Akukho hembrism, okanye ubufazi, okanye i-machismo ... ngaphezulu kwako konke singabantu. Abantu abafuna ukufumana unyango olulinganayo, unyango olungasideleli njengabantu, intlonipho kwiindawo ezilinganayo luluntu lonke. Ngelishwa, kuninzi, Kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba singabantu abanamalungelo noxanduva kwaye ukuze ube luluntu olulungileyo, into ekufuneka uyenzile… sihloniphane.
Zininzi iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesini kwindawo esihlala kuzo abantu. Ngokwenyani kukho amagama amaninzi abangela ukubhideka kuphela kubantu abangenalo uqeqesho oluthile kwezi ndawo kwaye anokuthi anyuse nengxaki yokwahlukana kwezentlalo.
Hembrism kunye nobufazi
I-Hembrimo kunye nobufazi azifani kodwa ziyabhideka. Kukho izivakalisi ezikholelwa ukuba amagama amabini ayafana okanye athetha into enye, kodwa akukho nto inokuqhubeka inyanisile. Intsingiselo yobufazi inobunzima obuninzi kunye nembali kunye nobufazi, ngaphandle kokuba yahlukile, ligama elisetyenziswa kutshanje.
UbuSini
Xa sithetha ngobufazi sithetha ngeentshukumo zentlalo ezikhoyo ngenjongo zokwenza ukuba abantu basetyhini babonakale kwaye baxhase. Bafuna ukulingana kwamadoda nabafazi kunye namathuba endaweni yokuba abafazi babe ngaphantsi kwamadoda. Ubufazi ke yinto yentlalo enembali ende eguqulweyo kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Kwenziwe iinzame zokutshintsha umthetho, amasiko okanye imikhwa yoluntu eqhubeka ikakhulu ngeengcinga zamehlo, ngenxa yenkulungwane yamadoda olawula abantu basetyhini. Isizathu salo mmandla asinakuze siqondwe, kuba amadoda nabafazi zizinto ezibini ekufuneka zinamalungelo nezibophelelo ezifanayo kuluntu. Ukulingana nokuhloniphana kuyafunwa.
Ubufazi
Xa sithetha ngobufazi, sithetha into eyahluke ngokupheleleyo. Ibhekisa kwisimo sokudelela kunye nokuhlaselwa ngokungakhethiyo emadodeni ngenxa yokuba enjalo. Kuya kufana ne-machismo kwabasetyhini, kodwa emadodeni kule meko.
Ukuziphatha ngokuthe ngqo kwendelelo kwindoda kuyajongwa, nokuba kukuziphatha, iincoko okanye izithuko. Ubufazi bunento yokwenza nesini.
Ubufazi abunanto yakwenza nobufazi
Njengoko ubona, ubufazi kunye nobufazi akunanto yakwenza nenye into okanye enye. Ubufazi yinto eyenzeka ekuhlaleni yomzabalazo esekwe kwintlonipho yamadoda nabasetyhini, kwaye ubufazi sisimo sengqondo sokudelela amadoda ngenxa yokuba enjalo. Ewe ngokunjalo, Zombini ziyimveliso yokungalingani phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini apho abasetyhini besoloko benzakaliswa kuyo yonke imbali, kudala lo mzabalazo kwelinye icala kwaye ezi mvakalelo zenzondo nenzondo kwelinye icala.
Ubufazi yindibano elawulwa yimibutho yentlalo. Ayinakuchazwa njengeyodwa. Utshintsho ofuna ukulufikelela kwinkqubo. Kwelinye icala, njengobufazi, sisimo sengqondo somntu ngamnye, somntu othile oneemvakalelo ezithile. Umntu olwela amalungelo abafazi akunyanzelekanga ukuba abe ngumfazi. Umntu obhinqileyo uhlala ethanda ukuxhasa ubufazi, nangona banokuba neengcinga ezigqithileyo okanye ayingabo bonke ababhinqileyo ababelanayo (ngakumbi ukuba abakuxhasi ukulingana nentlonipho).
Ubufazi bufuna intlalontle yabo bonke, amandla alinganayo kubo bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini. IMachismo, kwelinye icala, ifuna umntu ukuba abe namandla kuba enjalo. Kwelinye icala, ubufazi kunye nentiyo eyivelisayo emadodeni ayifuni, kwaye bafuna ukuba abantu basetyhini babe namandla kwaye amadoda ayeke ukuba nayo. Baziva belahlwa malunga nendoda.
Uninzi lwabantu ababhinqileyo banoluvo lokuba abantu 'ababhinqileyo' banokuyenzakalisa intshukumo yabo. I-Hembrism ikhona nangona abantu abaninzi bengafuni kuyibona, Ayinakuthelekiswa nemachismo kodwa iyanceda ukuyiqonda ngcono.
IMachismo yingcinga engenasiseko yamadoda, apho bona ngokwabo bacinga ukuba bangabantu abakhulu kunabasetyhini. Bacinga ukuba umntu yindoda, eyalelayo, elawulayo. IMachismo ngumbono oquka iseti yezimo zengqondo, indlela yokuziphatha, iinkqubo zentlalo kunye neenkolelo apho abafazi kufuneka bathotyelwe kwaye bacalulwe ngokuthanda kwamadoda. Ngokwesiqhelo ngokuziphatha kokuthotywa okanye ukwehliselwa kumfazi.
Yintoni ebalekileyo ngabasetyhini kunye nabesilisa
Iingcinga ezigabadeleyo zihlala zisibekela isigwebo sabantu, kuba zithintela unxibelelwano okanye ukuqonda. Kukho izinto ezilibalekileyo zabasetyhini kunye nabesilisa kwaye yiyo loo nto, ewe kuyinyani ukuba amadoda nabasetyhini bahlukile ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umntu makabe ngaphantsi komntu okanye ngokuchaseneyo. Umahluko phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini yeyona nto isinika ubutyebi bezentlalo kunye nobuntu, okusenza sibe luhlobo olulodwa.
Bayalibala ukuba uluntu lwethu akufuneki lusekwe kumzabalazo wamandla, ukuba kungabikho macala. Awunguye umfazi okanye uyindoda, awukho kwicala lamadoda okanye kwicala labasetyhini… singabantu nje. Kufuneka siphile kwaye sihlalisane njengabantu. Inkqubo ayihlelekanga kakuhle ngenxa yokunqongophala kolwazi okanye ukungazi kwexesha elidlulileyo. Okwangoku, sinolwazi olwaneleyo kunye neenqobo zokuziphatha ukuze sikwazi ukutshintsha izinto, Ukuqonda ukuba amadoda nabasetyhini abachasi amaqela, siyancedisana kwaye siyadingana.
Uluntu olujongela phantsi abafazi luhamba kakubi. Uluntu oluthintela umntu nalo aluyi kwenza kakuhle. Imalunga nokuthatha iindima ngokukhululekileyo. Iingcinezelo azidingeki kwaye akufuneki kubekho amaxhoba. Akukho mntu unamandla ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na. Amandla onakalisa umntu.
Kubalulekile kwaye kuyimfuneko kwintlalo-ntle ukuba iqonde ukuba ukugqithisa akukaze kulunge. Umbutho unekota enye kuphela ekufuneka yamkelwe kwaye ixatyiswe: abantu. Kuya kufuneka silwele ukulungelwa komntu, kuluntu. Into enokuba lusizi kukuba usemde umgama ekufuneka uhambe ngawo ngenxa yobunzima obubonisa abaninzi, ukuvula ingqondo.