Amabinzana angama-50 nguWalter Riso ukuqonda uthando

Ukuba ukhe wayifunda incwadi kaWalter Riso, uyabazi bonke ubulumko bemvakalelo anabo ngamazwi akhe kunye nendlela akwenza ubonakalise ngayo ukuphucula ubomi bakho kuzo zonke iinkalo. Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, inokukunceda uqonde ubudlelwane bothando neengcebiso ezivela kwingcali kunyango lweCognitive.

UWalter Riso ngugqirha wezengqondo onemvelaphi yase-Itali kwaye unobuzwe baseArgentina kwaye uchwephesha kubudlelwane. Unazo ezinye iincwadi ezithandwa kakhulu ngabafundi bakhe, ezinje nge: "Incwadana yemigaqo yokungafi kothando: Imigaqo elishumi yokuphila okushukumayo", "Zithande ngokwakho: Ixabiso elibalulekileyo lokuzithemba" okanye "Uthando oluyingozi kakhulu, phakathi kwabanye."

UWalter Riso ucaphula

Ukuze uyiqonde ngcono indlela acinga ngayo kwaye avakalise izimvo zakhe, siza kukushiyela amanye amabinzana onokuthi uwathande kakhulu kangangokuba uza kuya kwivenkile yeencwadi uyokuthenga enye yeencwadi zakhe….

1. Uvuyo alukho ekufezekiseni isiQinisekiso esifanelekileyo, kodwa kwinkqubo yokuya kuyo ngaphandle kokuzithoba kwaye ngaphandle koxinzelelo.
2. Kule yure kwenye indawo emhlabeni, kukho umntu onokonwaba ukuba nawe.
3. Cinga ukuba kwindawo ekude yoMhlaba, kukho umntu ongathanda ukuba secaleni kwakho.
4. Ukuba awutshisi into okanye umntu othile, ukuba akukho nto ishukumisa umphefumlo wakho, ukuba umdla awufikeleli kuwe; uyaphazama, kukho into ekunqandayo. Uhlala isiqingatha.
5. Makube buhlungu kuwe, khala konke okusemandleni akho, kodwa ungavumeli ukuba usizi luhlale ixesha elide kunokuba luyimfuneko.
6. Ukuba nethemba elingeyonyani kunokuba nzima njengokuphelelwa lithemba okungapheliyo.
7. Ukwenza iimpazamo yindlela esiguquka ngayo. Ukuba akunjalo, siyabambeka.
8. Akufanele ubone ukuba ngubani omthandayo ngamehlo ahlukeneyo. Yeka ukumlungelelanisa, unokuba neempawu ezintle, kodwa kunye neziphene.
9. Ukuthanda akufani novuyo oluqhubekayo. Xa uthandana, kuya kufuneka uxabise okuhle nokubi kwaloo mntu, kubanda, ngaphandle kweanesthesia.
10. Yomelela unganikezeli kwiintlungu zothando.
11. Funda ukuhlala wedwa kwaye ungabeki uthando ngaphezu kwamaphupha akho kunye neemfuno.
12. Uthando lokwenene luyafumaneka xa likuvumela ukuba ube ungoyiki ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuphela, ukuba uya kwenzakala.
13. Ukuba awukwazi ukundithanda ngokufanelekileyo, ndingathanda ukuba uhambe, ndizakufumana umntu ondonwabelayo.
14. Ukwahlukana kunceda ukufunda ubuso obubi kakhulu bothando.
15. Olona xhatshazo lubuhlungu lolona lungonzakalisiyo emzimbeni, oluthi endaweni yemivimbo lushiye iinkumbulo.
16. Musa ukuchitha eminye imizuzwana yobomi bakho nomntu oza kuwe ngenxa yomdla omsulwa, ongakuthandi ngokwenene, ongathathi ubudlelwane ngolona hlobo, ngubani onamaxesha amabi, kodwa hayi ngamaxesha amnandi, okanye okhulula xa thetha.
17. Uya kwazi ukuba bayakuthanda ngokwenyani xa unokuzibonakalisa unjalo ngaphandle koloyiko lokwenzakaliswa.
18. Ukunika amandla umntu okanye into ukuze ikulawule kwaye ithathe ingqondo yakho yindlela efihlakeleyo yokuzibulala ngokwasengqondweni.
19. Mamela abantu abacinga ngokwahlukileyo kuwe.
20. Ukomelela asikokungabikho kothando, kodwa yindlela esempilweni yokunxibelelana, indawo yayo ikukuzimela: ukungabinakho ukuba ngumnini kwaye ungabi likhoboka.
21. Utshintsho oluncinci lokuzithemba kuya kukhokelela kutshintsho olukhulu kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.
22. Kuthe cwaka ukuba sinxibelelane nabo sikuko ngokwenene.
23. Uthando luneentshaba ezimbini eziphambili: ukungakhathali okukubulala kancinci, kunye nokudana okuphelisa kanye.
24. Ukuzimela ngokwasemphefumlweni ayikuyeki ukuthanda, kodwa kukuzilawula.
25. Ndikufumanisa kungenabulungisa kunye nokuthuka ukuba, ukuze ndiqonde ukubaluleka kwam, kuya kufuneka ndilahlekelwe ndim.
26. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubone yonke into emnyama okanye emhlophe, amagama akukho nto nayo yonke into, ungaze kwaye ungasoloko ukhokelela kumhlaba ophakathi.
27. Ixesha lokuqala uya kuyibiza ngempazamo, kulungile, kodwa okwesibini sisigqibo.
28. Usizi yimvakalelo onelungelo lokuyifumana. Ukuba lusizi amaxesha ngamaxesha kuya kukuvumela ukuba ucinge, ucinge ngezinto onokukhetha kuzo, wenze izigqibo, ucingisise ngeminqweno yakho, kwaye uphinde ubuye namandla akho. Ewe kunjalo, kufanele ukuba ibe yindawo yokudlula.
29. Xa uthando lunkqonkqoza emnyango, luya kungena ngokungxama: ngekhe ukwazi ukushiya ububi uze ufumane okulungileyo kuphela. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uthando lulingana nolonwabo, ukwindlela engalunganga.
30. Ingqondo yinkawu engazinzanga, etsiba esuka kwisebe eliya kwelinye isebe ekhangela iziqhamo kulo lonke ihlathi elingenasiphelo leziganeko ezifanelekileyo.
31. Umntu endimthandayo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bam, kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela.
32. Ukuhlala ulila ekukhubekeni kokuqala kwaye ufuna ukuba ubomi bube nomvuzo kwiiyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine ngokuqinisekileyo bubuntwana.
33. Musa ukundiphambanisa, ndiyakuthanda. Andikudingi, kodwa ndikhetha wena.
34. Nokuba uthanda kangakanani, okubalulekileyo yindlela ayibonisa ngayo.
35. Ukuba awukwazi ukuziva uthando, uyiphathe nge-caresses, ayikho.
36. Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile ngothando olungenakwenzeka kukuyithatha.
37. Misa umendo wakho, ukhethe amanyathelo akho, ube nguwe, misela ikamva lakho kwaye ungavumeli ithuba lokubeka imeko yakho.
38. Ukuthintela akusoloko bubugwala, ngamanye amaxesha bubulumko kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bubukrelekrele.
39. Ukubona umhlaba omnyama nomhlophe kusisusa kumodareyitha kunye noxolo lwangaphakathi kuba ubomi, apho ujonge khona, benziwe ziimpawu.
40. Isibindi akunguye ongaziva esoyika, kodwa ngulowo ujongene naso ngesidima, nokuba amadolo nengqondo ziyashukuma.
41. Inoveli ivelisa iimvakalelo ezimbini ezingqubanayo: uloyiko kunye nomdla. Ngelixa uloyiko lwezinto ezingaziwayo njenge-brake, umdla wokwenza izinto njengenkuthazo (ngamanye amaxesha ayinakunqandeka) esikhokelela ekubeni sihlolisise umhlaba kwaye sizibuze.
42. Awunakuhamba ebomini ucela imvume yokuhlala okanye ukuziva.
43. Ingqondo yelitye ayizivumeli ukuba ingathandabuzi kwaye ikucekise ukugxeka. Iziseko zayo azitshintshi kwaye ayinakuphikiswa.
44. Umntu othandana naye uyafana nesihlomelo, kuba kufuneka sikhutshwe ezingcanjini zaso ukuze singayichaphazeli impilo yakho kwaye uphile ngoxolo.
45. Ukuba uyazixabisa, uya kubaxabisa nabanye kwaye uya kuba ngabantu abangcono.
46. Isitshixo sobudlelwane sesomntu ozimeleyo.
47. Ndiyathandana nawe kuba ndigqibe kanjalo. Kudala ndifuna ukuba nawe kwaye ndiyakonwabela, kodwa awubalulekanga kwimpilo-ntle yam.
48. Akukho qabane elingathathi mngcipheko wozinzo lweemvakalelo.
49. Ukuba awuphindezelwa luthando, yamkele, sukuqhubeka kwaye ulondoloze isidima sakho, kuba amanxeba azakubangela ukuba kunzima ukuphilisa.
50. Ulunge ungatshatanga kunokuba utyhefu.