El isithukuthezi Ibingumbandela ophikisanayo kwincoko iminyaka emininzi, apho izithandi zobulumko, izazinzulu ezibalulekileyo kunye nabantu abadumileyo besimilo esikhulu bathathe inxaxheba, bezama ukuqonda indlela yokulwa nayo ukuze babe nobomi obunemveliso nobungadinisiyo.
Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukukruquka kunento yokwenza nendawo ebangqongileyo, ekubeni iphosakele ngokupheleleyo kuba isekelwe kukucaphuka okubangelwa zizenzo zesiqhelo, umntu anokuziphindaphinda ukuya kwinqanaba elithile elimkhathazayo. Le "meko yengqondo" inokuba namandla kangangokuba abanye abantu banokuphelela kwezona ndawo zidumileyo, ezintle kakhulu, okanye ezothusayo kwaye basaziva ukuba le mvakalelo iqukuqela.
Eyona ndlela iphambili yokulwa nayo kunye Yazi ukuba wenzeni xa kukho isithukuthezi, Kukwazi ukuthanda kwakho, ukuze ukwazi ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi na imisebenzi oyithandayo, kuba lo ngowona mthombo wobomi kunye nolonwabo. Ngokwenyani, abantu ngabo abenza isithukuthezi, kunye nezimo zabo zengqondo, nokuba kunjani na ukuzithemba okubangqongileyo, le mvakalelo inokuba namandla kangangokuba kuphela kungokwakho ukuthanda kwakho ukuba kungoyiswa kwaye kulisebenzise ixesha yenza imisebenzi evelisa ulwazi kunye nempilo.
Yintoni isithukuthezi?
Isithukuthezi sichazwa njengesimo seemvakalelo esisebenzayo apho umntu anoluvo lokuba umhlaba uyamcaphukisa kwaye uyamcaphukisa, kuba uziva ngathi ubomi bakhe yinto yesiqhelo, ngenxa yoko akafumani mqondo wokuqhubeka nokuphila okanye ukwenza imisebenzi emitsha.
Oku kwenzeka emva kokuba umntu engayifumani intsingiselo yezinto, okanye engayifumani imisebenzi abanomdla wokuziqhelanisa nayo, nto leyo ebangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo njengokukhathazeka kunye nokucaphuka kwabanye abantu.
Iziphumo zokukruquka
Oku kunokubangela abantu abaphethwe ziimeko ezibeka impilo yabo ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasentlalweni nangokwengqondo, kuba ukuzonwabisa kubangela imikhwa emibi, njengokusebenzisa iziyobisi ngokugqithisileyo, utywala, icuba, isimilo esihlasela abanye abantu, isimilo esibi, ukungabikho umdla kubomi, ukuzibonisa, ukuzibulala, ukungaziphathi kakuhle okanye ukungabikho mthethweni, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Ngesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuhlasela isithukuthezi, hayi kuphela ngokuzonwabisa kunye nemisebenzi enomdla, kodwa nokufunda indlela yokuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngalo naluphina uhlobo lweemeko, njengaleyo ithi ihamba ngolu hlobo "kwimozulu embi, ubuso obuhle".
Ndiyabulela kweli lizwe, iingxaki zentlalo ezinje ngolwaphulo-mthetho, iziyobisi, ukungabikho kwemfundo, intswela-ngqesho, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ziye zanda kakhulu, kuba abantu baphulukana nemvo yomdla nokubaluleka kwabo kwizinto abazenzayo, ngenxa yenyani elula yokungazi ulawula njani usuku lwakho ukuya kumhla wokukunika ingqiqo elungileyo
Yazi ukuba wenzeni xa udikiwe
Abantu abaninzi abazi ukuba mabenze ntoni xa isithukuthezi sihlasela, ngenxa yoko baphela besenza izinto ezingenzi nto ezizisa iziphumo ezibi njengoko kubonwe kwinxalenye ephezulu, ngenxa yesi sizathu ezinye iingcebiso ziya kuboniswa ukunqanda olu hlobo lweemeko.
Fumana into oyithandayo
Kungabonakala kunzima, kuba abanye abantu bayoyika ukuvuma okanye babonise ezona talente zabo zibalaseleyo, ke ngoko bazibeka ecaleni, bazilibale bazilahle, nto leyo ebulala ngokupheleleyo, kwaye yeyona nto iphambili ekukruqukeni ukungena ebomini. .
Ukufumana umsebenzi ogcwalisa umoya ngobomi yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza ngokuchasene nokukruquka, kuba ngokwenza into ekuvuyisayo, ngekhe uphinde uzive kule meko.
Eyona ndlela yokufumana lo msebenzi kukuzama izinto ezintsha, ezitsala umdla, kuba leyo yeyona mfihlelo yempumelelo yabalinganiswa abaphambili bexesha, bajolise kwezona ngcinga zabo kwaye bakwazi ukwenza amaphupha abo abe yeyona asethi yabo ilungileyo.
Yenza umthambo
Kukho abantu abakholelwa ukuba ukuzilolonga yeyona nto inokubakho, kwaye ukucinga nje ngabo kuvelisa isithukuthezi kunye nokudinwa kwengqondo, kodwa oku kungenxa yokuba abawufumenanga umsebenzi owenziwe ngokomzimba kubo, kuba wonke umntu unemidlalo unomdla malunga.
Kukho izinto ezenziwayo zomzimba ezingadingi mzamo mkhulu womzimba, kodwa engqondweni, njengetshesi, ekwajongwa njengomdlalo, kuba isebenzisa ingqondo.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba okwenziwe ngeyure enye ngosuku akunakuthethelelwa, kuba kukho ixesha elininzi xa ufuna, nangona uninzi lukhetha ukwenza izizathu eziliwaka zokungazenzi ezi zinto.
Zibekele iinjongo
Le yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuthintela ukukruquka kwemihla ngemihla, enkosi kwinto yokuba isindululo esineenjongo zakho senza ukuba ingqondo icele umngeni kuyo, ifumane umdla omkhulu kwimisebenzi ebekekileyo.
Ukucinga ngowona msebenzi ungathandekiyo njengokwenza ukhuko emva kokuvuka ntsasa nganye, kodwa ukuyibona njengengxaki yemihla ngemihla, iba yinto enomdla ngokupheleleyo, ngakumbi nangakumbi ukuba injongo iyaphunyezwa kwaye ucinga ngokuvuyisana nesipho.
Yenza izinto ozithandayo
Ukuba kukho ixesha elishiyekileyo emini, kucetyiswa kakhulu ukuseka imisebenzi enika ubuhle njengokudlala isixhobo, ukufunda, ukubukela imovie, ukufunda ezinye iilwimi, ukwenza imifanekiso eqingqiweyo okanye imizobo, ukufunda izinto ezintsha njengokulungisa izixhobo zombane, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Ukuxakeka kwakho emini, kokukhona umntu uya kuba nethuba lokuziva ekruqukile, kuba esona sizathu siphambili sokuba le meko yenzeke kungenxa yokungabikho kwemisebenzi ngemini.
Bhalisa kwiikhosi
Njengezinto zokuzonwabisa, iikhosi zinokuba nemveliso kakhulu kubomi bomntu, kwaye banokufunda izinto abangazange bacinge ukuzenza ngaphambili, ezinje ngobugcisa bokupheka, ukudlala izixhobo, ukucula, ukudanisa, ukuchwela phakathi kwamawaka ezinye izifundo onokuthi thatha inxaxheba.
Ezi zifundo ziluncedo kakhulu, kuba zinokuba nobunzima kwikharityhulam, zinike amathuba emisebenzi amakhulu ebekade engafikeleleki ngaphambili.
Yonwaba nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni
Uninzi lwabo bathwaxwa kukudikwa okungaqhelekanga nakwezona ndawo zihlekisayo kule planethi, kungenxa yokuba boyika izinto ezinokucingwa ngabanye abantu ngabo, ukuzithemba ngezenzo zabo, kunye nokuthintela imisebenzi ngenxa yokoyika ukwaliwa.
Esona sicwangciso-qhinga sinokuthathwa kwezi meko kukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba bonke abantu bayafana, ke ngoko ukucinga kwabanye ngokubhekisele kwindlela yokuba kufuneka yoyikwe, kananjalo kufuneka kucace ukuba yeyiphi imisebenzi leyo ndinomdla wokuba ndingabi nazintloni ngokuzenza.
Kuphephe monotony
Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuyiphepha ngokupheleleyo kuba lo ngowona mthombo uphakamileyo wesithukuthezi, kodwa ngenxa yoku kufuneka uzenzekele, ucwangcise imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ubuncinci rhoqo ngeempelaveki ezizayo.
Phakathi kwezindululo kukuya kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya ngalo lonke ixesha kukho inkulumbuso entsha, yiya kwiindawo zentselo, kwiidisco, kwimidlalo yokubhowula, yabelana nabahlobo, yiya elwandle okanye kumachibi okudada, uye ezivenkileni, undwendwele izihlobo, hamba phakathi kwezinye .
Kwiingcinga ze-psychoanalytic, isithukuthezi sichazwa njengeyona nto ifunekayo, okanye into engakhange ifezekiswe, eyenzelwe ukulangazelela ngokungabinayo, eli lizwe libangela iimvakalelo ezinzulu zosizi kwaye zichasene ngokupheleleyo nokuzazi.
Esi sesona sizathu siphambili semikhwa emibi kunye nokonakaliswa kolutsha, ngenxa yesi sizathu kuya kufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo le nto uyifunda apha, kwaye uyenze le misebenzi mihle, kunye nezimo zengqondo zokufumana impumelelo kunye nempumelelo ebomini.