba nomdla kuwe, zibeke ngoku!
Buza imibuzo kwaye ukhuthaze ukucinga nzulu
Le yenye yeendlela ezilula zokukhuthaza ubuchule! Xa uhamba epakini mbuze imibuzo emininzi. Mbuze nantoni na onokucinga ngayo: umbala wesibhakabhaka, ukuba uyazibona iintaka, kutheni kukho imithi, ngowuphi umbala awuthandayo, njl. Ngokucacileyo, le mibuzo iyakuxhomekeka kubudala bomntwana wakho, Kodwa injongo kukubenza bacinge malunga nehlabathi elibangqongileyo kwaye basebenzise ukucinga kwabo.
Ukukhuthaza ukucinga okunzulu kufuna ukujonga yonke into ngenkqubo yenzululwazi. Ngaphambi kokuqala umsebenzi / iprojekthi / umdlalo, babuze ukuba bacinga ukuba iziphumo ziya kuba yintoni. Kwaye xa ubabuza lo mbuzo, sukuphazamisa. Bayeke bacinge ngokugqibeleleyo ngaphandle kokukhokela kwimpendulo yabo. Xa sele ugqibile ngale nto bayenzayo, babuze malunga nesiphumo kwaye uthelekise noko babecinga ukuba kuya kwenzeka. Oku kunokuba lula njengokutsiba eludakeni okanye kube nzima ukwenza iiprojekthi zesayensi.
Ixesha kunye nexesha lokukhulula
Andiqinisekanga xa thina njengoluntu sithatha isigqibo sokuba wonke umzuzu wobomi babantwana bethu kufuneka uzaliswe luhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babe namaxesha okungasebenzi kunye nokudikwa. La maxesha abaluleke kakhulu kuba abantwana banikwa ithuba lokuzihlola nokuzibuza ... Kwaye basebenzisa iingcinga zabo. Eyona nto, njengoko besithethile ngayo, ibaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthaza ubuchule.
Yenza indawo yoyilo
Oku kubalulekile kuba kuvumela abantwana ukuba bathathe iingcinga zabo. Ukuba awukwazi ukunikezela kwigumbi elipheleleyo kuyo, ungakhathazeki. Ikona encinci egumbini okanye kwibhokisi egcwele izinto ezintle isebenza ngokufanayo. Akukho malunga nendawo. Ingakumbi malunga nento esemajukujukwini. Gcwalisa indawo ngezinto ezinokunxitywa ngabantwana, bazenze, baphonononge, kwaye baveze. Ezinye izimvo zoku zezi; iimpahla ezindala abanokuzisebenzisa njengempahla yokunxiba, izinto abanokuzidlala ngazo, iilensi, izinto zobugcisa, iibhodi ezimnyama njl
Musa ukuvuza abantwana bakho ngempumelelo kodwa umgudu
Ngokucacileyo, sifuna ukukhuthaza impumelelo yabantwana bethu. Kodwa, kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba sithethe nabantwana bethu ngamanyathelo awathathayo ukufezekisa into kunokufuna isiphumo. Babuze ukuba yeyiphi imiqobo abajongane nayo kwaye bahamba njani kuyo. Babuze ukuba bafunde ntoni kule mpumelelo. Okanye ubabuze ukuba bathande ntoni okanye bangathandi ntoni ngale nkqubo. Ngokwenza oku sivumela abantwana bethu ukuba bacinge ngento eyenziwayo ukufezekisa iinjongo, indlela yokwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo, kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokuba bayayithanda na into abayenzayo.
Sukungenelela
Oku kunokuba nzima kubazali abaninzi ... Kodwa, Ukuvumela abantwana basebenze "ngezinto" ngokwabo kufanelekile. Endaweni yokuba singenelele sisombulule iingxaki ngenxa yabo, banyanzelwa ukuba bafunde ukusombulula iingxaki bebodwa. Eyona nto ibanyanzelayo ukuba babusebenzise ubuchule babo ukuze babone ukuba mabenze ntoni na kwiimeko ezithile. Thatha inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye unike abantwana bakho ithuba lokufumanisa ukuba bafuna ntoni, bafuna ukwenza izinto, okanye bafuna ukusombulula iingxaki.